Looks and psychology – what men like in women. Men’s point of view.
Professional journalist, author of a poetry collection and several literary publications.
Expert – Margarita Lopukhova.
Family psychologist. For eight years I have been saving “family units” from disintegration. I help couples regain love and understanding.
The question “Why do men like women?” is often the cause of debate, both in women’s and men’s circles. Before sorting out such a question, it is important to understand what kind of men there are, because it is the type of man that determines what kind of women he chooses.
Types of men and the main determining qualities when choosing a woman:
- Forever single – a man who is not looking for a long relationship, he cares about frankness in a girl, sexuality, attractive forms. Of course, by nature, all men are polygamous, but this type has a special freedom;
- A man is a mama’s boy, he chooses a woman who is similar to his mother, and it’s not about appearance (although sometimes it comes to that), but about attitude towards him. He appreciates the care, attention, warm attitude.
- Psychasthenic men are those who are willing to sacrifice themselves, no matter what. Such men, as a rule, obsessive and, even after separation, ready to call and demand a meeting. These men, at a subconscious level, choose a stronger woman, powerful and those who can obey.
- Man narcissist – he needs to be praised. These men are looking for girls who will admire them, will say a lot of compliments and appreciate his manhood.
- Man schizoid – all the time he something does not suit. He easily finds reasons to break up. But the difference with the “Eternal Bachelor” is that schizoids don’t break up to find a new romance, but because he thinks there are no normal girls around. It’s hard to say what kind of woman a man likes, because, after all, he himself is unlikely to be able to answer this question.
Of course, everyone has different taste preferences, someone prefers an older woman, someone younger, some people like plump, others like skinny, some people like emotional and explosive girls, and some prefer quiet and homely persons. But there are common reasons for women’s attraction that no one can control.
What guided each man? Let’s look at 15 of the most popular reasons “Why men like women:
Natural instincts
Let the process of evolution, long ago made of apes people, but in each of us live primitive animal instincts. Because of his instincts, a man is subordinate to a woman. She attracts him at the level of smells, gestures, body movements, and so on.
This orientation of instincts is based on a physiological need – to continue the human race and ensure a growing population. Not all men admit that their feelings are driven by something they have no control over. Often, a man cannot explain why he likes this or that woman, so it is in these cases that his sympathy is subject to the power of natural instincts.
A woman’s character
The traits of a woman’s character, directly affect the sympathy of the man. Everyone’s preferences, of course, are different. According to statistics, most men believe that the most attractive traits are – determination, the ability to present themselves properly, a moderate sense of humor and self-confidence.
But it is worth recognizing that many men like a defenseless girl for whom you can be a real support. Also, no doubt, all men like girls who are loyal and faithful, who are not afraid to let her go to a restaurant with her friends and those who behave decently in public, especially important when meeting with friends and parents of the man.
Neat appearance and attractiveness
Every man will like a neat and tidy girl. According to a sociological survey, when a man presents a girl he would like, the following features prevail:
- Long, well-groomed and healthy hair;
- Almost 40% of men believe that the most beautiful eye color is blue or green;
- Organic, not suffocating, perfume;
- Moderately plump and sensual lips;
- Accurate, not vulgar, makeup, emphasizing natural beauty;
- A neat manicure. Almost one in three respondents considered the most beautiful manicure – a neat French;
- Clean shoes, ironed clothes, which emphasize the beauty of the female body.
Female form and sexuality
Men like a feminine figure, with “bulges in the right places”. Firm beautiful breasts, taut tummy and the rest of the charms of the female body – this is something that no man will refuse. Of course, not all girls are given a beautiful natural figure, and there are men.
Fortunately, now there are many ways to emphasize the advantages and erase the disadvantages, with properly chosen clothing, shoes and accessories. Men like women who confidently carry their sexuality, who know their figure strengths. Every man will be happy if there is a sexy woman who can properly (not vulgar) present their strengths.
Sense of humor
Girls with a sense of humor attract a lot of men and like everyone. Most men want to see this quality in their girlfriend. A girl who can have a good joke, laugh at something, with whom you can fool around like children and generally have a good time will be able to win the heart of any man.
It is important that the humor is appropriate and does not devolve into excessive monkeying. Men believe that girls with a good sense of humor are the ideal partners for life together, because with such there will always be easy, fun and carefree. Also, an important quality for girls is the ability to laugh at themselves, men believe that it is peculiar only to a truly sincere girl.
The ability to show love
Rudeness is not in fashion, unless, of course, we are talking about a variety of sexual games. Each man will appreciate the woman who knows how to show his love. The main thing is not to cross the line between the expression of love and imposition. A woman who is not shy to write a sensual SMS, she will arrange a romantic date, will not be afraid of their feelings – will certainly like every man.
Emotionality and energy
Girls are loved not only for their outward attractiveness, but also for their energy and positive emotions. Of course, women are not robots and can not always be in a good mood, but the ability to quickly switch from bad to good, positive energy and moderate emotionality – will please every man. Men just need to understand, so that a woman does not become an “emotional bomb” that is about to explode, you need to give her an opportunity to display their emotions in a timely manner.
The ability to understand and hold
A woman should not only be a good mistress or a caring wife, but also a friend who can understand and support in any situation. Men like girls who can be trusted and who can understand him when he needs it. Strong and trusting relationships grow out of understanding and mutual support.
Self-confidence
What all men definitely have in common is a liking for confident girls. Men just can not stand unsure of themselves, which carry a solid negative and clot complexes. What does a confident girl mean in men’s minds:
- Confident in sex;
- Has her own social circle;
- Does not need constant encouragement;
- Does not stick to every guy she meets;
- Manages to show herself in society;
- Knows her own strengths;
- She does not control the man;
- Knows her limits;
- Knows how to admit her mistakes;
- Does not pressure the man;
- Does not fall into despair;
- Not afraid to make the first move.
These qualities, no doubt, will appeal to every man.
Unavailable
Unavailable likes only those who are not looking for a serious relationship. But here, if a man is considering a girl with plans for the future, then such a quality as unavailability is sure to please him. Especially if a man previously came across only available girls. At the first stage, a man simply can not accept that there is a girl capable of refusing him. Then he “wakes up the knight of the conqueror” who will try to win the girl by all means.
As a rule, the more competent a girl will hold the defense, the greater the chance that the man’s interest will only grow. But the main thing is not to overdo it, otherwise, a man will think that he is not interesting and will find, more located to him, a girl.
Distinctiveness and individuality
Everyone must have some flavor. Men like to find such features in girls and try to unravel them. Girls who have their own flamboyance will always be the focus of men’s attention. They combine both confidence, and a sharp mind, and an extraordinary character. Such girls, at first glance, may seem as if from another planet, but with them it is more interesting, more fun, they are like a crossword puzzle, which can be solved for many years. With them you will not get bored, you will not “drown” in everyday worries.
This is one of the list of women’s virtues, which will be appreciated by any sensible man. Many, even, imagine in their fantasies stormy novel with a schoolteacher or sultry businesswoman. Without a doubt, men like intelligent and educated girls. Those who can support any conversation, those who have a story to tell.
Two self-sufficient and educated people, there will always be something to do. With these girls expand the range of joint activities, with them and to the theater, and to a restaurant, and a documentary, and a business meeting. Men appreciate girls who are not ashamed when they “open their mouths”. There is an opinion that the more developed human brain, the more sexy man.
Care and affection
Every man will like an affectionate and caring girl who will cook a delicious dinner, iron shirts, kiss before work and so on. The need for such a girl, there is every man. One of the reasons why men start to cheat is the lack of feminine warmth and affection. At home everything is heated with domestic problems, and the mistress is always gentle and caring. Therefore, in order to please a man and subsequently not to lose him – caring and affection should be in the arsenal of every girl.
Women agree to sex in order to get love, and men give in to love in order to get sex. No healthy and fulfilled man, cannot imagine his life without sex. It is one of his basic needs that women can best satisfy. So this is another reason why men like women, because, with them you can do it almost anywhere and at any time.
When a man looks at a woman, he’s always evaluating her sexually. Even if your man says he doesn’t, that’s probably exactly right! But again, this happens at the level of natural instincts, at such moments, a man is ruled by the hormone – testosterone.
Attitude towards a man
Every man will like a girl who will respect him, be proud of his achievements, do nice things. Men, though they consider themselves strong and independent, but they, too, need attention, care and compliments. Given that men are not perfect, they like those who will forgive and understand his minor mistakes, who can accept his shortcomings. Women who are able to provide support, most often become beloved wives and, at the same time, real friends. Men like those with whom you can be yourself, whom you can trust your secrets, and who will appreciate it, no matter what.
This list of reasons will probably help each man to choose the most important factors for themselves, and girls will give a clue how to please a man. But always remember that all men are individual, it is impossible to like everyone outwardly, but the ability to appreciate, respect, listen and trust is something that any young man will appreciate.
25 random things that attract men to women most of all
Helpful Tips
Some girls may think that it’s not easy to get attention. In fact, some of the things that a girl may unwittingly do can really get a man’s attention.
After all, guys like to watch, and they are more quickly attracted to details that are pleasing to the eye.
In fact, it doesn’t take much to please a man. Just the fact that you are a woman is enough for him to notice you. Even showing your slightest girlish side is enough to melt his heart.
Learn in this article about these amazing, unintentional feminine behaviors that drive guys crazy.
What men like
1. How a girl takes off tight clothes
You may feel like an elephant climbing out of a tight evening gown, but to your man, you are a naked goddess. The way you take off your clothes can turn guys on a lot, especially when they see what’s hidden underneath.
2. How a girl gets into bed.
Guys can find every little movement sensual. This is especially true when you approach him by climbing into bed. Those catlike movements are enough to make him purr, and it’s one of those feminine things he adores.
3. How a girl curls her hair
There is something mesmerizing about long hair that makes men freeze. Whether a girl pulls it, twists it, or strokes it, there’s something about it that men find cute and sexy.
4. Perfume
It may be an animal instinct, but the smell of perfume when a girl walks by can make a guy cast a passionate glance at a girl.
5. Shampoo
As with perfume, an unintentional thing like shampoo can make guys go crazy. The smell of hair is a serious incentive, but some girls don’t even notice it.
6. Underwear.
Whether a girl is wearing Victoria’s Secret or a casual pair of underwear, there’s something sexy about just walking around in her underwear that doesn’t leave a man indifferent.
7. Eye Contact
The way a girl makes eye contact can also attract a man. This is especially true when a girl looks at a man and then shyly or innocently averts her gaze.
8. How a woman closes her eyes during a kiss
Men like it when, when leaning in for a kiss, they see a woman trustingly close her eyes and lean in for a kiss as well.
What attracts men to women
9. Interrupted breathing.
A kiss that turns men on isn’t everything. The way a woman breathes intermittently after a kiss is also very attractive. It’s like a signal that a man likes her.
10. How a woman purses her lips
The lips are a very sensual part of the body. A man who sees a woman pursing her lips, especially when concentrating, finds it passionate and sweet.
11. How a woman bites her lip
There is a reason why biting the lip is a primordial form of flirting. There is something about it that makes men notice a woman. And, when a woman sees some guy looking at her while she unknowingly bites her lip, she can be sure that he is already thinking about her.
12. How a girl blushes.
Men find blushing girls very cute. It’s one of those girly things they adore.
13. When a girl is trying to reach for something
When a girl is in the grocery store, for example, and reaches for a jar of pasta sauce, or if a girl lives with a guy and in the kitchen tries to reach for the top shelf, a man will not rush to help – he admires the sight of an elongated female body.
14. When the girl is arching her back.
She’s tired of sitting at her desk or just wants a good stretch. It’s just a stretch for her, but for guys it’s more than that. The sight of her arching is very attractive.
15. Giggle
The sincere giggle that lights up her face is enough to make guys feel the same happiness. It’s even more attractive if the girl laughs at his jokes.
What turns men on.
16. Eye wrinkles when a girl laughs
The way your skin near your eyes wrinkles when you smile can really appeal to guys. It shows that you have a good sense of humor and are confident enough to laugh when you want to.
17. When she calls his name.
Men like it when women call (even in a whisper) their name. Even if she needs to call him to help with some little thing, it already sounds enticing.
18. Holding what between the lips.
There’s still something sensual about a girl biting down on a straw or a pen. For a girl, it can be something mundane that she doesn’t think about at all, but if you look at the guy’s face at this time, you can see him watching her movements intently.
19. When she wrinkles her nose
It’s one of those girly things that men like. When she concentrates on something, or even when she doesn’t like something, a girl can wrinkle her nose in disgust. That’s cute!
20. When she’s a little unsure of herself
Sure, men love confident women, but when a confident woman relaxes for a second, it’s cute. For example, she’s thinking about how she’s going to look in this or that outfit.
21. When a girl is fascinated by a movie
One of the nice things that men love, though they may not admit it, is when she is so engrossed in a movie that it seems as if she has fallen into a trance.
22. When she’s nervous.
Of course, a man doesn’t like it when a woman gets nervous. But if she gets a little flustered, like over cleaning, or is on edge because she can’t decide what to wear, that’s pretty cute.
23. The Caring Side.
When she shows her caring side, it’s one of those feminine traits he loves, and whether he admits it or not, it makes his eyes sparkle!
24. When she sings without realizing it
When she sings to herself or starts singing along while driving or in the shower, guys love it.
25. When she gets excited.
There’s something special about a girl when she’s excited about something. It’s like she goes back to her childhood for a second! It’s one of those cute details that a man likes.
