What a man needs from a woman. Five conditions for a man’s love.
Is there an “ideal formula for feminine behavior with a man” and if so, what is it?
Many people ask this question, but everything really is not complicated, and although in love affairs, all individuals, it is safe to highlight the five conditions, following which a woman will forever hold the heart of men. Fifteen years on the subject of intimate relationships and well versed in it, I – Andrew Ryder, I assure you that almost any man expects from his beloved:
- Emotional support
- Care and comfort
- Playfulness and intrigue
- Grooming and sex appeal
- His own sexual satisfaction
If a man gets all this from his chosen one, he puts her on a pedestal of Love, appreciates her and does not think about cheating. In fact, this is the ABCs of relationships. These are both the conditions for their stability and the conditions for the preservation of a man’s Love.
And since each of these conditions is important in its own way, let us examine them separately.
The emotional support of a woman for her man
A man needs respect and recognition, thereby he asserts himself, and he expects it in the first place from his beloved woman, the one who is closest to him, whom he trusts and on whom he can rely in life.
In order to live up to the expectations of your loved one, a woman needs to:
- Demonstrate faith in her man
- Stress his importance and exclusivity
- Praise him at every opportunity
- Rejoice with him in his successes
- Support him in difficult situations
- Empathize with him when he is not successful
- Criticize him as little as possible
If a woman in all things support a man, empathizes with him, interested in his affairs, if it is emotionally close to him and shows responsiveness, he appreciates it. Feeling himself in her eyes the most important, the best, the most necessary, he sees her kindred spirit, and even muse. From such women rarely go.
2. Care and comfort.
This condition has material and psychological components. The material component is quite clear. This means to be a caring wife and a good, diligent hostess, carefully equipping the family home. No matter how protocol it may sound, but there is no way without it. By the psychological component of comfort refers to the psychological atmosphere in the home and conflict-free relationships. Nothing destroys them so quickly as prolonged conflict. And here the woman should be the first to act as a reconciliator, she needs to be more flexible. By making compromises and playing along with a man, a wise woman skillfully smoothes out conflicts. Love nest vyet more likely it, and it defines the feeling of warmth felt by a man at home.
The presence of intrigue in a relationship and the playfulness of the woman
Love is a game, the most exciting and interesting game in life. To make sure that relationships do not become boring and boring, you need to keep the intrigue in them, and the key role here – for a woman. It is important to be herself, to be playful kitty, and do not become the perception of men familiar housewife and solid mother of his children. If she does not tease the man, does not flirt and not seduce, if it completely depends on him, predictable and completely understandable, he may pull to the side – for the game, hunting and intrigue.
4. A woman’s grooming and sexual attractiveness
The fashion for “naturalness” does a disservice to sexuality, and many women over the years neglect taking care of themselves, thinking that they should be loved as they are. They relax, and in vain, no one owes them anything, these are not the times.
Of course, behind all this there is work, time, and money. But there are no other options. If a woman does not make it a habit to work on her grooming, if she allows herself to relax in this respect, let her not be surprised at the role of the house slipper, who is forgiven for being wrinkled, scuffed and shapeless, but is treated accordingly. Yes, a woman in this respect is more difficult than a man, and she has to work more on her appearance. But these are the laws of nature. A man loves with his eyes, and there’s nothing that can be done about that. Illusions in this respect are dangerous.
5. Sexual Satisfaction in a Man
Whether women like it or not, but for men there is no true love without sex. The rule “NO SEX – NO LOVE” is 100% valid here. That is a good sex with the woman he loves is the highest expression of love for men, sex is primarily strengthens it. Sensuality of relationship is not crossed out, it’s important for a man, but sex is the foundation of his love.
Understanding and accepting this, a woman can perfectly build a relationship with a man using her sexuality. And on the other hand, if a man lacks sex, the relationship will not be stable. As cynical as it sounds, the way to a man’s heart is through his balls, and it really is.
And while you may find this ending harsh, believe me, it is realistic. “What does a man need from a woman” is the question we asked ourselves, right? I have tried to answer it for you.
That said, we ended on sex for a reason, because:
- First, it is the most fragile part of a long-term relationship
- Secondly, it’s the most satisfying thing about happiness.
- and thirdly, it’s the most reliable thing that binds you to a man, because of a man’s dog nature.
I have developed a special workbook for women, “How to SAVE A MAN’S LOVE. 10 Rules of a skillful woman and checklist for them. Being a supporter of stability in relationships, tried to clearly and concretely describe in it, what to do a woman, not allowing love to cool down.
This is a FREE, but cool book for women who value relationships and want to live in harmony, without cheating. Use it and you will be much more successful in your personal life.
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Andrew Ryder
You need to be creative in your attitude to life and enjoy it!
But do it with reason, and in this I can help people. – Happy personal life – stable, harmonious relationships – a vibrant intimate life you just can have it all, and I tell you how.
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I have been helping people build happiness in their personal lives and competently build relationships for 15 years.
I am not a psychologist, and relationship TECHNOLOGIST. In a relationship is more important literate behavior than psychology, and I teach you to build them competently. Competently, it means for your benefit.
I am a proponent of a creative approach to personal life and relationships: they need to DEVELOP you, bringing pleasure. Do you agree? Then we’re in the same boat!
A psychologist talks about three things men need in a relationship
Women and men are built very differently. Therefore, they are often difficult to understand each other. Even if there is reciprocity, trust and even love in the relationship. What do men need most from their woman?
This post will be drenched in stiff bristles, a worn leather jacket, a paper cut finger without a single tear, an extra-rare steak and Happy Carpenter deodorant.
Men need two things in a relationship
Okay, three. But two are basic.
Let’s start with the third, why not.
That thing is sympathy and maybe love.
Why “maybe”? Because relationships don’t start with love, they start with sympathy.
And if you entered into a relationship with a stubbly individual in a leather jacket, you like him. And he likes you.
Unless, of course, we are talking about the fact that a woman, blinded by her own personal desires, does not see a man as a man. And sees him as a male as a means to achieve personal goals (family, child, marriage, material comfort).
The woman, as a rule, does not realize this at all. Because she is blinded by her desires, she will not initially feel sympathy for a man, but will fall into the illusion that she does.
Then it is not a relationship at all. And there’s not much happiness in such a relationship.
But if you really like a man, you know that a man needs two things:
- To be treated like a man.
- To be appreciated.
Let’s start with the first point, because a lot of women don’t understand what it is to treat a man like a man.
I see this in practice with enviable regularity – the woman behaves hypertrophied.
She’s in charge of the couple, and it’s not about location. It’s about the fact that she is the adult in the couple, and next to her is a child and an infantilist, who basically gets used to this role. As a result, the adult woman, who quickly takes on motherly functions with the sauce of “what a bad boy I’ve got,” and the husband-child with the sauce of “yes, I am!” form a semblance of a relationship. A semblance, because in this relationship, sex is the first thing that is covered. Behind it, the male-female roles are leveled, giving place to the parent-child relationship.
- The man is no longer considered a man.
- He is not relied upon.
- His measure of responsibility is questioned.
- He is routinely doubted and lost credibility.
Have you ever been regularly doubted? This condition completely robs a man of his faith in himself.
- One does not sleep with him.
- He is not aroused.
- People are angry at him all the time.
- They are chronically dissatisfied with him.
Active anger is replaced by passive anger, but the attitude towards him as a person who does not finish something, does not change.
And then the question arises to women – that’s why you need such happiness? If you:
- Do not believe in your man
- Do not rely on him,
- disappointed in him to such an extent that you constantly feel passive aggression towards him,
he won’t be happy with you. And you with him.
Do I divorce at this point? No, but start working on your relationship to your man as a man.
Second point. Exactly how to appreciate a man.
And this is where the question comes in, “Why a man?! Everyone should be valued!”
Because forget about your own person for a second and look at the other one.
If you have a liking for that man, you’ll want to ask yourself, “What is it that he needs, and not ‘everyone’?” If not, read the above. He may be a tool for you to SELF-actualize, and then it’s not about the relationship.
Men live in a world of achievement. It’s important for them to be positively evaluated because the world of men is very hierarchical. Men look at each other top-down or bottom-up.
How they look at others depends on how a man looks at himself. Therefore, a man:
- Should know that he is good,
- needs to hear it first and foremost from his woman.
A man needs to be praised and appreciated for his achievements. Yes, he does! Yes, any!
– Maybe I should make him some bread and butter, too!”
– Not necessarily. Just praise him if he made bread and butter himself. Notice this.
It’s incredibly valuable to a man when a woman notices and celebrates his accomplishments. Even the smallest, and especially them. Because without them, big accomplishments are impossible.
And support. Not a constant criticism, but support. First of all emotional. It consists of a woman’s calm, in a warm word, in a soft contact in which a man can relax for a while and go back to the tough competitive world of men.
To support is not to get involved in his problems. Supportive doesn’t mean opening him up forcibly if he’s not ready.
It’s from a point of sympathy (again!) to hear him and to be able to appreciate him.
Basically, two things. Based on the third. But a great many relationships do so without them. And where a man doesn’t feel like a man, a woman doesn’t feel like a woman. And vice versa.
But I write so much about women that I want to side with men now for a change and twist John F. Kennedy’s phrase “Don’t ask what the motherland can do for you. Ask what you can do for the motherland.” Don’t ask why the man didn’t do the dishes. Ask yourself if you see him as a man.
If you don’t want or can’t make a man feel like a man in a relationship with you, you both lose.
What does your experience say? Have you ever been able to consciously change the way you feel about a man? How did it change the relationship? published by econet.ru
P.S. And remember, just changing our consciousness – together we change the world! © econet
