The girl calls the guy – we’ll tell you in detail

My man calls my other!

Hello all! Need some advice. The situation is as follows. My boyfriend and I have been living together for a few months. From time to time a girl calls him. She says they have known each other for a long time over the internet. They have never seen each other in real life, only through photos. It bothers me. He moved to my place from another city. She lives in my city. Coincidence? I don’t know. All evenings and weekends we’re at home together. He doesn’t go anywhere by himself, no friends here yet.

Talk to him, tell him how you feel, that you feel uncomfortable and all that. if he has feelings he should understand you and stop talking on the phone.

I told him I didn’t like it. Especially since she was calling after ten o’clock at night. He said that I was right about the late calls, but that he would not stop talking to her because he liked her. And he was not going to go out with her. Now she doesn’t call in the evenings. But I suspect that they do call in the daytime when I’m at work.

That’s the thing, I feel something is wrong. He’s nice to me, but when he talks to her in front of me, he gets tense. Men all cheat sooner or later. It’s probably best to turn a blind eye. If he wants to, he’ll find a way. I had the thought of calling her. But I don’t know what to say. And again, she can so present it to him, wh we just quarrel. And I don’t want to do it because of her.

That’s the thing, I feel something is wrong. He’s nice to me, but when he talks to her in front of me, he gets tense. Men all cheat sooner or later. It’s probably best to turn a blind eye. If he wants to, he’ll find a way. I had the thought of calling her. But I don’t know what to say. And again, she can so present it to him, wh we just quarrel. And I don’t want to do it because of her.

What do you mean, “in person”? I’m on the forums rarely. Where do I go to read it? Sorry for the stupid question))))

What do you mean, “in person”? I’m on the forums rarely. Where do I go to read it? Sorry for the stupid question))))

That’s the thing, I feel something is wrong. He’s nice to me, but when he talks to her in front of me, he gets tense. Men all cheat sooner or later. It’s probably best to turn a blind eye. If he wants to, he’ll find a way. I had the thought of calling her. But I don’t know what to say. And again, she can so present it to him, wh we just quarrel. And I don’t want to do it because of her.

it’s his ex-girlfriend! they didn’t work out, she came to her senses, decided to go back to her old and good friend, and here you are a nuisance!

it’s his ex-girlfriend! they didn’t work out, she came to her senses, decided to go back to her old and good friend, and here you are a nuisance!

And how to behave in this situation? I do not want to look for ways to keep him, etc. A man must be free to choose. I do not want to allow myself to deceive either. I am confused. Maybe you should talk to her.

Ask some of the men you know, that they also call you periodically in the evening, let your MH listen – and see if he feels good or not.

I did, a young man called a few times in the evening. I told him it was just an acquaintance, too. My man was jealous, I could see that. Nevertheless he continues to communicate with her, now he tries to make sure it doesn’t happen in my presence. And I think about it all the time. Why would he do that? It’s a strange friendship.

such a relationship of the old should be cut off at once, better a new one to sleep with than an old one to have feelings for!

such a relationship of the old should be cut off at once, better a new one to sleep with than an old one to have feelings for!

I talked to him. He answers all my questions. We have known each other for a long time, now they communicate and now they do not communicate. We have never seen each other in real life. He says that he came to see me and that he changed his job, city, etc. for my sake and that this is the best proof of his relationship with me.

There is one text message with her home address, and it is an old one (back in February) and my texts. The rest are probably deleted.

Very likely a backup. He’s probably keeping it as a backup, just to keep you in suspense. He can use it as moral blackmail in the future if he realizes it really bothers you. Be careful. Keep your suspicions to yourself, but keep your guard up.

Talk to her. Why not? Listen to what she has to say. I’d go all the way. What town do you live in? And where does he come from? He’s living with you and I don’t know what he’s doing. I do not know, I think to suffer and worry for sure you should not, and if she tells him about your call, just say so, yes, I called, I am a woman, I have emotions and I want to understand what you do. I don’t think he’s going to go anywhere from you – where? And from talking to her, you’ll know who you are – the backup or the girl you love.

Should a girl call a guy herself? Why?

Most guys do not like the girl to call them herself, but there are exceptions, and what do you think is the right thing to do?

I think both parties should call each other! That’s what Love is all about !

I’m not going to analyze the etiquette statute, as it’s boring and tedious. I will give my personal opinion.

The girl should not, but can call the guy. However, on business. The phone, as a matter of fact, was invented to make some messages during the call. If the girl will call the guy incessantly, giving the same phrase: “Hi, how are you?”, then the phone romance can end with the guy answering: “Hi, I’m fine, but the battery is about to run out. Bye.”

You should never make love an opportunity to get in the way of a person’s life. It would be both unethical and unfriendly and pointless.

Even though a boyfriend and girlfriend have a loving relationship, I don’t think they owe each other anything. Without a mutual desire to please each other, it is impossible to achieve a good and strong relationship, and subsequently marriage. Commitments, what they will and will not have to do, a guy and a girl will make after marriage, and each one will make his own. Even during marriage, in my opinion, there is no such obligation on a husband or wife as to who calls first to each other, and if it is a girl and a guy just being friends, even less so.

So I don’t think a girl should call a guy first, it should be a desire to call first. But you shouldn’t call first all the time either, because it’s already a sign that if a guy never calls first, then he’s not too interested in the girl.

I, as a guy, wouldn’t mind.

Well, what’s the big deal, it’s just one of the links of female emancipation, which is already firmly in our world, and there’s nothing wrong with it.

And if you also take into account that the boys today are not resolute, so if the girls do not call, the human race can die out. )

There can be no correctness in this matter.

There are modest girls and there are modest guys.

I guess it all depends on the temperament of the person. One thing is certain – the world has changed and now there are few modest, all active.

A man may not call a woman at all after their first unsuccessful date, or may be during a prolonged separation, and even if his affairs with the woman had been developing for a long time. This is especially unpleasant if a woman is in love and suffering because of such indifference. Do not be upset right away, thinking that a man is not interested in you at all.

Of course, the possibility that he did not call, precisely for this very reason is great, but still there may be different explanations for this behavior. Men usually use the standard excuses: did not replenish the balance, forgot your phone number, was busy at work or at school, broke his phone, etc. These patterns are often very far from the truth, so they should not be taken seriously.

But there are other reasons, even more likely. If you have been dating for some time, but the initiative, mainly, came from the man, one day he may get tired of such a state of affairs. Sometimes men deliberately do not call a woman, waiting for her to call herself. Some of the sensitive men, even sometimes, it seems that a woman only accepts courting, while remaining phlegmatic.

There is another possible reason, although it is not very nice. A man wants to subdue a woman, to force her to become dependent, and so deliberately does not call her, forcing a woman to make the first move. The coldness on the part of the man may be justified by the desire – to put himself above her. By the way, even some pick-up artists use this method to seduce a woman faster.

A man may also not call, just not knowing what to say. This often happens after a bad first date during which the gentleman was not at his best, or it seemed to him that he did not attracted a woman, and he may fear to further damage the memory of himself, or even get a firm rejection, and therefore hopes that the woman herself will call with an invitation to a new date.

In the end, sometimes a man does not call, because he does not like this woman, or he got tired of her and wants to break off communication at the time or for good. In any case, the most common method to find out the real reason is to call to find out the reason for this behavior. If he will be diligently excuse himself from the meeting, looking for a reason for the impossibility to meet with you, then it means that he does not like you and it is time to look for a new lover.

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