What to do if a guy wants to break up and you don’t?

My boyfriend wants to break up. How do I dissuade him?

We have never had a serious reason to fight. But it started from small ones that stopped to big ones. Different visions of solving the problem. I can’t keep quiet and I need to solve it, he needs time. And can only then talk when we already make up. In the last two weeks, again, we’ve been fighting over nonsense. Usually we make up after two days, a week at most. But here we talk normally for three days, then again, and so on for two weeks. And then one day he decided to break up, he said that it was like all feelings and emotions were dead. I asked him to try to give our relationship time. He agreed, but says it won’t help. He communicates dryly in text messages, and when we see each other, it’s normal. Takes me to cafes and restaurants. Everything is as usual. But towards me there is no warmth as before. My friend says that he is hesitating, he does not know what he wants, they say. Courtship, but he behaves coldly. How can I return the old relationship? I know that he loves. I feel it. Has anyone managed to reanimate the relationship? I need your help. I love him very much.

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You should leave him alone, no matter how hard it would be for you, he made his choice. You did not leave him. Live your life, and this still crawls after a year, when you will be just as indifferent to him now.

You should leave him alone, no matter how hard it would be for you, he made his choice. You did not leave him. Live your life, and this still crawls after a year, when you will be just as indifferent to him now.

What makes you think he has another woman?) There is no other woman.

What makes you think he has another woman?) There is no other woman.

I wouldn’t be so sure if I were you. But it’s worth considering. There’s a good chance there is! Nothing ever just happens that way. Usually men change their attitudes when a new woman comes along.

It’s not a fact that there is another one, he might just want to be with you specifically, without other women, but because of your internal conflicts. I probably wouldn’t hold him back. All grown up people, after all, the “shits and shits without end” is an indicator too. I don’t think there’s much respect left in the relationship if there’s also ignoring him after he fights. Purely my opinion, no offense, if anything.

I wouldn’t be so sure if I were you. But it’s worth considering. There’s a good chance there is! Nothing ever just happens that way. Usually men change their attitudes when a new woman comes along.

I’m sure they do. There are a lot of factors that prove it.

Well, I disagree with the first guest. It’s not the other one most likely. How old are you and how long have you been in a relationship? If it’s serious and you’re in a sexual relationship, then yes, it’s probably different, it’s possible that it just faded, it happens. If it’s just going to coffee shops and you can go days without talking, then it’s not really a relationship. I had a situation with my husband, at that point we had been dating for 9 months. We lived in different cities and we were not able to see each other often, plus he lost his job and could not come…we did not see each other for months and at some point he wrote me that all, sorry, I no longer love you…I had a wild hysteria. The next day he called me, saying that he was sorry, I love you, just the distance… I understood him and we resumed our relationship. A couple of weeks later we managed to meet. We talked. As a result, we met each other for 2.5 years and have been married for a year. And our story is similar in that he needs time, and you need to decide right now… We had the same thing, and at some point I just gave in to him. I overcame myself and gave him time. In a relationship you need to be able to give in, to find compromises. And about the quarrels I do not understand it, we have quarreled over the years. well on the fingers to count. In general, good luck to you and patience, I think that everything will work out).

The guy wants to break up, how to dissuade him? ============= Belly. Only with his belly, in Registry Office him, the goat, push, in Registry Office.

It’s not a fact that there is another one, he might just want to be with you specifically, without other women, but because of your internal conflicts. I probably wouldn’t hold him back. All grown up people, after all, the “shits and shits without end” is an indicator too. I don’t think there’s much respect left in the relationship if there’s also ignoring him after he fights. Purely my opinion, no offense, if anything.

There is no other there. Yes, there is. He says there has been a lot of fighting lately. His friend says, and mine too, that it’s just you. And he’s just kind of mad. A lot of people tell me to be neutral and not to talk about relationships. It’s hard to communicate like that.

You don’t respect your partner. Did he tell you that feelings are dead? Then they’re dead. But you don’t care about that.

You don’t respect your partner. Did he tell you that feelings are dead? Then they’re dead. But you don’t care about that.

No. He wrote in one soliloquy that he told me to leave. And he doesn’t want to hurt me, but he has to make me leave. And so, I know I still have feelings.

Well, I disagree with the first guest. It’s not the other one most likely. How old are you and how long have you been in a relationship? If it’s serious and you’re in a sexual relationship, then yes, it’s probably different, it’s possible that it just faded, it happens. If it’s just going to coffee shops and you can go days without talking, then it’s not really a relationship. I had a situation with my husband, at that point we had been dating for 9 months. We lived in different cities and we were not able to see each other often, plus he lost his job and could not come…we did not see each other for months and at some point he wrote me that all, sorry, I no longer love you…I had a wild hysteria. The next day he called me, saying that he was sorry, I love you, just the distance… I understood him and we resumed our relationship. A couple of weeks later we managed to meet. We talked. As a result, we met each other for 2.5 years and have been married for a year. And our story is similar in that he needs time, and you need to decide right now… We had the same thing, and at some point I just gave in to him. I overcame myself and gave him time. In a relationship you need to be able to give in, to find compromises. And about the quarrels I do not understand it, we have quarreled over the years. well on the fingers to count. In general, good luck to you and patience, I think that everything will work out).

Daria, I replied to you in another thread. Not everyone saw that thread. We are almost 30 years old, two years together. Everything was serious. He went into business, set a definite goal. Well, it turns out that our quarrels interfered with his business, because the ball was in a bad mood, missed days. Yesterday he said that he would not tolerate it anymore, that it’s in the proverbial time for the rest of the year. And it turns out. He’s very angry that our fighting has interfered with his business. And he’s very obsessed with making money. He does everything on his own.

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The guy wants to break up, but I don’t.

Daria, I replied to you in another thread. Not everyone saw that thread. We are almost 30 years old, two years together. Everything was serious. He went into business, set a definite goal. Well, it turns out that our quarrels interfered with his business, because the ball was in a bad mood, missed days. Yesterday he said that he would not tolerate it anymore, that it’s in the proverbial time for the rest of the year. And it turns out. He’s very angry that our fighting has interfered with his business. And he’s very obsessed with making money. He does everything on his own.

If it’s worse with you than without you, then the relationship is really over. You interfere with him, you worsen his life, no one needs such a relationship.

Why do you need a man who does not love you, who is indifferent to you, who cannot see your future and hopes to escape? You will not be able to do anything good with him anyway. Stop agonizing and break up.

The guy wants to break up, how to dissuade him? ============= Belly. Only with his belly, in Registry Office him, the goat, push, in Registry Office.

Gone are the days when you could push a man with your belly in a registry office. Nowadays, every second or third child is a bastard. If a woman wants to be a single mother, let her get pregnant. If a man is not an idiot, he will reliably protect himself, without trusting his partner.

The golden rule is, if she wants to go, let her go. No matter how hard it is.

There is no other there. Yes, there is. He says there has been a lot of fighting lately. His friend says, and mine too, that it’s just you. And he’s just kind of mad. A lot of people tell me to be neutral and not to talk about relationships. It’s hard to communicate like that.

You are very stuffy. And you only hear yourself. I’d run away, too.

You are very stuffy. And you only hear yourself. I’d run away, too.

Look, author, you’re not his wife yet, but you’ve already blown his mind with your constant sr.chkami. Men do not like to find out about the relationship, they are afraid of screaming women, and he has damaged the business because of you! The candy period is over, you start lapping at each other, you need to be calm and wise, learn to find compromises, and yes, in a calm not aggressive voice..You had better take a little pause, to rest from each other, to think over your behavior.

If it’s worse with you than without you, then the relationship is really over. You interfere with him, you worsen his life, no one needs such a relationship.

We were fine together when we weren’t fighting. His words. Because of the quarrels accumulated a lot of negativity.

Look, author, you’re not his wife yet, but you’ve already blown his mind with your constant sr.chkami. Men do not like to find out about the relationship, they are afraid of screaming women, and he has damaged the business because of you! The candy period is over, you start lapping at each other, you need to be calm and wise, learn to find compromises, and yes, in a calm not aggressive voice..You had better take a little pause, to rest from each other, to think over your behavior.

Yes, that’s exactly what it is. I didn’t have the wisdom to say nothing. I’m very sorry. I would have left if I felt he didn’t love me. But I feel there are still feelings. And he himself said that if he didn’t love me, he wouldn’t even see me, wouldn’t kiss me. So I ask how to get back to the old relationship. Is it better not to talk about the relationship and communicate neutrally?

As my grandfather said – you her this, she again his! Why write here and ask for advice if you do not want to hear anything? All you are told correctly here

Leave the guy alone, you hysterical girl.

As my grandfather said – you her this, she again his! Why write here and ask for advice if you do not want to hear anything? All you are told correctly here

But you do not know all the nuances of our relationship to say that there are no feelings. And the question was how to resuscitate the relationship, not your opinion on the quarrels

You’ve been in a “relationship” for two years, most likely it was a sexual affair and it started with quick and passionate sex. The sexual component gets boring and if he didn’t ask you to marry him after a year, you can’t improve your withering romance by artificial measures. Distance, give yourself and him time to figure out what you both want, perhaps you both breathe a sigh of relief. Get yourself a couple more suitors, without sex and live, choose a worthy one. Why are you so attached to this prematurely? Is it too much to ask? If the man is already throwing responsibility for their bad mood and failures in the business on you, then later it will be worse, you will be blamed for everything.If you start a scandal with him now for nothing, then he does not listen to you, you can not experience negative emotions safely and quietly and they come out of you only when the lid rips off, and this is wrong. A woman has to talk to her man all the time, starting with the courtship period, gradually deepening and preparing him for marriage. And how are you going to live together in a marriage with children, if he is already not pulling you psychologically.

Daria, I replied to you in another thread. Not everyone saw that thread. We are almost 30 years old, two years together. Everything was serious. He went into business, set a definite goal. Well, it turns out that our quarrels interfered with his business, because the ball was in a bad mood, missed days. Yesterday he said that he would not tolerate it anymore, that it’s in the proverbial time for the rest of the year. And it turns out. He’s very angry that our fighting has interfered with his business. And he’s very obsessed with making money. He does everything on his own.

Clung to like Velcro, being in a begging position. His priorities are work, not relationships. You probably want attention, love, warmth, and a man immersed in work can’t give that. So he lets you go. You only hold on to him because you think he’s promising.

We were fine together when we weren’t fighting. His words. Because of the quarrels accumulated a lot of negativity.

You had a good time. You can’t talk about him unless he has a hole in his skull through which you can look inside.

The daily torture of homework.

Is there a boomerang?

How do philanderers end up?

Divorce, filing for alimony, getting your kids registered.

How do you get married to be a housewife and not work?

Constant fighting is only romantic in soap operas. In life it’s exhausting, it takes away energy, destroys relationships. You are told directly that you do not want to, do not love, but you stuck like a sheep and do not want to hear anything. Let go, so it is not yours. If he can not live without you he will come himself. Your stickiness only lowers you even more in his eyes.

We were fine together when we weren’t fighting. His words. Because of the quarrels accumulated a lot of negativity.

So why stay together? I love my husband. That’s why I will NEVER allow any quarrels or negative explanations. When you love, it is extremely important to have a good mood and a great mood loved one. He feels good – and you’re fluttering. He is sad and grieving – and you feel bad and pa-costly. But to spoil his mood with your own nagging, quarrels and scandals – that’s just like death. Mutually loving people always take care of each other and the morale of the other. And they are always able to agree and solve everything amicably, to the mutual pleasure of each other. Everything is beautiful in the person you love. And small irregularities can always be corrected with a request and a friendly wish. Everyone will be happy to do anything for their loved one. You don’t love him. Break up.

You’ve been in a “relationship” for two years, most likely it was a sexual affair and it started with quick and passionate sex. The sexual component gets boring and if he didn’t ask you to marry him after a year, you can’t improve your withering romance by artificial measures. Distance, give yourself and him time to figure out what you both want, perhaps you both breathe a sigh of relief. Get yourself a couple more suitors, without sex and live, choose a worthy one. Why are you so attached to this prematurely? Is it too much to ask? If the man is already throwing responsibility for their bad mood and failures in the business on you, then later it will be worse, you will be blamed for everything.If you start a scandal with him now for nothing, then he does not listen to you, you can not experience negative emotions safely and quietly and they come out of you only when the lid rips off, and this is wrong. A woman has to talk to her man all the time, starting with the courtship period, gradually deepening and preparing him for marriage. And how are you going to live together in a marriage with children, if he is already not pulling you psychologically.

Right. If a man doesn’t hear me, doesn’t want to listen to me, I just leave. They usually want a woman who will put up with everything – the hookups, being busy all the time, etc. And to silently tolerate everything for a bowl of soup.

You’ve been in a “relationship” for two years, most likely it was a sexual affair and it started with quick and passionate sex. The sexual component gets boring and if he didn’t ask you to marry him after a year, you can’t improve your withering romance by artificial measures. Distance, give yourself and him time to figure out what you both want, perhaps you both breathe a sigh of relief. Get yourself a couple more suitors, without sex and live, choose a worthy one. Why are you so attached to this prematurely? Is it too much to ask? If the man is already throwing responsibility for their bad mood and failures in the business on you, then later it will be worse, you will be blamed for everything.If you start a scandal with him now for nothing, then he does not listen to you, you can not experience negative emotions safely and quietly and they come out of you only when the lid rips off, and this is wrong. A woman has to talk to her man all the time, starting with the courtship period, gradually deepening and preparing him for marriage. And how are you going to live together in a marriage with children, if he is already not pulling you psychologically.

No. That’s not how it started. At the time I was dating another guy, who unfortunately I didn’t have time to love when we met. He let me know right away that he liked me. Started paying attention unobtrusively. Knew about the guy. We communicated. When we broke up, he also started unobtrusively paying attention to me, inviting me somewhere, wanting to get to know me. It started out that way. And about marriage, we are from different countries. I wanted to stay here purely for my sake, so I started a business, so I’d have a job and something to live on. He’s currently in graduate school. That’s why we started fighting more often, because of the business. Not enough attention. Therefore, began to present, demand. Hence the quarrels and negativity(

What to do if a guy wants to break up and I really love him. I do not want to break up with him and he does not want to be with me?

Tatiana, hello. You have to understand, no matter how difficult it may be for you, that in the formation of a relationship involves both partners and not everything depends on you. Make love is not possible, and not everything in life is as we want. people and meet in order to get to know each other better, to listen to your feelings, then draw conclusions. Would you personally be able to date if you didn’t have feelings for the guy? Therefore, don’t impose on the guy and don’t beg for love, even if he agrees to date you out of a sense of duty, such a relationship will not bring happiness to either of you. Now pause for a couple of weeks and don’t impose on the guy, let him sort himself out, then you can talk, if there’s no love on his part again, you shouldn’t waste time on him. as you personally deserve better and if you treat this situation as an experience that made you stronger in all relationships, you will meet the right man in the future where feelings will be mutual. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you – Success and all the best.

Good afternoon. I was interested in your answer, “Tatiana, hello. You need to understand, no matter how difficult it is for you, that in the formation of a relationship you are involved. ” to the question http://www.liveexpert.org/topic/view/2312216-chto-delat-esli-paren-hochet-rasstatsya-a-ya-ochen-ego-lyublyu-ne-hochu-s-nim-rasstavatsya-a-on-ne-hochet-bit-so-mnoj. May we discuss this answer with you?

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Answer yourself the question, “Why do I need a guy who doesn’t want me?”, take personal counseling.

LYDIA

Good morning. Tatiana, let me answer your question based on my experience in professional relationship psychotherapy. Your question “What to do if a guy wants to break up and I love him very much. I don’t want to break up with him, and he doesn’t want to be with me?” The answer. Include women’s wisdom: 1. Act in a way that the man does not expect. For example. Man, expects: a)Your resistance to his decision to break up. Instead, you invite him into the afternoon in a cafe, sad and calmly, looking in the eyes of a man, you tell him: “Honey, you know I love you very much, so I care about your happiness, even if not with me. I respect your decision. Be happy. Goodbye.” You get up and leave. The man is shocked. b)Your misery and the fact that you will pursue him. You instead fill yourself with new, fresh and joyful emotions. For example. *Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Pity is the most pernicious of all feelings, which rolls you into a warm swamp of inaction, into the accumulation and careful nurturing of negative emotions, into depressed moods, into dramatizing situations, etc. *Try on new images, for example, “urban hooligan”, “muse”, “woman-vamp”, “businesswoman”, “militia”, etc. -This will allow you to feel different: different image-different role-different character. *Find new, strong hobbies for yourself, e.g., learn diving, extreme riding, play paintball, etc. -This will allow you not only to be filled with fresh, positive and bright emotions, but also fill you with new, meaningful and interesting communication, including men. *Do a professional themed photo shoot with new images and new hobbies and post photos to social networks, positive comments and compliments not only lift your spirits and greatly expand your social circle, and most importantly surprise your ex and may once again return his male and personal interest in you. 2. Make a competent and elegant strategy and tactics to regain the sexual and personal interest of your ex-boyfriend to you. Wisdom to you. P.S. Dear client, our experts have spent their time and their professional knowledge to answer your question. Please comply with the request of the site administration, don’t forget to evaluate the experts’ answers.

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