Why does the husband treat his wife badly?

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What to do if a man treats a woman badly, is rude, bullied and constantly offends. Even raises his hand, sometimes turns into a tyrant. Do you think being raised by his parents as a child affects all of this?

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What difference does it make? What’s there to think about? The main thing is that he won’t change.

Go away, change your phone number, address and full name)) Of course it affects everything in the family!

What to do if a man treats a woman badly, is rude, bullied and constantly offends. Even raises his hand, sometimes turns into a tyrant. Do you think being raised by his parents as a child affects all of this?

Oh, so what if he hurts, you have nothing else to complain about or what.

Hits – it means he loves.

What’s the difference? This is not a forum for psychologists. This is about worldly things. And worldly only one thing in this case – who gives a fuck about him, what he was with his parents, ass in a horn and jumping from such.

I have a husband like that (only he didn’t beat me, he didn’t physically hurt me in any way. at least not yet). For 2 weeks a great guy, everything is good, loves, cares. But every 2-3 weeks steadily, clings to some nonsense and starts a scandal. I mean, I am silent for a long time, trying not to react, and he yells. He can swear in foul language, can talk nasty things about what I am a terrible, worthless person, can begin to “divorce”. The last time it was because he was resting while I was washing the dishes in the kitchen. Started yelling that I was purposely acting out how much I was doing around the house in order to rebuke him – not overtly – for sitting around doing nothing.

Marasmus? There are no words! And we have a 3 year old child. He and my son, they love each other. Financially and even morally I do not depend on him in any way. But I would consider myself selfish if I deprived my child of daily contact with his father. I pay regularly. Yesterday he yelled at me so much, I cried so much that my eyes swelled up in the morning. I feel sorry for myself, honestly. If you do not keep a child together – go away, feel sorry for your life. You have only one life. I, for one, do not see any future for myself personally. Even if we do get divorced someday, I will not let anyone else into my life. This one was good, too, while we were dating. When we started living together, there were “bells and whistles”, but I thought that no one was perfect, I loved him very much. And as soon as we got married, it was almost immediately “started. All the feelings to himself loved, except for the fear. I’m afraid to say a word – you never know what he will snap and provoke a scandal.

I didn’t “love” feelings, I “killed” them. It was a typo.

I have a husband like that (only he didn’t beat me, he didn’t physically hurt me in any way. at least not yet). For 2 weeks a great guy, everything is good, loves, cares. But every 2-3 weeks steadily, clings to some nonsense and starts a scandal. I mean, I am silent for a long time, trying not to react, and he yells. He can swear in foul language, can talk nasty things about what I am a terrible, worthless person, can begin to “divorce”. The last time it was because he was resting while I was washing the dishes in the kitchen. Started yelling that I was purposely acting out how much I was doing around the house in order to rebuke him – not overtly – for sitting around doing nothing.

Marasmus? There are no words! And we have a 3 year old child. He and my son, they love each other. Financially and even morally I do not depend on him in any way. But I would consider myself selfish if I deprived my child of daily contact with his father. I pay regularly. Yesterday he yelled at me so much, I cried so much that my eyes swelled up in the morning. I feel sorry for myself, honestly. If you do not keep a child together – go away, feel sorry for your life. You have only one life. I, for one, do not see any future for myself personally. Even if we do get divorced someday, I will not let anyone else into my life. This one was good, too, while we were dating. When we started living together, there were “bells and whistles”, but I thought that no one was perfect, I loved him very much. And as soon as we got married, it was almost immediately “started. All the feelings to himself loved, except for the fear. I’m afraid to say a word – you never know what he will snap and provoke a scandal.

Why don’t you let anyone else into your life?

GuestMy husband is like that (just not hitting, not physically hurting in any way. yet, at least). For 2 weeks a great guy, all is well, loves, cares. But every 2-3 weeks steadily, clings to some nonsense and starts a scandal. I mean, I am silent for a long time, trying not to react, and he yells. He can swear in foul language, can talk nasty things about what I am a terrible, worthless person, can begin to “divorce”. The last time it was because he was resting while I was washing the dishes in the kitchen. Started yelling that I was purposely acting out how much I was doing around the house in order to rebuke him – not overtly – for sitting around doing nothing.

Marasmus? There are no words! And we have a 3 year old child. He and my son, they love each other. Financially and even morally I do not depend on him in any way. But I would consider myself selfish if I deprived my child of daily contact with his father. I pay regularly. Yesterday he yelled at me so much, I cried so much that my eyes swelled up in the morning. I feel sorry for myself, honestly. If you do not keep a child together – go away, feel sorry for your life. You have only one life. I, for one, do not see any future for myself personally. Even if we do get divorced someday, I will not let anyone else into my life. This one was good, too, while we were dating. When we started living together, there were “bells and whistles”, but I thought that no one was perfect, I loved him very much. And as soon as we got married, it was almost immediately “started. All the feelings to himself loved, except for the fear. I am afraid to say a word – you never know what he will snap and provoke a scandal.And why not let anyone else into your life?

He doesn’t want to be disappointed again.

Of course it does… But first of all you have to change the man in such cases.

I think that in your case, thinking that you feel sorry for your child, you run the risk of later having a son who will treat you the same way (children see parents’ behavior model and copy everything, then they do not notice how they copy it, and secondly, you have already formed the psyche of a “victim” for 3 years. They say after three years of living with a tyrant you can not change a woman, so become selfish in a healthy way, value your life, value your dignity, you will understand how wonderful life is without a tyrant and how wonderful to be free!

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very sorry, when at the beginning of relations we choose they behave tenderly and affectionately, and then they just show indifference, like they played with an unnecessary toy and to change the man here is not an option, and where a guarantee that the second and the next are not such… i do not even know what to advise

My husband does not let me work, but constantly reproaches me that I am a dependent, ballast, etc. But when I start talking about the work of my address fly some insults and threats to kill or bury me in the ground or break my teeth. He does not dress me, does not put on shoes, does not give me money, even on the phone money I put myself. And when I start to tell him this, he answers me, “I can change the cleaning lady for any other better one than me. And all the time he says I’m ugly fat and no one fucking needs me. We are together for 6 years, we have a daughter, he loves her, but sometimes he starts yelling at her about everything, and sometimes calls her a brat. I left him two times, but he came to me and stood on his knees, apologized, and said he would never do it again. That’s what I do I do not know?

My husband does not let me work, but constantly reproaches me that I am a dependant, ballast, etc. But when I start talking about the work in my address fly some insults and threats to kill or bury me in the ground or break my teeth. He does not dress me, does not put on shoes, does not give me money, even on the phone money I put myself. And when I start to tell him this, he answers me, “I can change the cleaning lady for any other better one than me. And all the time he says I’m ugly fat and no one fucking needs me. We are together for 6 years, we have a daughter, he loves her, but sometimes he starts yelling at her about everything, and sometimes calls her a brat. I left him two times, but he came to me and kneeled, begged forgiveness, and said he would never do it again. I do not know what to do.

You should run away from there as soon as possible. I had a similar situation, and I went to work, left my husband, and now I live happily with my son! Just your husband is an insecure man, with a lot of complexes, and humiliating you is trying to assert himself! Do you need it? Are you happy now? You want to live like this all your life. And then at 60 you will look back and see nothing but tears and disappointment! What did your mother give birth to you for? To make fun of you. And your daughter will grow up, get married (if her father doesn’t make her want to get married). And you will stay alone with him or he will leave you for some woman with more character.

You know, you feel you are fat, ugly, and a cleaning lady, and you think your child is a brat. Your husband’s attitude is like a mirror of your own attitude. If you didn’t think of yourself as I have described (from your words and your husband’s) you would either have another husband or this one wouldn’t dare ever behave that way. Think about it.

I do not know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We thought a lot about marriage, but something always stops me. His character is horrible. He allows himself everything. I allow myself nothing. When he wants to go out, he goes out with his friends all the time. But he forbids me to do anything. I always stay at home, and if I go anywhere, it is a rarity. I do not know how to talk to him. At first, of course, everything was not like that. How to talk to him?

You can’t. It’s mostly wives with experience who write here. After the wedding, he’ll show himself in all his glory. And if you think he will change, because he says he loves you, then you, like all of us here, are just living illusions. Go away! He will never change! Or become a strong confident and independent financially. But most likely you will be with him, crying and crying. Life gives us such that we cease to be *****)

very sorry, when at the beginning of relations we choose they behave tenderly and affectionately, and then they just show indifference, like they played with an unnecessary toy and to change the man here is not an option, and where a guarantee that the second and the next are not such… i do not even know what to advise

all men zaglyuyutsya in love) and the twentieth will be the same – just can change them more often))))

Advise pozhitelsta that I do?

I have a husband like that (only he didn’t beat me, he didn’t physically hurt me in any way. at least not yet). For 2 weeks a great guy, everything is good, loves, cares. But every 2-3 weeks steadily, clings to some nonsense and starts a scandal. I mean, I am silent for a long time, trying not to react, and he yells. He can swear in foul language, can talk nasty things about what I am a terrible, worthless person, can begin to “divorce”. The last time it was because he was resting while I was washing the dishes in the kitchen. Started yelling that I was purposely acting out how much I was doing around the house in order to rebuke him – not overtly – for sitting around doing nothing.

Marasmus? There are no words! And we have a 3 year old child. He and my son, they love each other. Financially and even morally I do not depend on him in any way. But I would consider myself selfish if I deprived my child of daily contact with his father. I pay regularly. Yesterday he yelled at me so much, I cried so much that my eyes swelled up in the morning. I feel sorry for myself, honestly. If you do not keep a child together – go away, feel sorry for your life. You have only one life. I, for one, do not see any future for myself personally. Even if we do get divorced someday, I will not let anyone else into my life. This one was good, too, while we were dating. When we started living together, there were “bells and whistles”, but I thought that no one was perfect, I loved him very much. And as soon as we got married, it was almost immediately “started. All the feelings to himself loved, except for the fear. I’m afraid to say a word – you never know what he will snap and provoke a scandal.

Strength and patience to you, if that’s the case. I am just on the verge of a breakdown because my boyfriend, behaves terribly, even if it is not my fault, when I say I will leave, he agrees.

Why does my husband hate my wife and can it be fixed?

Love and hate go hand in hand. Just yesterday two loving hearts could not live without each other, and today one of the partners begins to feel hatred. Why does this happen? Why can a husband hate his spouse? The answers in this case can be a large number. Therefore, let’s try to understand this question in more detail.

Signs .

When one person feels dislike for another, it is difficult not to notice. The psychology of hatred is as follows: dislike for someone is characterized by hostility and is considered a destructive feeling.

Various disagreements may arise between husband and wife from time to time. This is quite natural. However, when one of the spouses has a persistent feeling of hatred, it is a circumstance that should be taken seriously.

There are plenty of reasons for hatred in the family. When people live together for quite a long time, irritation sometimes erupts between them. This is a natural process. However, members of a strong family quickly cope with their emotions.

This is not always the case. If one spouse behaves inappropriately all the time, the other spouse has a protesting mood toward him or her. This is quickly replaced by irritation.

For example, the wife’s behavior drives her husband to rage. And then he gradually turns to hostility.

Consider the signs that directly indicate the dislike of the husband to his wife:

  • he yells all the time and demands to leave him alone;
  • Blames his spouse for even the smallest blunders;
  • Directly expresses an opinion about his dislike of his spouse;
  • may swing and even strike;
  • His eyes are full of anger.

The husband humiliates his wife in public without feeling guilty. For example, he says such words to her: “Look at who you look like!” or “Don’t you dare interfere in a man’s conversation anymore and go away. The husband does not appreciate his wife’s hard work. For example, the woman has mopped the floor, and the man comes into the house with his shoes on and littering everywhere.

The points listed above are only a small part of what a man can do if he feels dislike for his other half.

Causes and Consequences

A husband hates his wife for a variety of reasons. They can be superficial or have an underlying nature. Let’s consider the most common variants of the reasons that lead to destructive feelings.

Some women, being married, stop taking care of their appearance. They think that their husband is not going anywhere, and the marriage is fixed firmly-tightly stamped in your passport.

Of course, any psychologist will tell you that you can not do so. Before marriage, a man saw a woman who was beautiful, well-groomed and kind. After marriage in front of his eyes every day presents a completely different ungroomed person in threadbare slippers with a tuft of hair on top.

Such changes shock the representative of the stronger sex. Gradually he begins to feel resentment toward his wife. The consequence of such a situation can be a divorce.

Sometimes some representatives of the fair sex do not notice that their behavior leaves much to be desired. For example, a windy person can exhibit various caprices for years, testing the patience of her husband.

Most men are also capable of accumulating irritation and anger for years. As long as the spouse has warm feelings for his or her other half, he or she will tolerate all resentment. However, over time, his love will weaken, and all the offenses will gradually resurface. Such circumstances will lead to scandals, irritation, and hatred on the part of the husband.

A woman’s bad habits can be a good reason for hating her. Rarely will a man tolerate an alcoholic or a smoking woman in his house. A woman’s addiction will also affect the upbringing of her children. This factor will be the last straw. The husband will hate his wife.

Cheating on the wife will also cause hostility from the faithful spouse. Men very rarely forgive betrayal. Therefore, the above fact will lead to divorce.

What is a man to do?

A hostile attitude towards a loved one is very bad. Destructive feelings can destroy not only the marriage, but also the rest of life. Therefore, it is necessary to fight hatred.

And yet at this point it is necessary to make one caveat. If you are unable to cope with your feeling, and it has completely filled your soul for some serious reason, then be honest both with yourself and with your wife. File for divorce.

If you feel that your hatred of your wife has no basis in fact, then begin to fight it. Consider how you can do this.

  • Stop all the time to wind yourself up and look for reasons for the internal irritation.
  • Look at your wife with different eyes. She is trying to keep the family and also tired at work. Be lenient to her blunders.
  • Be a man and learn to forgive.
  • Don’t dwell on the negative things that happen in the home.
  • Give your wife a bouquet. After that, she will give you the kind of attention that will completely suppress your irritation.

How to behave as a woman?

Very unpleasant to realize that her husband just hates you. Tears come to your eyes from resentment and you want to run away from such a problem. If you feel that the situation has gone too far and nothing can be done, then file for divorce. In this case you will be able at least to live peacefully.

Then time will tell. Maybe your husband will realize his mistake and come to an agreement. Or maybe you will meet a decent man and spend the rest of his life happily.

If you subconsciously feel that all is not lost, immediately proceed to rectify the situation.

  • Stop being hysterical about every issue. Realize that your complaints and very loud voice bring the situation to a standstill.
  • Before you throw accusations in the direction of her husband, think a hundred times. You may be wrong in your conclusions.
  • If your husband is tired at work, try to get into his position. He is a huge burden every day – both physical and mental. You have a hard time, and he has even harder. So have pity on your loved one and meet him with a smile.
  • Know how to forgive, stop exuding negativity.
  • Do not yell at the children in the presence of her husband. On other occasions do not do so either. Become an affectionate mother and a caring wife.

Advice from a psychologist

The feeling of hatred towards the stranger is easy to overcome. Just stop seeing such a person and communicate with her. How can you get rid of feelings of dislike towards a loved one? It is difficult, because you have to communicate with him every day and solve everyday problems.

There are only two ways out of this situation: either the complete isolation from each other, or a struggle for love and order in the family. Whatever you decide in this case, it must come from the heart. To make it easier for you to act, try to apply psychologist’s advice.

If you decide to break up permanently, then do not hesitate. The more you delay the process, the more this process will “drag” your inner state into negativity and hopelessness.

If you want to make things right between you and your wife, try to contain your inner feelings and worries. It is necessary not to show them to the opposite side and behave very calmly.

Despite the fact that you are very hurt and irritated, try to get closer to his wife. Suggest to go on vacation as a family. In a relaxed atmosphere it is easier to find new common ground and understand each other.

Talk to your wife, say all the insults and grievances against her. Explain that his behavior she pushes away from you. Women – the nature of very sensitive. Albeit not immediately, but it will come to her: you are trying your best to keep your family.

If a conflict arises, try not to stir it up. Talk quietly and calmly. Let your wife scream, and you be quiet and listen. She will get tired very soon and she will be surprised by your calm behavior. As a result, there will be a temporary pause. Take advantage of it and explain to your spouse that she is wrong. When she realizes her mistake, ask her to apologize.

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