The guy does not call for a week: a description in all the details

The beginning of a relationship. The guy calls rarely. What to do?

Girls I have been dating a guy for a month, the first week we saw each other every other day. Now we see each other twice a week. One thing bothers me that he disappeared for 3 days during the second week and did not call me, when I called him I expressed my dissatisfaction, he was making excuses, saying he was busy. Then I saw him very affectionate, caring, and gentle. I could see that he liked me. But he disappears, does not call, does not write for a day or two, if I call him, he is always glad, and communicates affectionately. Yesterday he did not call, did not write, today he wrote a good morning beloved in kontakte and all the day disappeared, went into the evening vkontakte nothing wrote. I thought I would take a walk, but I do not want to write. Who had such situations, what to do what to do? It turns out I’m winding myself up, angry, and he calls, we meet and I understand by his voice and look that all is well. Damn, I do not know what to think. Need your advice.

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And there are women with the principle of not calling a man at all. You know…)

I would stop relations with a man like that, if he doesn’t call then he doesn’t want to.

I had one like that. He calls and writes when he “gets it up”… When I called him, he was nice and polite. But he himself to call me – Never… So the author… you get the point…

That’s what the problem is:

╚I thought we’d go out, but I don’t want to text myself.

Roughly speaking, you want to receive, but you don’t want to give. The position is not too honest, but everything, of course, only one thing decides ≈ because you’re a girl, you don’t have to.

So you’re just going to sit there. Waiting for the mega-initiative.

There is already a mega-initiative. That’s why I think I should probably give up on him. That’s not very nice of him. Wrote him an angry text yesterday and he ignored me.

There is already a mega-initiative. That’s why I think I should probably give up on him. That’s not very nice of him. Wrote him an angry text yesterday and he ignored me.

That’s right. He’s probably got another one.

And how do you want him to call? Because my friend’s boyfriend called her every 10 minutes – you can not go to a cafe, or just to walk around, talk. When you start to discuss something – phone call.

And how do you want him to call? Because my friend’s boyfriend called her every 10 minutes – you can not go to a cafe, or just to walk around, talk. When you start to discuss something – phone call.

And you only have extremes? I, too, think that if a guy disappears, for a few days, then it’s very stupid to build a relationship with him and seek attention to yourself.

And you only have extremes? I, too, think that if a guy disappears, for a few days, then it’s very stupid to build a relationship with him and seek attention to yourself.

No, it’s just interesting to know. I think it’s just the type of person who doesn’t consider all these calls and correspondence to be important. If the author is not happy with it, then let her stop the relationship with him.

P.S. Personally, I wouldn’t like such an attitude either.

Well, at least once a day, he is constantly on the road, those in the office did not sit, why can not pick up the phone and call. I once wrote him a similar sms he did not call for two days, and then he called to apologize and said I would be corrected and that was it, again the same.

Well, at least once a day, he is constantly on the road, those in the office did not sit, why can not pick up the phone and call. I once wrote him a similar sms he did not call for two days, and then he called to apologize and said I would be corrected and that was it, again the same.

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He has a phone half his hand when he’s driving, why not pick it up and call. I here do not understand it, honestly. And to see 2 times, or even 1 a week at the beginning of a relationship, too, I think not cool.

Either he has another / others or you are not so interesting. In any case, here correctly said, to seek his attention silly and makes no sense. Leave him alone. If he calls you, chat to him nicely, refuse to see him because he’s busy.

I would stop relations with a man like that, if he doesn’t call then he doesn’t want to.

IF HE DOESN’T CALL, THEN HE HAS THINGS TO DO! Men they look at the constant calls a little differently (if they are real men) why the endless communication? he knows that he has a girlfriend, they have a relationship, everything is fine.Without any diarrhea, they meet he behaves perfectly- problems? better personal meetings filled with romance than endless correspondence and callbacks, myself such as just be, all this girls, from our hypochondria;)

IF HE DOESN’T CALL, THEN HE HAS THINGS TO DO! Men they look at the constant calls a little differently (if they are real men) why the endless communication? he knows that he has a girlfriend, they have a relationship, everything is fine.Without any diarrhea, they meet he behaves perfectly- problems? better personal meetings filled with romance than endless correspondence and callbacks, myself such as just be, all this girls, from our hypochondria;)

I think that if a guy does not call often he is just busy!

Girls think he’s with someone!!! But he’s not!!!

IF HE DOESN’T CALL, THEN HE HAS THINGS TO DO! Men they look at the constant calls a little differently (if they are real men) why the endless communication? he knows that he has a girlfriend, they have a relationship, everything is fine.Without any diarrhea, they meet he behaves perfectly- problems? better personal meetings filled with romance than endless correspondence and callbacks, myself such as just be, all this girls, from our hypochondria;)

It’s very wise comment. not everyone likes to talk on the phone. the main thing is how he treats you in real life. You said yourself, he meets twice a week, and is affectionate on the phone. The rest of the time he can work, competing with other males, earning money for your future country house. to leave because of this is nothing more than adolescent maximalism, so you will be in your old age and throw away relationships? In short, this is not your guy, look for a bum like yourself, you will communicate and make out 24 hours a day.

And there are women with the principle of not calling a man at all. You know…)

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Girls I have been dating a guy for a month, the first week we saw each other every other day. Now we see each other twice a week. One thing bothers me that he disappeared for 3 days during the second week and did not call me, when I called him I expressed my dissatisfaction, he was making excuses, saying he was busy. Then I saw him very affectionate, caring, and gentle. I could see that he liked me. But he disappears, does not call, does not write for a day or two, if I call him, he is always glad, and communicates affectionately. Yesterday he did not call, did not write, today he wrote a good morning beloved in kontakte and all the day disappeared, went into the evening vkontakte nothing wrote. I thought I would take a walk, but I do not want to write. Who had such situations, what to do what to do? It turns out I’m winding myself up, angry, and he calls, we meet and I understand by his voice and look that all is well. Damn, I do not know what to think. Need your advice.

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I get that from time to time with guys, too. And you shouldn’t tolerate it if you like a guy. there are two options. the first, now everyone behaves that way and that way is fashionable, the second is more realistic for me-he has someone else, or he doesn’t take you seriously enough to write, call and meet as often as you would like.

My boyfriend has gone away where there is no connection and he is still not there, whether he has come or not I am very worried. or he has forgotten, does not want to communicate…

I have a lot of questions in my head and no answers. I called him, but his brother answered the phone. and said he did not come, but that was two weeks ago

I am waiting for his call and hope that he will call me. I feel bad mentally and do not want to break up with him, I do not want to!(( What shall I do? I do not have the strength to stand it anymore or call him myself or wait for(((((

I agree with Albina. I think that the phone is necessary for business. to arrange a meeting. and I do not understand the author. a relationship has just begun, and you are already freaking out, making claims. that is why men are running away from you. a normal man will not call just like that.

He has a phone half his hand when he’s driving, why not pick it up and call. I here do not understand it, honestly. And to see 2 times, or even 1 a week at the beginning of a relationship, too, I think not cool.

I saw my husband once a month. and it’s okay. look for a bum. he will spend all his fun with you

There is a good saying – do not seek to waste time on a man who does not want to spend it with you.

If the author has no mutual interest in the guy, he could easily be in contemplation – who he is for her.

By experience – if I call and talk to me without enthusiasm, from meetings of excused, self-initiative in communication 0 (the first never calls) – although when we meet all pretty well and positively, but when the next call again any excuses and glitches – I do not want to call and run into another pitchfork.

Such a feeling develops that many girls perechitelya different books on the account of “bitches” and the like, but since great practice for the application of the techniques described there they do not – all this goes sideways for both .

I have this problem now. He is constantly driving. I call, or no answer, or resets, then he says that either the account did not have money or did not want me to be expensive, or was busy on the road. And we are not teenagers for a long time (we are 32 years old). Sometimes I feel like I’m being taken for a ride, and then I think, “maybe I’m complicating things?” But this is the beginning of a relationship, I want to see him every 5 minutes, not once every two weeks

It’s very wise comment. not everyone likes to talk on the phone. the main thing is how he treats you in real life. You said yourself, he meets twice a week, and is affectionate on the phone. The rest of the time he can work, competing with other males, earning money for your future country house. to leave because of this is nothing more than adolescent maximalism, so you will be in your old age and throw away relationships? In short, this is not your guy, look for a bum like yourself, you will communicate and make out 24 hours a day.

I saw my husband once a month. and it’s okay. look for a bum. he will spend all his fun with you

And what good is that? and what about idleness? and that people who see each other more often, 3-4 times a day, in the evening after work and spend the weekend, say, that they all homeless, or what? what narrow-mindedness. his non-ideal situation to stick on the situation of the author and say that it should be so!

The author, this is NOT normal. Whether he is busy, whether he earns money for the cottage (although even so you can still call, what prevents the call?), whether he is such in life (like a “man” – calls on business) or (moreover) there is a parallel option, I think, such relations with emotional demanding girls like you, are doomed. I would be in your place broke up with him and was looking for a similar temperament, and he is looking for a phlegmatic girl who does not care about communication.

3-4 times a week.

And what good is this? and what about idleness? and that people who see each other more often, 3-4 times a day, in the evening after work and spend the weekend, say, that they all homeless, or what? what a narrow-mindedness. his non-ideal situation to stick on the situation of the author and say that this is how it should be! The author, this is NOT normal. Whether he is busy, whether he earns money for the cottage (although even so you can still call, what prevents the call?), whether he is such in life (like a “man” – calls on business) or (moreover) there is a parallel option, I think, such relations with emotional demanding girls like you, are doomed. I would be in your place broke up with him and looked for a similar temperament, and he is looking for a phlegmatic girl who does not care about communication.

I completely agree with you. I am surprised by women who think they are smarter than others, justifying the male indifference, some women half-men…in fact, some examples that saw her husband once a month…Your daughter if she finds such a guy and comes crying, “Mom, why does not he pay attention to me? you tell her, forget it, it’s normal. ” Yeah? Author. I myself am in a similar situation right now, and my feeling is that it’s not normal! I’m not scolding this man or judging him. He used to write about his feelings, about everything without shutting up, and now he rarely and writes it off to bad internet performance… Words of criticism from me he did not hear! But I have now read and decided to make a decision to leave. I do not want to find out anything, to be offended, to prove, and just leave. Mine will not leave me, and neither will you! God loves us all and will give everyone the one we deserve and are looking for. My man will take my pain as his, because we have a family to build and children to raise, and with those who are still playing cat and mouse and have not grown up it is impossible. they are green, undercooked.

If a man stopped writing and calling: how to behave.

It is unpleasant for anyone to be in a state of incomprehension about what is happening in his personal life. If a man stopped writing and calling, a girl tries to understand how to behave. She wants to get specific, but at the same time not to impose on the young man. Let’s think logically, what actions should be taken, and from which it is better to give up.

Analyze the situation

Before writing to your lover, you should independently analyze the situation. The ignoring could be a consequence of a quarrel. Try to remember whether there were conflict situations between you and your lover. Perhaps he was hurt by any words or actions.

If a woman is sure that she could be the cause of the ignoring, you should take the first step and try to talk. It is better to start the conversation right away with the problem, explaining the position in an argumentative way.

It is difficult to understand the other person without talking. Therefore, before making a serious decision, you should definitely explain yourself. A girl should not wait for a man to write first, if the situation is eating her up. You can call or write first. Further action depends on the reaction of a man.

Reasons why a man may not write and do not call

The reasons for the absence of calls and messages from her lover may be different:

  • no feelings have arisen or disappeared in relation to the girl;
  • She really liked the man, but he is afraid to show his love or affection;
  • “Price gouging” – by ignoring her plans to make the girl want to fight with other suitors (sometimes invented by the man) for him;
  • the chosen one is in a relationship or has a family;
  • force majeure, a difficult situation at work or in the family;
  • worries that the woman does not have feelings for him (sometimes he thinks that he is not worthy of a young person);
  • Does not want to change the familiar life, to let another person into it;
  • decided to take a break in the relationship.

Sometimes the reasons for such behavior the man himself can’t even explain. Situations are different. In addition to making decisions in his personal life, you have to deal with other problems. Some young people find it difficult to accept change, so you should not put off talking for long.

Should I call or text first?

It’s wrong to think that you shouldn’t be the first to write or call a man. Impose is not necessary – this is a fact. But to try to understand the situation is necessary to understand where to go next.

If a man makes contact and tries to explain the reason he is missing, it is necessary to listen to the man. But you should be careful what the lover says, especially when the girl has not known the man for a long time. He can take advantage of the situation and present his own laziness under the guise of global problems.

When a young man does not answer calls and messages or does it rarely, you should think. Imposing in this case is definitely not worth it. A man who wants to continue communicating will make contact. Replying to a message does not take much time.

There is no need to write and call. If the man reads the message, but does not answer for several days, and it is impossible to reach him, just make conclusions about the man and move on.

How long should I wait before writing first?

There is no specific time. A woman should live her life to her satisfaction and do as she feels comfortable. You can wait a few hours, a day, a week, a month. However, do not put high expectations on this man.

Psychologists advise to wait for an answer about a week. This time is enough to solve problems or to sort yourself out.

During the waiting period should not disturb the man. He may have serious problems, and because of the constant messages from his chosen one he will worry even more. When everything is resolved, the person will definitely call back, make an appointment and try to explain the situation.

Is it worth waiting for an answer?

Every girl at least once wondered how to behave if a man stopped writing and calling. Definitely should not wait for an answer, refusing to meet with friends or admirers. When communicating with a man should not forget about your hobbies that existed before his appearance in her life.

Continue to work on yourself, do the usual things. Do not give up everything and sit around waiting for the call. There is a chance that the man will not want to continue communicating. It is not clear how long a woman will have to wait for reciprocity.

It can take days, weeks or even months. It is better to spend this time on personal development. It is not necessary to immediately look for a replacement for the young man, but also to forget about themselves and their interests should not be.

What to do if the constant initiator is a girl?

It is normal that a woman does not like to be the constant initiator in communication. If a man is interested in his chosen one, this problem usually does not arise. However, you should not jump to conclusions, you should discuss the issue.

To solve the problem you should:

  • inform the man that this kind of communication does not suit you;
  • If he is willing to change, you should give it a chance;
  • In the case where the man does not make contact, refuses to change or does not keep his promise, it is better to stop the relationship;
  • do not repeatedly talk about the problem, an adult will understand the complaint and offer a solution the first time.

Do not be afraid to end a relationship where you are not appreciated and do not take seriously what you have said.

If the reason for ignoring is not serious

Remember that everyone has his own understanding of the seriousness of the situation. But if, having objectively assessed the situation, the girl has decided for herself that the reason why the young man disappeared was stupid, you should not give a second chance. A relationship in which a partner can disappear for a few days because of parties, outings with friends, and vacations should be ended.

How do you get out of a relationship without losing face?

Romantic relationships that come to an end often end in loud scandals. However, a girl can break up nicely, leaving only positive memories of herself.

If the young man has stopped getting in touch, there is no point in arguing. Leave a brief and concise message to the person. The reason for separation can not explain. It is sufficient to let the man know that you do not intend to wait.

In person or by SMS should indicate that you have different views on life and communication. For this reason, it will be better for you to break up. When there is no desire to explain anything, simply notify the young man that you do not want to communicate and the relationship is over.

Is it necessary to ignore the man in response?

This kind of behavior should be avoided. There is no need to act like a small child. If a man has a serious reason for not responding, this kind of behavior of his chosen one will definitely not like. Try to calmly respond to messages and respond to calls from the young man.

After the man got in touch and explained the situation, you should not rush into his arms and be in touch every second. This will help to show your chosen one that you have your own life, interests, friends, work.

A few rules from psychologists, which should be adhered to, so that the situation will not repeat:

  • Explain to the young man that ignoring the relationship is unacceptable to you (if he does not want to explain the reason for his behavior, he can simply report a difficult situation);
  • Answers to messages and phone calls for 1.5-2 weeks should be dry;
  • Wait for the man to apologize for missing and ignoring, only then begin to gradually show care and a warm attitude;
  • Stay calm, do not try to put pressure on the man if he does not want to talk about what caused his silence;
  • For the sake of a meeting with a young man do not cancel your business, it’s better to ask to postpone the date to another day or time.

In any situation, the girl must remain a person with interests and principles. Do not constantly make concessions, men are quickly bored with it.

The bottom line is .

Girls often wonder how to behave if a man has stopped calling and writing. There is no specific list of actions, it all depends on the reasons why he disappeared, and his future behavior. Endlessly calling and writing to him is not worth it. When he wants to resume communication, he will apologize and explain the reason for ignoring you. With a man who preferred to party with friends over communication with his girlfriend, it is better to leave immediately. However, the decision on the further development of relations will remain with the woman.

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