The wife fell in love with another
Guys, how to be, faded relationship at 13 years, my wife fell in love with another, I devalued, turned off of me completely and the child in half, the body with me and the soul with him, his eyes were black, has it happened to anyone? We live together, we sleep in separate rooms, she has nowhere to go (tried to live with my mother, she asked to go back), and I once kicked her out and realized that I feel worse without them, I kind of said that I do not care about her new relationship, let’s live for the baby, I love him very much, it was painful to be apart, in short … everything is so confused that can not unravel. . she openly meets, talks on the phone with me, she runs to him, tells me to look for a new one, I do not love you, he seems to be cold to offer her anything, all in problems, no home, I do not want to let the child (7 years) in problems, a fool to say that you tolerate it? Women’s opinions are interesting, how do women see it? #marriage
Asked for it? Is she a dog? Whose lodging? Dowry? Food? Communal? Fat divorce. I don’t believe she fell in love with a 7 year old baby in her arms, but I believe you’re an alcoholic/lazy/etc.
So you’re a cuckold. It’s trendy now, by the way, it’s hype. Offer your wife a threesome or just watch her get laid.
I’ve got nothing to add! Although, no, I might add, the reason for the author’s co-cultism is simple: he’s an omega male. He knows he’s a total pussy, so he’s grabbing for a pr***twit who’s already fucking someone else. And a normal man would have long ago abandoned the slut and began to take young girls to the house (they are more accessible than it seems – just noodle on the ears and all)
So live in one apartment, have a relationship on the side. they do not need to advertise, and tell her to silently love him if she has nowhere to go
What woman’s opinion? Come on. You’re gonna get so much advice.
No way! Are there really such patient men?
Cuckolds have flooded the planet…)
I’ve got nothing to add! Although, no, I might add, the reason for the author’s co-cultism is simple: he’s an omega male. He knows he’s a total pussy, so he’s grabbing for a pr***twit who’s already fucking someone else. And a normal man would have long ago abandoned the slut and began to take young girls to the house (they are more accessible than it seems – just noodle on the ears and all)
There is such a thing as male pride. There’s no such thing. My father says of such men: pi_storodatelnogo. He used to call me that, too, for the time being. )))
Cuckolds have flooded the planet…)
It’s good when the stag is calm, like this one. They understand that the female is busy right now, and they wait a while. And then there are the fighting stags. That’s the thrill. They’ve slashed tires, they’ve thrown rebar.
The look of a married woman: * if the apartment is jointly acquired, divorce, divide, keep the child with you * if the apartment is yours, the wife must leave it In any case, to arrange this in front of the child – this is f. tsz! Let him choose: the family or that character. No matter how painful, difficult, etc., think about the child and YOUR image in the eyes of the child.
Your wife still told you to “find someone else” she told you. So do it.
“You’re the bottom” is what your wife thinks of you. Even for the baby, you should not suffer, find a new one, the old one will want to go back, but you do not want her. In general, men are wimps, in thought to maintain relations with a promiscuous woman, this is what low self-esteem should be.
My wife fell in love with another, what to do?
My wife loves another man.
Loved one married another
Wife is looking for another
Married someone else
Only to divorce. She said to your face that she does not love you. Women are silent about such things until the last moment when there is some hope. And then you said you didn’t love her, and there is someone else. You can’t go back from such a thing.
So live in one apartment, have a relationship on the side. they do not need to advertise, and tell her to silently love him if she has nowhere to go
Why take him aside? Let him take someone else home with him, his wife does not care.)
There is such a thing as male pride. There’s no such thing. My father says of such men: pi_storodatelnogo. He used to call me that, too, for the time being. )))
And then did you change your orientation? Or was your basic instinct not your basic instinct?
You don’t love her either, you just haven’t realized it yet. And even if she does fall out of love and comes back to you, nothing good will come of it. Don’t fuck with your psyche. Divorce, separation, who to leave the child – you decide, if the mother – you will meet as long as you want, and then, you see, she herself and the child will give you. The pain will pass. And one day happiness will knock on your door.
Why take him aside? Let him take someone else home with him, his wife does not care.)
I was always of the opinion that if you go for a walk, don’t take him in the house, why would a strange male or female come to your lair?
I have the same thing. We have kids, too. And my wife a couple of years ago, she “fell in love. She goes away and comes back – there is nowhere to go either, she hangs around and comes back.
I live with the kids – she shows up once every couple of weeks. The kids are always fed at my place, laundered, house clean, homework done, etc. So that they are comfortable and it’s not a stressful situation for them. Where their mom asks, the answer is “I don’t know.”
For a couple of years I waited and hoped that things would get better. That this “crush” would go away. Loved and cared for her as before. Then I stopped having a warm relationship with my wife. Comes home, goes out, I don’t care. I’m not going to get a divorce because of the kids. The youngest is very young.
I think that in this situation the father should be an island of stability for the family and represent the interests of the children.
And then did you change your orientation? Or was your basic instinct not your basic instinct?
You *** women only have one thing on your mind. Then I started taking it easier.
I have the same thing. We have kids, too. And my wife a couple of years ago, she “fell in love. She goes away and comes back – there is nowhere to go either, she hangs around and comes back.
I live with the kids – she shows up once every couple of weeks. The kids are always fed at my place, laundered, house clean, homework done, etc. So that they are comfortable and it’s not a stressful situation for them. Where their mom asks, the answer is “I don’t know.”
For a couple of years I waited and hoped that things would get better. That this “crush” would go away. Loved and cared for her as before. Then I stopped having a warm relationship with my wife. Comes home, goes out, I don’t care. I’m not going to get a divorce because of the kids. The youngest is very young.
I think that in this situation the father should be an island of stability for the family and represent the interests of the children.
A father who is a cuckold is not a father. Ew mr_azota.
Author divorce, at least be zdelay it is documented., Then live peacefully. That it there sperm fueling, it should not bother you. If you do not want to raise someone else’s child from a lover, then divorce as soon as possible
Asked for it? Is she a dog? Whose lodging? Dowry? Food? Communal? Fat divorce. I don’t believe she fell in love with a 7 year old baby in her arms, but I believe you’re an alcoholic/lazy/etc.
That she fell in love is quite possible, but the fact that at the first signs of adultery it did not end in a scandal and divorce, it’s strange.
Although on the other hand, everything is clear. If it’s not the husband at home, not the man, but the snot, it’s not weird. It seems to me that a man who would not immediately kick her out on the street (to her mother’s neck), the wife would not leave. It’s not about the circumstances, it’s about the husband.
I have the same thing. We have kids, too. And my wife a couple of years ago, she “fell in love. She goes away and comes back – there is nowhere to go either, she hangs around and comes back.
I live with the kids – she shows up once every couple of weeks. The kids are always fed at my place, laundered, house clean, homework done, etc. So that they are comfortable and it’s not a stressful situation for them. Where their mom asks, the answer is “I don’t know.”
For a couple of years I waited and hoped that things would get better. That this “crush” would go away. Loved and cared for her as before. Then I stopped having a warm relationship with my wife. Comes home, goes out, I don’t care. I’m not going to get a divorce because of the kids. The youngest is very young.
I think that in this situation the father should be an island of stability for the family and represent the interests of the children.
One more, that’s fucking great. “An island of stability.”
After the first “call” about the lover: changed the locks in the house, put out the clothes and goodbye, my love. You’ll see your children after a divorce and a court order. And if you live with your wife as a “prima donna,” you pack up your stuff, take off, file for divorce, and then it’s up to the situation.
And that’s just crap. If you don’t respect yourself, how can your wife respect you, let alone love you? It’s disgusting.
Why are they fading? What does he give her that you can’t give her?
Or maybe the problem is that you don’t have a hard-on.
Why are they fading? What does he give her that you can’t give her?
I wonder that too. What does he give her? That I don’t believe the author’s story. If a woman with children? She’s a bogeywoman and she walks around in rags. What lover?
I have the same thing. We have kids, too. And my wife a couple of years ago, she “fell in love. She goes away and comes back – there is nowhere to go either, she hangs around and comes back.
I live with the kids – she shows up once every couple of weeks. The kids are always fed at my place, laundered, house clean, homework done, etc. So that they are comfortable and it’s not a stressful situation for them. Where their mom asks, the answer is “I don’t know.”
For a couple of years I waited and hoped that things would get better. That this “crush” would go away. Loved and cared for her as before. Then I stopped having a warm relationship with my wife. Comes home, goes out, I don’t care. I’m not going to get a divorce because of the kids. The youngest is very young.
I think that in this situation the father should be an island of stability for the family and represent the interests of the children.
It’s not the kids’ fault, let them just be happy, maybe they won’t find out anything later.
The daily torture of homework.
Is there a boomerang?
How do philanderers end up?
Divorce, filing for alimony, getting your kids registered.
How do you get married so you can be a housewife and not work?
One more, that’s fucking great. “An island of stability.”
After the first “call” about the lover: changed the locks in the house, put out the clothes and goodbye, my love. You’ll see your children after a divorce and a court order. And if you live with your wife as a “prima donna,” you pack up your stuff, take off, file for divorce, and then it’s up to the situation.
And that’s just crap. If you don’t respect yourself, how can your wife respect you, let alone love you? It’s disgusting.
There was no need to change the locks and put her out. She wanted to leave on her own – she begged and cried – I wouldn’t let her go. Children have the right to grow up with their father and mother in a full family. The parents’ desires are secondary. She wants to fall in love – yes please – but she must spend time on her family, children, and home – this is paramount.
There was no need to change the locks and put her out. She wanted to leave on her own – she begged and cried – I wouldn’t let her go. Children have the right to grow up with their father and mother in a full family. The parents’ desires are secondary. She wants to fall in love – yes please – but she must spend time on her family, children, and home – this is paramount.
This is still not normal, even for the sake of the children. I’ve been approached by such women more than once, I always turned them down, I don’t respect myself that much, so I divorced them and fuck off. And for the sake of the kids, the family won’t last long anyway.
Eh, marriage is *** and boring. Living your whole life with one person. Okay, he grows and develops with you, changes. But if the parter is primitive and you’re bored with him. What should the author do? New love is the way out in a gray life. Don’t do anything. Life will work itself out.
Eh, marriage is *** and boring. Living your whole life with one person. Okay, he grows and develops with you, changes. But if the parter is primitive and you’re bored with him. What should the author do? New love is the way out in a gray life. Don’t do anything. Life will work itself out.
Well, what do you mean by growth, mythical spiritual? Most often women are growing much slower in their careers and businesses rather than men, and that now a little growth and the hell with the family, wife and children?
This is still not normal, even for the sake of the children. I’ve been approached by such women more than once, I always turned them down, I don’t respect myself that much, so I divorced them and fuck off. And for the sake of the kids, the family won’t last long anyway.
And a family doesn’t last long for kids anyway.
I know that. I’m stalling for time. Got a few kids and the youngest’s just a baby. He’s been in the situation for two years now.
And a family doesn’t last long for kids anyway.
I know that. I’m stalling for time. Got a few kids and the youngest’s just a baby. He’s been in the situation for two years now.
All the same no one will appreciate it, not even the kids. You have only one life, find a new wife, and raise your children with her. The fact that you are playing parents does not make the atmosphere healthy.
All the same no one will appreciate it, not even the kids. You have only one life, find a new wife, and raise your children with her. The fact that you are playing parents does not make the atmosphere healthy.
Yeah, you should find another wife, so the kids don’t grow up to be victims who don’t respect themselves.
I am the author of the topic, you know, I am slowly becoming disgusted to see this person around, she does not care about my feelings, about my humiliation, about what I do for her and my son through pain, just sh*t.
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What sense of loss was stirring you?
Great perspective, wise! I’m always on the side of men who are struggling for family happiness. This situation was unfolding before my eyes, the child was growing up and reaching out more and more to daddy. Daddy is strong and very family-oriented, will protect both child and wife from everything. The child is very nice, and is developing very well. How it will end – I do not know, the goal is to give the right upbringing in all circumstances, to be strong in body and spirit, and that parents equally loved and respected others.
People say they do not leave? That is a lie, because women sometimes seek intrigue (they get mad because they are bored), they have everything, they want new sensations, and they find problems for the whole family. Science says that some women’s biochemical processes (hormones + emotions) undermine their psyche. (it has a similar effect, as from drugs). In such a state of defect, they become like zombies or emotional landmines, and whatever you do, it will blow up. Especially if she grew up in a dysfunctional family. Think about it, would you pull an addict out of a cesspool? If it is the person you love, probably yes! The chance of success is miserable, about the same as a cure for drug addiction, but any chance of success is only for those who do not give up!
How to return to the family wife if she fell in love with another?
From partner infidelity suffer not only women. Very often men and ask the question, how to get his wife, if she fell in love with another. And the stronger half of humanity is surprisingly vulnerable when experiencing the loss of his beloved.
The more a woman we love
Psychology believes that attachment is at the heart of any relationship. Its presence indicates that a person is in a comfort zone. This state is characterized by the fact that there is no real dissatisfaction with one’s life. Something may seem to be a problem, hurt, offend, and wound, but the person in the comfort zone is not going to change anything.
In terms of relationships, this manifests itself in figuring out who is right and who is wrong. Then the loved one is “forgiven” for his or her fault. This is the moment when the fear of leaving your comfort zone overrides common sense.
The question of what to do if the wife loves another, how to keep the family, already contains part of the answer. Not feeling affection for the man, the woman chose a relationship on the side. But the abandoned spouse has not lost his love for her, trying to return the destroyed comfort zone. Hence the desire to return to his wife, to restore the relationship that suited the spouse, but could not be accepted by his partner.
A closer look at the problem reveals that the strong man merely became dependent on the benefits he had in the relationship. And chief among these is conformity to society’s accepted image of a man. The realization that he was preferred to another, hits the ego the stronger the greater the degree of attachment.
Is it worth it to return his wife to the family?
Another question, which are trying to solve the abandoned spouse of men: what to do if your wife left for another, how to get her back? And hardly anyone is trying to think whether it is worth it.
Every man has some needs. The spouse hoping to keep the family together if his wife has fallen in love with someone else is very keen to keep his status as a “real man,” head of the house, father, master. He does not see his wife as someone who is entitled to have the exact opposite desires.
Even if he resorts to force or manipulation in an attempt to bring his wife back into the family, it is unlikely to bring joy. Dependent on society’s opinion, resentful of a lady who dared to disregard his feelings and prefer another, the self-pitying man is not able to maintain the illusion of well-being for long. If the relationship has ceased, it is not worth trying to resuscitate the marriage.
But it also happens that adultery was a casual infatuation caused by the external gloss of the new man. If the cheating partner goes back to her former spouse, she probably feels a stronger attachment to him. But how do you regain your husband’s trust after cheating on your wife?
We have all fallen in love and made mistakes. Momentary infatuation of the partner should not cause negative emotions in the spouse, if in the end they are together again. If the wife fell in love with another, but so far is limited to flirting, the spouse should think about what this is the signal of a dysfunctional relationship.
Until there was a complete breakdown of the family, and his wife did not go to the lover, a really strong man should try to find the reasons that make his partner seek thrills not with him. And this is likely to be not promiscuity women, but her dissatisfaction with the relationship with her husband, whether it be sex or lack of money for new shoes. Women of the weaker sex are just as important as a woman who was able to create a family, to be loved and cared for by her husband.
But if the irreparable has already happened, the wife has left for another, then how to get her back will be a completely futile question. At first, any attempt to charm her again, to return her forcibly, manipulating her with guilt or pity, simply will not be able to be perceived adequately. After all, if a person has become indifferent for some reason, her feelings become unimportant.
Who is to blame and what to do?
Some men may start blaming themselves for their wife leaving them. This will be as wrong as admitting her guilt. There is no right and wrong in this situation: things happened the way they did.
If 2 people begin to depend on each other, that is, expect something specific from their partner, then sooner or later someone risks not living up to expectations. In this case, the spouses begin to experience mutual resentment:
- She – because her husband has not lived up to her expectations, i.e., not upholding her status as a wife;
- He – because she preferred the other and thus lowered his opinion of himself as a spouse.
But it’s worth considering, do men really lose their value when cheating wives leave them?
A considered answer to this question will also help you to understand another: how to survive infidelity and whether it is necessary to return love by force? Some may object and say that the relationship must be fought for. But if this relationship is tied up in a simple habit and dependence on the opinion of acquaintances, on what the person got in the marriage, then it is unlikely to be necessary.
For those who are thinking in advance about what to do if the wife who cheated suddenly returns, the restoration of the relationship seems a welcome victory. In this case, the woman will suffer: in fact, a rare spouse really until the end to forgive her. And the question of how to get his wife back after cheating, takes on a slightly different tone.
Looking at the problem from the spouse, who wants revenge on the woman who left for a new favorite, we want to ask: What will he do if she returns? After all, their future relationship could turn into a constant blaming of the spouse. Feelings of guilt can never even form a new attachment, and such a family will break up at every opportunity.
When things have already happened, and the wife demands a divorce and is about to leave, it is best to focus on the main thing and try to figure out how to survive the most acute pain of the loss. You can go far away, but you can’t escape your thoughts. There is a simple way that everyone uses: to meet with his wife, who dared to fall in love with another, and tell her everything in an acceptable form for a particular person. Sometimes this is not limited to one time.
But a strong man is strong because he does not depend on people and circumstances. And even pain caused by someone should not cause the desire to make the offender experience suffering in return. Especially since the abandoned spouse, as a rule, declares his love.
Emotions should be given an outlet. But there is no need to involve other people. Strangely enough, even men are helping quite women’s advice: let loose and cry, break a glass against the wall. And when you’re completely devastated, meet your departed partner, that is, your ex-wife, and try to really say goodbye.
And if at this point you still have thoughts of how to get your wife back from your lover, it means that the addiction to her is still there. Finding the roots of the addiction, its true causes, is a very difficult work associated with the ability to look into the eyes of his fear. But only by seeing his fear will a man be able to understand that his addiction to a woman is based on his own fantasy. And only then will the resentment truly go away, and life will go on.
