How to behave in a relationship with the girl
What is the relationship between a man and a woman? Fatal inevitability or a happy opportunity?
Since you called yourself a man, then it will depend on you and how properly will develop a relationship with a woman.
To be honest, it’s a woman’s prerogative to “deal” with relationships, that’s basically what she’s made for. And, unlike a man, it is better for the woman herself, if she will succeed as a wife and mother, than as a successful businesswoman. Although one does not exclude the other, which is actually very rare.
Let the woman worry and care about your love partnership, but don’t forget to monitor her actions and correct them in time. Power, put into the hands of a woman, and it will hurt her, and you, too.
So before you set foot on the path of a serious relationship with a girl, remember some rules that you need to follow.
The main recommendations are.
Be a fatalist.
A real woman doesn’t need much. A real woman needs everything! Author unknown.
You and I, dear reader, such cries can not get through. You and I know for sure that real men, just like women, do not exist, and that unreal men and women are mannequins in a clothes store. And if we reason absolutely sensibly, then any woman, without exception, will not have enough.
It makes no sense to a woman to talk about it, because deep down inside she has her own opinion about the male ideal, and sooner or later your chosen one will start trying to push you to transform into the image of a utopian hero. Sometimes such attempts can benefit a man, but very often it can lead to unnecessary stress in the relationship and frustration.
The ideal man for a woman is a powerful, successful, wealthy member of the male species who can give her unlimited access to material possessions, while being in love with a woman as much as possible.
But you have to take your word for it: even if that’s what a woman wants, it’s not really important for her, and some of the things you said are not necessary at all.
Strive to be successful and have an inexhaustible desire for self-improvement – this is your direct responsibility. A woman needs a man with a core, who knows what he wants, who will not bend under her, but on the contrary will control the woman. A man’s success and power run parallel to a woman’s true desires and do not always overlap.
And due to the fact that a woman is a divine but insatiable creature who takes everything she can, even if she doesn’t need it, you shouldn’t try to be good to her and give her everything you have. Be gracious, but don’t take a position of weakness. Don’t fight the feminine essence, be a fatalist.
2. be natural.
That doesn’t mean you should blow your nose in front of a girl and act like a man living on the street. Of course not.
Being natural means being yourself. You shouldn’t try on other people’s masks and try to seem like a different person.
Do not confuse this behavior with your personal desire to become a better person, your thirst for self-development.
Naturalness and spontaneity are important qualities that have an attractive power for women.
3 Be assertive and authoritarian.
In order to behave properly in a relationship with a girl, you need to understand that a woman only loves a warrior.
You’re a man, and you’re right. You go through life doing what you think is right. And if they try to put something else on you, it’s probably going to hurt you.
If you don’t want to lose value in a woman’s eyes, don’t let her push you around. Even though a woman will occasionally try to control and manipulate you, you have to stop any attempts of that kind. Be tougher.
This does not mean that the woman is a dumb puppet whose opinion should not be listened to. It’s just that the final decision should be yours. If a girl asks you for something, hiding behind the fact that it needs “us”, still think about whether such a request will not hurt you.
4. Be selfish.
You are for realizing your goals, and she is for you.
A wise woman is happy only when her man is happy. Not all women realize this, but you do not need all. If your companion does not have understanding of this issue, then you should think, but what do you need such a man?
It doesn’t make any sense to fit in with a woman, because she won’t forgive you. I hope the role of the rug at the door – this is not your position in life. So you do what you think is right for you.
Women are professional selfish women. They do what they want without much concern for your inner spiritual world. To win, play by their rules, but don’t let your girlfriend forget that your rank is higher.
Treat your date with warmth and respect, but put your own interests first. Don’t think that you owe something to your girlfriend, and there won’t be any problems in your relationship.
Don’t believe, don’t be afraid, don’t ask
1. Do not believe
Sincere we call a woman who does not lie unnecessarily. Anatole France
The nuances of a woman’s deception vary widely, from understatement and distortion of the truth to outright lying.
With a woman, always be on your guard and know that she is deceiving you if:
1) She convinces you of something with special enthusiasm
Contrary to public opinion, which is probably based on the dialogues of grannies under the porches, women, if they are good actresses, it’s only because there is no Stanislavsky among us anymore.
In other words, if you have enough experience with women, and you’ve previously caught a girl in a lie, they won’t be able to repeat this dirty trick on you, because even great actresses and memorable female roles are not so many. Gimmickry and overacting are not uncommon companions of women in attempts to mislead.
In any case, a woman’s overly convincing and emotional speech aimed at proving something to you should make you at least wary.
2) She gets upset and cries if you can’t convince her.
Women’s tears are a typical manipulation attempt. The attitude should be simple – she’ll cry and calm down.
If you think that women have a habit of crying for any reason, because they are weak and helpless, you are deeply mistaken.
Why a woman might cry:
To get something from you that you can’t get any other way.
- She is trying to hide the truth or lie. The goal of this behavior is to pretend to be helpless and resentful, thus shifting the blame onto you. And then, if you are a good “teddy bear,” perhaps she will forgive you. Well, you’ll naturally swallow the woman’s lies, you were promised forgiveness, after all.
3) She holds a pause in answering your questions
Not many women can answer your questions quickly, clearly and to the point. Well, if a woman has to answer convincingly and lie at the same time, her reaction rate will slow down even more.
In order to sustain a pause before answering a question, girls can do the following:
- Smile enigmatically.
- Slow down or shrug.
- Look at you sideways.
- Cross your arms across your chest or walk to the window.
And only after these manipulations give you an answer, speaking slower than usual.
If this happens, you are being lied to. Try to rephrase the question and ask it in a different form, under different conditions and at a different time.
4) She answers questions with questions
- Why don’t you believe me?
- Why are you interested in this?
- Why do you need to know all this?
After the woman has had some time to think about what to answer you, the sweetest lies in the world pour out to you.
5) She moves the conversation to another topic or tries to occupy you with other things
- Instead of getting an answer, you inexplicably made love, after which you forgot you were asking about something.
- Your girlfriend suddenly remembers that she urgently needs to make a very important phone call.
- “Totally accidentally” a plate broke, and your chosen one needs to pick up the pieces.
Lies again. Take it easy. Don’t freak out and don’t be nervous. You’re a man, so engage your logical thinking, gather more facts and analyze what happened.
Think about why your girlfriend is doing this. Maybe it’s absolutely nothing. Maybe you’re acting too tough and have to hide something. Do not be presumptuous, but do not make a fool of yourself.
If you managed to expose the feminine lies several times, let the girl know that you should not cheat, because the next time will be the last.
2. Don’t be afraid.
You’re afraid that a woman will insult you.
No matter how much men chortle, fear of a woman still exists.
We’re afraid of being told off, of being insulted with words, of being treated disparagingly. In general, men are afraid of getting a blow to their self-esteem.
Take these things completely calmly, because a woman is not capable of evaluating you objectively. Women are different people. They can evaluate your hair, your perfume, your car. But to understand what you are really like, they can hardly do it.
So don’t sweat it.
You’re afraid of failing.
Yes, you’re a man. But you’re still a man, not a robot. You’re going to have to make a lot of choices and decisions, sometimes even wrong ones, not without concessions and compromise. There is nothing terrible in this, and to such situations should be treated calmly.
We shouldn’t put ourselves on the same level as God, because a woman doesn’t really need the Almighty for a relationship. Each of us wants to see a man of flesh and blood nearby, and lovely ladies are no exception.
Don’t be afraid that in some areas of life your friend will be better than you. It’s just as normal as having your advantages over a woman in other areas.
Don’t be afraid to be insolvent in bed. There are many negative factors: stress, alcohol, age. Women know about it, and your companion also worries about you during s*x. Well, if you’ve heard the banter, just point the lady to the door. By the way, in that case you have a better chance to get some sleep.
You’re afraid of losing a woman.
Well, man. Let me remind you that a woman is not your purpose in life.
And even if your girlfriend is valuable to you and very dear, do not show her this excessively explicit in a needy manner, do not stick out and do not hyperbolize your feelings. Do not throw trump cards, because as soon as the woman finds your weak spot, expect a blow right there.
Realizing that she is exceptional value to you, your value to her will automatically decrease. In this case, the thought of his own uniqueness will make his girlfriend to control and manipulate you, using the threat of breaking up the relationship. Do you need this?
But if it’s already gone too far, good riddance to her. A man’s self-sufficiency and independence is worth a lot more than any woman, especially since there is no such thing as an indispensable woman. There is no woman who can not be replaced by another.
3. don’t ask.
A woman has nothing that needs to be asked of her. Love, physical intimacy, respectful treatment – these are things that it is strictly forbidden to beg.
A woman will give you everything you want on her own, because she also needs it all from you. But she won’t throw away her values to a beggar. But a self-sufficient, confident man is another matter.
Do not forget that your rank in the relationship is higher, and then the woman herself will be interested in your person.
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How to behave in a relationship with a girl : 19 comments
This is not an easy task at all, but still you need to try to show yourself so that she admires you. But to do this you need responsibility, activity and optimism. Remember that your future relationship with your girlfriend will depend on how you will behave with her. But you should never stop there.
So wait, then you won’t be who you are.
Thanks for the advice.
I am convinced by my wife that women live by their instincts, feelings and emotions, and then by their heads. Some of them do not live with their heads at all. A wife is quite capable of giving a blow to the head. For example, to cheat. Or something with money. Or with work. How should a husband, a man, behave? According to the law of the Tao, not to do anything excessively. Don’t love too much, don’t wait too much, don’t beg, don’t crawl on your knees. Do not hope too much (that she will be faithful, that she will come, that she will not vent her anger on you, that she will not fall out of love). Otherwise the payback – the wife will hit in the most exposed place. Can a wife betray her husband? The answer is she can. But women also have weaknesses. First, she always promises more than she can give. Including pleasure in *sex. Secondly, inside all this beauty, delicate figure, tempting eyes sits not a deity after all, but a man with his habits, character and the need to send life (to eat, dress, sleep, drink, go to the toilet, earn money to live). This man inside a woman can be cowardly or brave, lucky or not so lucky, shrewd or dim-witted. If the husband, the man does not get stuck on beauty, tenderness, and goes further, to the woman’s gut as a person, and is located there, then the woman’s charms are not so killer on him, he does not hang noodles on his ears and he begins to understand something. A woman always hits the sore spot in a man – his ego. Denies attention, *ex, love, affection, respect. She knows where to hit. And you agonizingly think, “Why did I get involved with her? But you didn’t get involved with her, you got involved with the relationship of the sexes, where the basic issues of the human race are solved – reproduction, survival, communication. And this sphere has its own laws, and they are quite ruthless. Through women, these laws are put into practice. And you just have to adapt to them.
And why do you and your wife need such a semi-relationship? Can a wife cheat? Is it “wife”? I mean, is “wife” isn’t a person? Certainly not a deity, an impurity, right? Can a “husband” cheat? I’ll say yes, too! Have you ever thought that you have to live not by a half-stamp, but to go to a higher level of relationship? Any man needs love, attention, care, understanding that he is welcome and appreciated. You, if you say so, your woman can not give it all. Judging by your “philosophical” comment. You “look into the gut”, but apparently do not see anything there.
Rules of etiquette for men when talking to girls: Teach a teenager
Every man should know the rules of etiquette when dealing with girls. It is recommended to instill them since childhood. So that by adolescence, the teenager respected them at an intuitive level. And did not even think before, for example, to open the door to his girlfriend and let her first.
We will talk about what rules of etiquette to teach a teenage boy.
Rules of etiquette when talking to a girl
The difference between the phrases “I invite you” and “Let’s go to a restaurant”
There is a very big difference between these phrases. When a teenager says to his girlfriend, “I’m inviting you to a restaurant,” it means that only he has to pay the bill. If a teenager says the phrase, “Let’s go out to a restaurant,” it means that both people pay the bill. Both the guy and his girlfriend.
Even in the latter case, however, the teenager can pay the bill himself. However, he must ask if the lady of the heart agrees to accept his proposal. If she answers in the affirmative, the man can pay the bill.
It is forbidden to visit a girl without calling her first
Explain to the teenager that it is indecent to visit a girl without warning. He should obligatory call the lady of his heart. And warn her that he plans to meet her. Otherwise, the girl is not prepared. And meet the teenager at the door in a robe and curlers.
Explain to the teenager that putting the phone on the table in a restaurant or cafe is a sign of disrespect for the interlocutor
A teenager should by no means put a smartphone on the table in a cafe or restaurant. Subconsciously the interlocutor perceives this as disrespectful to her. Because she thinks that the phone is more important to the teenager than the dialogue.
Teach the teenager to communicate with the girl on the phone, not on the Internet.
Of course, social networks and messengers are a convenient means of communication. In which you and your girlfriend can discuss the weather, life and more. However, you do not need to call the girl on a date in social networks and messengers.
She will be much more pleasant if the teenager calls her on her cell phone, and her voice says: “Hi, I invite you to a restaurant / walk / go to a museum, the cinema. And so on.
Teach your teenager to discuss important things over the phone only. And not through messengers, social networks and texts.
A man should never carry a woman’s bag.
Explain to the teenager that carrying a woman’s bag is not allowed. Even if the girl asks for it strongly. This is a violation of the rules of etiquette. The most a teenager can do is hold the purse while his girlfriend, for example, ties her shoelaces. Wearing it permanently is not allowed.
Coats, jackets and other outerwear girl also can not be worn
The girl’s outerwear should not be worn by a teenager under any circumstances either. A teenager may only take a jacket or coat in his hands to take them to the checkroom.
If a girl says hello to her acquaintance/acquaintance, the teenager should do it too
When a girl says hello to someone she doesn’t know, the teenager should say hello, too. If the lady of the heart says hello to the company, the teenager should greet all of its members. Shake their hands.
Men can eat sushi with both chopsticks and hands
Most people are mistaken when they think that sushi can only be eaten with chopsticks. This rule applies to girls. However, men can eat sushi with their hands as well.
A man should walk in clean shoes
Teach the teenager that his shoes should be clean at absolutely all times. No matter what kind of weather it is outside, they should be cleaned before going out. If your shoes are dirty, it is a sign of bad manners.
How should a man walk down the street with a girl?
Explain to your teenager that when walking down the street, he should walk to the left of his girlfriend. Only men who are serving in the army can stay on the right side. In order to salute in case of emergency.
Rules of conduct in cinemas, theaters and concerts
When a teenager and a girl come to the cinema, theater or concert, they have to find their place. And go to him through people. In this case, the teenager should move exclusively facing the direction of those sitting. But not with his back. Because it’s a sign of bad form.
The teenager should enter the restaurant first
A man should walk through the door of the restaurant first. By who enters the establishment first, the receptionist will determine the person who plans to pay the bill.
If a teenager comes into the establishment with a group of his friends, the first person to enter should be the one who called everyone in. The one who plans to pay the bill.
If there is a doorman at the entrance to the restaurant, the teenager must necessarily let the girl go in first. After that, the teenager needs to choose a table to sit at.
Teach your teenager not to go overboard with perfume
Explain to the teenager how to properly use perfume. How much of it to apply. And how not to overdo it.
Teach your teen to spray just a few times before going out. Explain that it should not emit too strong a smell of perfume. Otherwise, those around him will notice it. And it will be unpleasant for them to be in the same room with the teenager. Because the scent of his perfume will be too intrusive.
The teen should treat the girl with respect.
A teenager should communicate respectfully with his girlfriend. Do not allow yourself to insult her. And also a dismissive attitude. This is a violation of the rules of etiquette.
Explain to the teenager that it is forbidden to read messages and search his girlfriend’s phone.
Explain to the teenager that he should by no means try to find dirt on the girl in her phone. Do not read her correspondence on social media. And don’t try to be overly controlling.
This will lead to nothing but a mirror reaction, and negative emotions. The girl will get upset. And will start to treat the teenager worse.
How to apologize properly?
If a teenager made a mistake, the girl was offended, and then forgave him, there is no need to remind about the quarrel. And certainly not to apologize again. This issue is already over. In the future, the teenager will only need to try not to make the same mistakes as last time.
There is no need to behave noisily in restaurants and cafes
While in a restaurant, the teenager should behave with restraint. He should not laugh excessively. Talk loudly. Swearing. And even more so mock at other people.
At a minimum, the teenager will be reprimanded. And at the most, a fight might ensue.
Teach your teenager to say “Thank you” to your girlfriend.
For any help, advice and any other actions, the teenager should obligatory thank his girlfriend. Teach him to remember that the lady of his heart does not have to help him in any way. And she does it only because she loves and respects him.
If the teenager will thank the lady of his heart for the good deeds on her part, she will continue to help him.
If the girl has stumbled, the man should support her
If a girl stumbles or loses her balance while walking, a teenager should take her by the elbow. And support her. So she can stay on her feet.
Whether or not to take the teenager under the arm during a normal walk, the girl has the right to decide only herself.
Before going in or out of the room, you need to let the lady pass.
Teach your teenager to always open the door to the lady of his heart. Both when entering the establishment and when leaving it. In this case, the girl goes in first. And the teenager walks behind her.
Rules for walking up the stairs
When a teenager walks up the stairs with his girlfriend, he should always be behind her. A couple of steps. So that, in case the lady of the heart falls, to back her up. And not to let her fall.
Rules of passage in the elevator
If a teenager is to ride with the lady of the heart in the elevator, he should adhere to the following rules:
- Enter the elevator first. And then let the girl into it.
- Let the girl out of the elevator first. And then go out on his own.
The rules of etiquette when communicating with a girl are very simple. They are few. Therefore, while teaching them to a teenager, there will be no problems.