How do you know if a man is interested in you?
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Expert – Margarita Lopukhova
Family psychologist. For eight years I have been saving “family units” from disintegration. I help couples regain love and understanding.
Men are very afraid to show their feelings and carefully hide them. Then how do you understand a man’s interest? Of course, there are such gentlemen who at the first meeting can say how the girl hurt him in the heart, how he suffers, and can not live without a spouse. It happens. But very rarely. More often than not, a man will hide his predisposition until the last moment. And all because he is afraid of rejection. When a person is indifferent, you can hear from him anything and not even pay attention to it, but when a man is dear, then he is afraid to hear not only the wrong word, but even a different intonation.
That is why girls will have to guess for themselves how their chosen one treats them. And we will tell them how to understand if a man is in love, but hides his feelings.
Yes, if a man likes a girl, he will try to be with her always nearby. Of course, it’s not always possible, there is still work, home life, studies, but at the first opportunity a young man in love will be around. Because he is attracted to his beloved person, there is no force to be away, not to see her, not to hear her, not to know what she is doing now.
So if you constantly find yourself with some absent-minded young man, pay attention to him, maybe this is the person who is ready to pluck a star from the sky for you?
A person who is very well disposed toward you will always try to touch you. This will happen against his will, but the hand itself reaches out to correct a strand of your hair, to touch your hand, to take you under the arm. It is difficult to argue with this, because it is understandable – you never want to be close to the person you do not like. And certainly you do not want to take his arm or lean on his shoulder. So, girls, draw some conclusions.
Stares, so greedily, so timidly caught…
Yes, the eternal sign of a man’s love is looks. There’s more than one poem written about them, and not in vain. No matter how much the young man in love hides his feelings, and his eyes will certainly give it away. Well, he can not not look at the object of his desire! And when a young lady continuously catches the eyes of the same man, there is no doubt, he is simply in love with her.
A certain pose
Many signs in men and women repeat. For example, both men and women follow the object of their love with long looks, try to attract attention, surround themselves with care. But there are signs that are unique to men.
It is the posture. For example, psychologists furiously try to convince us that if a man stands in front of a girl with his hands on his hips, there is no doubt that he is in love! Yes, that’s what his “animal roots” say in him. In other words, by placing his hands on his hips, the gentleman flaunts his most attractive organs. Well, women, of course, should not be indifferent to this. Although… it is better not to tell the macho man what his pose means.
A man is “teasing.”
If a girl notices that a young man repeats her gestures or copies her movements, she should not be offended. The guy is not teasing her at all. He is in love. Yes, he is. When a person falls in love, he is so consumed by the behavior of his beloved (or lover) that he involuntarily begins to repeat her actions.
A smile always gives away a person’s true affection for you. Yes, not every person who smiles at you is in love with you, but every person in love with you will smile at you. In any case, even if there is no great love, a sincere smile indicates a wonderful disposition towards you.
Here are just a few factors that unmistakably tell that a man likes you.
And yet, any woman is well aware of how a man treats her.
A few more examples
- Hypersensitivity. Imagine a situation like this: the guys are sitting friends, talking about something with interest. And suddenly a familiar girl approaches them. All the guys at first jump up, greet her, give her the best seat, and then all slowly calm down. But one of them is looking for the girl’s best seat, repeatedly asking if he can get her some tea. Or maybe run down to the pavilion for some juice? And in general, she does not blow on this place? By the way, here’s an amazing plaid… And all the time this young man is fussing, hopping, flitting… It’s clear that this caring guy has long been in love with this girl. And, most likely, she’s known about it for a long time, too;
- Sometimes, this also happens, a guy in love, in order to hide his true feelings, begins to cover them up with excessive harshness, rudeness or pickiness. The most striking example of our parents – girls who liked, most often pulled pigtails, took away their bags or otherwise hurt. This is a child’s manifestation of affection. That is, the boy wanted to attract attention, but feared to be ridiculed by his friends, and the girl herself to be rejected, so the course went for such rough techniques. There are still men who have grown “out of school bags” but in the heart and remained fearful of boys, so the attitude toward the beloved woman, they manifest this way;
A man in love changes. And it is difficult not to notice. How to understand that a man is hiding feelings? Just be attentive and you will notice it.
How a man shows interest in a woman he likes – an overview of signs
Men show sympathy for women in different ways. Some, unashamedly, devour them with their eyes. On the faces of others, it seems impossible to understand what they are thinking, and whether they like you. This makes you feel uncomfortable, mad, unable to understand how a man shows interest in a woman, and whether he is interested in you as a woman.
Signs of sympathy for you can be detected by facial expressions, eyes, gestures, and behavior. Use this article as a road map the moment you start to wonder about a young man’s attitude toward you.
If a man is interested in you
What happens to a man when he likes a woman? Of course, everyone behaves differently, but you can try to formulate the chain of thoughts and feelings that are formed when you meet an interesting girl. It may not always be true, but many men talk about this structure.
The first thing to note is that a rare man falls in love instantly. It may seem to some that this is what happens. More often, however, instant sympathy is the fruit of a girl or woman’s skillful actions. She has spotted the handsome young man, set traps that he has successfully fallen into.
If not, a certain amount of time passes, after which the man begins to distinguish the girl from his surroundings. It doesn’t matter where it happens – in a team, at a fitness class, or while walking in the park.
Imagine, you communicate with a young man for a day, a week, a month. During this time you have already fallen in love with him, fallen out of love, fell in love again, and just by this time you began to notice that he somehow made you stand out from the crowd. It’s unclear what you did – you dressed differently, you broke a heel, or just the sun shone on your hair and lit a light in it. And so, once this happened, began to detect changes in his behavior, facial expressions and gestures.
Signs of interest from a man
Sympathy, male interest manifested in many different ways. For example, a usually reserved, boring young man turns into a happy, laughing, very creative person. Or the funny man becomes sad and sad.
But let’s take a closer look at what happens to a man when he shows interest in a woman, so as not to miss a single sign.
The face, and especially the eyes and lips of even the most uptight man reflects everything that is going on in his soul. Take a closer look:
- You often catch a man’s gaze on you. Sometimes he freezes on your face, as if you’ve mesmerized him. Or a man averts his eyes, but for some unknown reason starts looking at you again.
- The look is filled with warmth, tenderness, as if thawing – if you watch a young man for a long time, this change is easy to see.
- In the interest of the pupils slightly dilate, and this process is uncontrollable.
- Another involuntary movement is the expansion of the nostrils. There is a feeling that the man can not breathe normally, he needs more air.
- The shy, kindly man has the corners of his lips lift a little at the sight of you, empathizing for you. More open begins to smile, when you meet you glow with joy all over his face.
5 non-obvious signs of a man’s love
- A slight blush may appear on your cheeks.
- Sometimes the man slightly raises his eyebrows, as if asking you if you are ready for a deeper communication with him.
If you want to know if a man likes you, pay attention to his gestures. His random, unsteady movements, and the sensation of having everything falling out of his hands may indicate extreme anxiety and shyness. In many situations he is holding something in his hands, twisting, twirling this object. Touching buttons, fixing hair, shirt, belt. Targeted active hand movements serve to attract your attention.
In your presence the young man will try to straighten up, become taller, more powerful. Many will bend down, move closer to the woman to get closer.
Repetition, copying movements, gestures is another attempt to be closer and clearer.
Many men, showing interest in a woman, try to touch her. This can be a simple handshake, a kiss of the hand. In this case, most often there is also an eye contact.
But there is another approach. For example, you are sitting in the office, and your colleague constantly tries to come up, stand behind you, as if accidentally touch you. It is as if by his movement he protects you, closes you off from everyone.
By the way, the occasional touch on the thigh, on the arm, stroking the back is a sign of an invitation to a more intimate relationship.
When a man who likes you, turns to you, his intonation changes, his voice becomes softer, quieter. Depending on the situation, it will be louder or quieter.
The young man speaks louder when he is in company and trying to get your attention. His voice becomes quieter when he is with you alone – you will hear the rustling of words and be sure to turn around to listen, to look at his owner.
Men’s behavior changes. Many start going to the gym, jogging, swimming, getting in shape.
They change their hair, clothes. Depending on their usual style and the style of the woman, they change the suit for jeans or, on the contrary, instead of pants and a loose-cut shirt they put on strict clothes. But you do not always see such a dramatic change. If you suddenly happened to become the object of admiration of a hippie or eternal traveler, pay attention – perhaps he began more often to wash hair, change socks, shine shoes.
The next change is a stricter control of his mood. For example, a few moments before meeting you, he was freaking out, rude, swearing, and when he saw that you were there, he began to restrain himself, to smile. His intonation and facial expression change, his aggression goes away.
You will meet the young man who shows interest in you more often, especially if you work together. He will hold the door in front of you, help with your coat, complex presentations, take you a table in the office cafe.
Man’s interest can be seen not only in behavior and gestures. It’s the communication, the communication that changes. You understand that they really listen to you, remember important events, dates, pay attention to your problems, interests, desires and needs.
One girl was shocked when, while waiting in line at the hospital, she received a text message from a guy asking if everything went well at the doctor’s office. She was talking about going to the hospital about two weeks ago. The young man remembered this and asked about her condition himself, correct without going into details.
In the presence of sympathy, communication ceases to be superficial. Compliments “on the case” appear instead of routine questions. For example, you just a little haircut or lose weight. You can see it, others do not notice the change, but your boyfriend noticed it.
In addition, he begins to ask personal questions, asks about childhood, interests, secret desires. He gets to know your girlfriends, introduces you to his friends, when he accidentally meets your parents he doesn’t pretend that you are a casual acquaintance. The man not only asks you, but he tells you about his life, shares his experiences, stories from his childhood.
Your communication is not interrupted after the meeting. He sends you funny pictures, nice stories, likes photos on social networks.
No matter how hard a man tries to hide his interest in a woman, you can always detect it at the smallest signs – behavior, gestures, facial expressions, voice intonation.