If a man says he wants you: in general terms

How to know that he wants you: the signs of sexual attraction.

By education – school psychologist. Work experience in the field of copywriting more than 7 years. For me, copywriting is an art.

The expert – Victoria Fomina.

Physician sexologist of the highest category, psychiatrist and psychotherapist. I have been working as a sexologist for more than 10 years. I help couples solve problems in sex life.

When efforts are made, you want to know if they were not in vain. Armed with this article, you will learn how to spot signs that a man wants you.


  • The surest sign that a man has an irresistible sexual desire for you is a sincere confession. We agree, if it were that simple, there would be no problem at all, and you would not be googling articles, not sparing any time or effort. And not all men are brave enough to openly confess their ardent feelings. But anyway, if a man dared to make such a frank confession, just trust him. Guys have a tendency to lie about romantic feelings in order to get the girl they like into bed. And they don’t need to lie about having sexual desire.

Respond to an admirer reciprocity – you decide. Friendly advice: If you do not feel as passionate about the guy, do not lie out of pity. Otherwise, then have to fight off a passionate suitor.

  • Gallantry and gentlemanliness in all its manifestations. If a guy is not distinguished by refined upbringing and chivalry with his other girlfriends and acquaintances, then you are in his heart an order above “just girlfriends.”
  • Reading the signs of raw sexual desire is much easier than painstakingly figuring out if a man intends to continue a relationship after sex. If you’re only interested in having sex with this handsome man, then dressing up sexually and dropping a few hints is enough. Of course, if the guy is not in a relationship and is open to one-night stands. And if he’s been hinting at a “one-night stand” for a long time, things will happen pretty quickly.

Things get complicated when feelings, relationships, serious intentions, and other adult things get involved. If a guy sees you as more than just a sexual partner, he’s not going to rush into it either. No, of course, the offer to have sex heard from the woman you love is the best music for a man’s ears. Let’s not play innocent: if a man is in love, then he is sexually interested. But the more serious he is, the more responsibly he will move into a new phase of the relationship.

  • If he’s introduced you to his best friends and parents, then he’s serious. There’s no reason to shock your grandmother and mother by introducing them to a new friend every week. Getting to know the people closest to him is a kind of litmus test to see if he’s serious. He is proud of his choice and wants all the people whose opinion he cares about.
  • Frequent invitations to places. Movies, cafes, a park, a modern art museum – he wants to spend time with you as often as possible. He wants to see you. He wants you.

If he is known as a slacker and the most unpunctual person in the company, may be late for a friend’s wedding or even the opening of a new pub, but is never late to meet you, the diagnosis is obvious.

  • He’s stopped using dating apps and cut ties with casual girlfriends. If he used to be known as an alpha-male and donzhuana, and after meeting you suddenly turned into a model boyfriend, chances are he found a really interesting woman and is afraid of scaring her with his promiscuous lifestyle.
  • He’s subscribed to all of your accounts and actively likes and comments on your posts, then when you meet him he talks about how great your sense of humor is (see the part about laughter below) and your interesting thoughts.
  • He talks straight about his past relationships and how they ended. Without holding back, he lets you know what he looks for in a girl and who he’d like to see at his side.
  • Compliments. Men don’t often compliment women for nothing. Either he wants her or she’s taking his philosophy exam.
  • Talking about personal things. If he’s willing to discuss his innermost dreams and share personal experiences with you, it means he trusts you. If he asks your advice about things that are important to him, he’s much more interested in you than just a one-night stand.

The above signs are good if a man is pretty confident and bold in showing his feelings. How do you know that a man wants a woman if the object under study (due to age, experience, natural shyness) is very secretive? In this case we proceed to the body language and tricks that we learned from caring psychologists

Body language and tricks

  • Tension. Sexual tension between two people can be sensed at the level of intuition and instincts. If you do not have inflated self-esteem and clearly feel interest in his side, make a small step towards him. Fix his hair, smile and look into his eyes. The stronger his desire, the more likely that he will not be able to restrain himself.

A woman’s intuition does not always work to her mistress’ advantage. Especially when it says that the nearest store can be reached in old pants and with a bundle on his head. Usually such a walk is followed by the inevitable meeting with an ex-boyfriend, his new girlfriend with the appearance of Megan Fox, or a former classmate you couldn’t stand.

But in matters of love and sex, intuition usually works well. When two people are alone with each other, sooner or later they start to notice that there are somehow too much pheromones in the air.

  • The next signal is laughter. Just as girls tend to find the jokes of their object of adoration inordinately funny, and guys find the girl they love cute and funny. Of course, if you have an exceptional sense of humor and your jokes are laughed at by all the male friends, perhaps he just likes jokes. But let’s discover a secret: a cheerful, funny, in love with life girl, guys consider sexy a priori. And so keep it up, and he will not resist.

Also, do not forget the long-known psychologist trick: during the laughter in a friendly company, the guy will automatically look for a cute girl with his eyes. The degree of success of the joke increases as the desirable woman becomes more and more inundated with laughter.

  • The Look. The eyes are the mirror of the soul. Everyone knows the truth, but it works without fail. Catch his gaze, listen to your own feelings, to determine what you feel – awkwardness, indifference, interest or irritation? Especially suitable for those who are still undecided in their feelings for a man.

How does the man react? Does he look away or challenge you, literally undressing you with his eyes?

Shy girls need to start looking into the eyes of the other person more often. In addition to self-confidence, you can get a pair of fans – a woman, bold in communication and convinced of his attractiveness, acts on men without fail.

  • He’s looking for you in a crowd, in company, in line at the store and comes to you. Even if he does not dare to start a conversation first, help him. If you see him exhale with relief and delighted at your initiative – the guy really wants to get close to you, but does not know how to approach you.
  • He leans toward you and moves in closer. Of course, if you’re at a rock concert or a podium, he probably just can’t hear a damn thing you’re saying. In all other cases, conscious or unconsciously shortening the distance between you indicates a man’s interest.
  • Demonstrated disregard and disinterest. If a guy is not inherently indifferent to people, this kind of behavior can indicate a carefully concealed interest. Intending not to make you stand out from the crowd, his inept acting only makes you stand out more. If acquaintances noticed that the guy is acting strangely toward you, look closely at this actor.
  • His body is turned in your direction. Even when he’s talking to his friends, his body and mind belong to you and he’s surreptitiously watching you. His body and feet are turned toward an interesting woman, and he is ready to enter into a dialogue with you at any moment. Give him that chance.
  • He’s trying to look his best in front of you. He fixes his hair, straightens his shoulders and tries to look taller than he is (whether he’s 5’10” or 5’10”). This is especially evident if the guy is nervous in the presence of a cute girl. While the head is busy thinking through the dialogue, the body works on its own.
  • Touching. If there is an opportunity to accidentally (or not) touch a desirable woman, he will take advantage of it. Hold his elbow, give him a hand, touch hair, or even embrace – the bolder and more temperamental man, the faster he will give away his feelings. However, the verb “give out” here is inappropriate, rather “make it clear that this woman should belong to him.
  • How does he react to the fact that you flirt with others? Irritation, anger, universal sadness – any negative reaction shows that he cares. Unless, of course, you’re behaving inappropriately. Then irritation can arise in everyone present.

What to do about it all?

In the case of the more active specimens, it’s enough to join the game and respond to their signs of attention. There is no need to throw yourself on his neck – he is already interested, but the lack of hunting excitement can significantly reduce the degree of desire.

If the guy does not spoil you actively, but you want to fix it, let him know that communication with him you enjoy. You can use the same tricks that men use – say compliments, joke, laugh at his jokes, show your affection.

Man wants a woman – the signs. How to behave if a man wants you

Everyone is interested in having their personal life in order, but not everyone achieves this result. The point is that some people are shy to admit their feelings, while others cannot understand who really likes them. To make it easier for the beautiful sex to solve this problem, you need to learn to understand and notice that a man wants a woman, the signs of which may be different and not always obvious at first glance .

The body does not lie.

It is possible that a man has a reason to hide his feelings or he is just afraid of rejection and is silent, but the body will not fool you. It plays by its own rules and is more frank than language.

If a man wants a woman, the signs will be hard to hide from the experienced gaze. His body will be turned in your direction, his chest and shoulders will be straight, his whole body will be slightly inclined toward the object of his desire. His palms will be moist. There is a storm in his body and he is sweating. He will diligently wipe his hands with a napkin or on his pants, and he will do it automatically.

The Look

If you constantly catch his gaze and you notice that it lasts longer than three seconds, then you know – this is no accident. So look at the person they are trying to consider, to unravel, as if absorbing his entire image.

The gaze of the interested man will slide, moving from his eyes to his lips and breasts. At the same time his pupils will be dilated. There are, of course, exceptions, for example, he may have just drowned his eyes, or he may have vision problems. In this case, his pupils will also be dilated. And to avoid mistakes, we move on to the next sign.


When a man wants a woman, it will be shallow, as if in your presence the man suddenly stopped having enough air. A man may even loosen his tie or undo the top button. This is a natural reaction of the body to excitement. The main thing is that he doesn’t forget to breathe at all.

He will be thirsty. At least, others will have that impression. He will lick his lips, often nibbling them. The reason is the hormones that play in the man’s body when he is near the woman of his desire.

Think with your heart

You should not rely only on other people’s advice. First of all, trust your inner voice. If you look closely at the beloved man, start to closely monitor his behavior and listen to his words, you may begin to understand his intentions and actions. This is not as difficult as it may seem.

In a sexual relationship you should trust your intuition. If you stop feeling comfortable, perhaps something is going wrong. Don’t try to justify your partner and come up with excuses. A man’s true feelings and desires are always written on his face, and can be seen in his actions.

His voice caressed and mesmerized

“Closer, closer…,” the wise cartoon hero Mowgli’s mentor enticed with his voice. And it was what he was saying, not the words, but the intonation, the timbre. One wanted to follow the voice, even to his certain death.

It is not so pessimistic with men, but the point of comparison is that scientists have proved that a low male voice is associated with masculinity, strength, will in the fair sex. By lowering his voice, a man tries to “present himself more advantageously”.

When talking with a girl he likes the timbre of his voice involuntarily changes. He sounds low and velvety, as if he envelops and bewitches, hypnotizes and fascinates his partner, so that she stops noticing everything around and hears only this voice.

The man himself is able to find the most trivial reasons to talk and make the conversations as long as possible. And if his number is leading in the list of incoming calls, then you can be sure that you have become an object of attention or even attraction.

Words, words, words again.

It is worth paying attention to the conversation. The first sign that a man is trying to attract you will be the jokes. The man will try to demonstrate his sense of humor. He knows that if he manages to make a girl laugh, then 50% of her sympathy is already in the pocket.

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And if he achieves his goal, he will use all means. The second sign is that the words and jokes will have a subtext. This way, the man will try to hint at his relationship to the companion, and at the same time to check the boundaries of the permitted.

Coming on “you”.

This sign can also be called “occupation of the territory”. A man will try to enter the intimate zone. His invasion can happen in different ways. He may lean close to tell you something “confidentially”. He may correct an item of clothing, such as a strap on a dress or a loose lock of hair. If the atmosphere is not formal, the man will try to find an excuse to be alone, to touch his hand, to ask him to dance.

In the office there are different rules, so the guy will act differently. For example, he may “accidentally” forget the mug on your desk. Or at a meeting will choose a seat next to you, even if it will have to squeeze someone. Moreover, the distance between you will be reduced to the point where you are touching shoulders.

All these signals – a man wants to make a woman his own.

Clear signs.

If the guy is decisive, he will not beat around the bush and immediately ask the girl on a date. And already there he will show her his intentions.

Everything will start with an innocent touch:

  1. A handshake or hug when he meets her.
  2. A pat on the shoulder.
  3. Holding her elbow or waist when crossing the road.
  4. Any kind of casual touching.

Then there will be more explicit touching, but still not yet with a direct sexual hint:

  1. Long hugs.
  2. Kisses on the cheek.
  3. Stroking.
  4. Touching with knees or shoulders.

If the young man is assertive and confident, he can move on to more active actions:

  1. Touching the shoulders, neck, chest and stomach.
  2. Kisses on the lips, neck and ears.
  3. Stroking the knees and inner thighs.

With these touches the young man clearly shows his intentions. He is waiting for your reciprocity in order to enter into intimacy with you in the future.

In addition to intentional touching, a guy can show his desire in other ways:

  1. Gifts.
  2. Courtship.
  3. Warm words to the girl.

Scent of a woman

Being close to the interlocutor, which causes excitement, a man will try to catch her fragrance. And it’s not because he is a fan of Chanel № 5 or if he admires the perfect composition of mint and iris.

The smell of a woman is the strongest aphrodisiac. And if the scent of hair and skin is pleasant for a man, his partner is ideal for him on a physical level and this is already a “chemistry”. It is important that the natural scent is not drowned out by Lily of the Silver, cigarette smoke or the smell of stale clothing.

Exciting touches 4

The strong half of humanity at heart children, what they like, they look at, what they want, they touch. Basically nothing changes with age, if a guy sees a girl as a sexual partner, they tend to touch her on and off occasions.

At first, everything is within the bounds of decency, and if the beauty does not mind, then heavier artillery comes into play: hugs, flirtatious stroking, touching near the intimate places. Naturally, not on purpose. So, having felt the excessive physical attention, it is worth either rejecting or accepting flirting. Making a “I’m in the lodge” appearance will be seen as a guide to further action.

I’m with you.

How do you know a man wants you? He will be eager to occupy not only the space next to you, but also your time. “How about breakfast together? Lunch? Dinner? Are you free tonight? Tomorrow? The day after tomorrow?” And even if you can’t or don’t want to, he will wait. Although, to be honest, the waiting will be hard for him and this is also an indicator of a man’s sincere interest.

Similar offers can also come from friends, but a friend will invite you to lunch if his break time coincides with yours or if he is bored. It’s different with a man who wants a woman. He will try to be with her as often as possible. And adjust his schedule not to his, but to her interests.

After dinner be sure to take her home, and do not forget to ask: “Maybe you invite her to tea? A friend can also offer a ride, if he is on the way, but the interested man is ready to go to the other end of town. All for the sake of being together with the woman of his desire or in the hope of getting a kiss from her. This only happens when a guy wants a girl.

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He may not like dogs and be indifferent to the “problems of Vietnam,” but for your sake he will be willing to volunteer in any direction. Not for humane reasons, but in hopes of being rewarded for his actions. And as the children’s song sings, “At last all my dreams come true, my best present is you.

He will be available to you 24 hours a day. Not because he doesn’t have things to do, or because his uncle made a will and there’s no reason to work. The fact that he is willing to rush at the first request, to help, always answer the phone is the clearest indicator that a man wants you.

Evening or night meetings

In a serious relationship, partners try to spend all their free time together. In the case where meetings occur only on weekends or holidays at a later time, it is worth thinking about. More often than not, an obsessive man tries to hide his relationship with a girl from others, so he schedules such after-hours meetings.

Sexual attraction is inherent in every man. However, a woman should understand when a partner wants only sex and when he wants a serious relationship. This will help you find a worthy partner with whom you can build a strong family.

For more information on how to know that a guy only wants sex, you will learn by watching the video:

The Knight on the White Horse.

He’s not too gallant and doesn’t always give up his seat on public transportation, but he gets especially polite with her. If a man gives the impression of a gentleman when talking to you, he has placed you above all other ladies and is trying to impress you.

He will not allow rudeness or tactlessness, on the contrary will demonstrate his good mood. And most importantly, he will never complain that it is difficult or hard for him. He cannot fall in your eyes. This is impossible! Why does he need it? Well, if you are not his boss and there is no material interest, that leaves one thing – he wants you.

Hi, how are you doing?

If you’ve just said goodbye, and there’s already an unread message from a man online, it’s a sign – you’ve got him hooked. And there should be no questions: “Does he want me?” shouldn’t be a question. And the more he is interested in your life and all its details, the more you can be sure – he likes you, the guy wants you. And politeness has nothing to do with it. He might also ask for a picture of you, even though he’s already got one if your profile’s open. And not just one.

Among the men there may be scammers, who skillfully use methods of manipulation to obtain the desired effect. Do not trust the keys to the apartment and the bank account number to your first partner, even if he lays down the staircase with rose petals and sings serenades under the window.

You, just you, the rest later.

In today’s world, where people prefer live communication to “hanging out” in social networks, there is another indicator. If a man really wants a woman. He turns off his phone, puts off looking at messages and news feeds. All his attention and himself at this moment belong only to her.

Specialists have tried to deduce the main signs of “How to understand that a man wants a woman” and everything so that couples created for each other, not to be parted because of indecision, and get a chance to be together.

What do men want?

Do you know what men really want in bed? A woman who gets pleasure with minimal energy expenditure. To put it crudely, you put it in once, and she’s had three orgasms. Probably not many people will admit it, but it’s a fact. Whether it’s Pavlik or Alpha, they want the same thing.

Only by seeing your reaction can a man know that it’s okay. And the phrase “I feel good with you,” just not available to them. Your attitude towards a man is not measured by saying, “I like everything, don’t pay attention”, but in the number of orgasms.

So always remember – a man calls a woman passionate either if she is constantly having orgasms in sex with him, or when a man starts to be more important than just a sex partner.

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