How to divorce your spouse

How to divorce a husband

how to divorce my husband, we have no children and nothing to divide. so I understand that you can divorce through the registry office. But as far as I know, you need to come together, and we do not communicate with him. can I submit an application alone and that he somehow caused?

Better of course two in the registry office – divorce in a month without noise and dust. No way to talk to him?

No. In the registry office you need both. I in this case, went to court, writing that her husband refuses to divorce through the registry office. And so, I don’t remember if it was a month and a half, a hearing and that’s it.

That’s the point… I’m not going to call or talk to him.

You file in a month you and him invited to court. If he is not in court delay another month. In any case, the third divorce.

Do you have to give a reason?

Well, you don’t agree in character, you don’t have a common household. There’s nothing difficult, if you want to. You look at the form of the application and the Internet, and at the same time and how to fill correctly find.

And don’t forget to pay the fee.

I have almost the same ***. At first my husband promised that we will divorce amicably, and now he is showing off and for the second time did not go to the registry office with me to submit an application. Now I only have to go to court, for in the registry office divorce by mutual consent. Maybe who can tell me how to “get” him to run ahead of me at the registry office? )))) While we live together. Waiting for options))))

Girls, myself so divorced a year ago. It’s easy: go to court at his place of residence, after paying a fee for the divorce. It is necessary to write a justice of the peace 2 applications – one with a request to dissolve the marriage (not living, no common household, to save the marriage is impossible) and a petition to consider the case without your presence. Come with a marriage certificate and these papers to the Secretary, submit them, and a month later get the decision of the court. With it – go to your registry office, where they stamp your passport and issue a certificate of divorce. I will be glad if anyone useful!

I have a situation, tell me how you can divorce your husband. The spouse is registered in Tambov, I’m in another city, signed in the village.My husband where he is now do not know. How can I be?

You need to go to court for the registration of the defendant – will have to go to Tambov. In a statement specify the address of his registration, write a petition for consideration of the case without your presence. Also, they will ask for his phone number. At the address will send him three summons. Will he come – not come – after the third summons will divorce. You will have to call, find out from the secretary of the news, and then once again go for a decision of the court, to the registry office to put the seal. I wish you good luck with your problem.

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I got married a year ago. From the first days he humiliated me as much as he could, almost did not work, drank, I worked alone tired at two jobs. to somehow feed the family as a result I could not stand it and decided to go to live with my parents. And I decided to file for divorce because I could no longer tolerate all his antics. With the health became a HUGE problem. But he started calling me and asking for forgiveness so I went back. How to make him leave me alone?

And I have a similar situation with Marina. But I made a mistake. I forgave him. He wouldn’t give me a break when we broke up. I’m a softy where I shouldn’t be. He lies all the time, and he’s greedy, mean, and selfish. Anyway, I tried to explain how not to ruin family life, but I was tired of being in the role of “mommy. You can’t rely on a man like that. There is no trust and will never be. He lives with me. He’s not registered. But there’s no way to get him out! He says he’ll leave when he sees fit. After he cheats on me, for example. But that’s okay. I have to live with him in my house until he decides to go out. It came to fights, from the absurdity of the situation! Blood drinker just! Love does not love, and does not give life! And do not leave! He doesn’t want to hear about divorce! Of course he doesn’t want to hear about divorce. He’s living off the hook, the bastard! I don’t know what to do now. I’m desperate. He hid the original marriage certificate. I only have a copy. How can I do? As far as I know, you need the original certificate? Please advise. In court, in the registry office? What to do without the original? Restore? We have no children, we do not run a joint household. I’m also afraid he might throw something away. He’s sneaky. He threatens that the fact that I have a nervous breakdown ( with fights), – that the psychiatric unit will surrender, and such a man can! I am desperate. ((((

You can go to the archive of the Registry Office and get a certificate again, let your husband keep his copy as a memento :). With it you can go to court to file for divorce, after paying all the fees. Well, and after receiving the decision of the court, get rid of a “neighbor” will be much easier. Good luck!

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my husband disappeared 13 years ago, except for the seal, we have nothing to do, no children, no home. no one knows where he is (he is definitely homeless and without documents) how quickly they will divorce in court

So divorce him through the court. The main thing is that he signed the summons to sign that he was notified.

Although I was divorced this way – I give the court secretary of the cell phone of his ex, she calls him, talks, then writes in a statement “Spouse notified, to divorce agrees.

All, we are divorced.

You need to see a lawyer.

I know some people get divorced unilaterally. So the other one doesn’t know anything.

Girls, maybe you can also tell me what to do? Smuzhmu married for almost 9 years, there are two children 6.5 years and 1.8 years.Tired, more I can not take the humiliation, drunkenness, physical abuse, and love has long passed. I want a divorce, but he does not agree to a divorce. Advise me anything?

Girls, if you can help me with advice. We are married for 7 years, two children, but the time has come that I can no longer bear my wife and drinking, I forgave as much as I could, but the cup of patience ran over. I do not want my son to see it all he is 6 years old and he understands everything and his daughter is only one year old. I want a divorce as soon as possible how best to do

Hello, if you can help advice.We are married for 10 years, two children, 8 and 3 years.How can I get a divorce quickly.After his communication with his mother, we are constantly fighting.He proceeds to yelling and does not even think that scares children.My older son is very upset to see all this.The worst thing is that he humiliates me in front of my children and not ashamed of it.Constantly accusing me of being blamed for everything just me. He practically can’t give money.Constant scolding because of this.He is worthless to yell at my parents.He was not like this before.I do not understand what happened to him? I can not live together anymore, and I do not want to traumatize the children.The child even began to cough, at first we thought he was sick, but after numerous tests revealed that my son is healthy.The doctor said it may be a nervous.After each visit of his mother-in-law I do not recognize him. He used to live in an apartment, but now we live with his parents for a year already and he still does not want to rent it out, and pays the rent for a year now for nothing. We quarrel there, he goes away and then comes back, and the same thing lasts a year. He goes to work when he wants to at 10,12 or 14 o’clock and comes back at 2 o’clock in the morning, he may be even later, he does not take a day off. My son cries all the time when my father takes a day off. I explain to him that the child is suffering that he wants to communicate with him, nothing comes to him, my daughter does not even think about it any other time. I can write for a long time, you cannot tell everything. What do I do, help me advice?

Girls! Please tell me whether it is necessary to be present at all three sessions of the court? he has a registration in one city, I am registered in another, and we live in Moscow! if a court divorce it is too expensive to go to court every month! at first he humiliated me,and when I started talking about divorce he started to run, apologize and promised to put his hands on himself! but I do not want to live with him anymore! I do not know!

9. Catherine | 11.01.2011, 23:51:02 [1202916015] Catherine

I decided to divorce my husband.No common children.He lives and is registered in my apartment.The apartment is privately owned and purchased out of wedlock.Question: How to discharge him after a divorce?

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And if I only have my passport from the documents, and a marriage certificate is with his parents? I have to go to another country, and divorce keeps me very much. Or there is no way out of this situation?

I do not know what to do, my husband fell in love with another girl, she does not need him, we are married for six months, I found out, I gave time to fall out of love, he promised that everything would be fine. Then he started writing to her again, he started to send her various songs in social networks romantic three times, I tried to go to the registry office, he is not coming, I do not want to go to court, it is too embarrassing. Now here in the Internet various pages looks like , “Love the married,” is it normal? That’s what to do? I’m in shock, we have met before that three years, there were certainly problems, but there everything was solved over time, in general, with a girl that he does not calm down, I do not know what to do! Girls, those who have been married for a long time, tell me please whether the statement that once it was once, then it will always be! Or maybe it’s because of the fact that not so long in marriage, and the responsibility he had a headache so he got into this situation, give advice, divorce is worth it? I love him and he loves me, it is just painful for me to know that he likes someone else, he admitted that he fell in love, and that he will pass, but he does not pass and writes to him quietly, she does not answer of course, but still! WHAT TO DO.

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And it’s been going on for four years! He corresponds regularly with his ex-girlfriend. She said there was nothing between them. She threw tantrums and threatened me with divorce. He swears he won’t do it again, we make up, and then it happens again. At the same time we live in general not bad, in the understanding of some people even good. He does not drink, always goes home after work, helps out around the house, and everything is good in bed. In short, apart from that everything suits me. And now once again found that writes sms, that writes I do not know. Here I sit and I think the reason for the divorce? After all, it turns out that he does not cherish our marriage. And I am sure of what I should have torn up immediately, and now I got used to it, and the years spent sorry, and how to divide the property, we have no children.

Hello! I have a question. My husband and I have been living together for over ten years. We have a son who is 10 years old. We have no jointly acquired property apart from a car, but I do not want to claim it, and I don’t want to have to go to court. We are both registered in Moscow, but we live in Smolensk Oblast. Can I not go to court? Thank you.

Masha, how are you doing? You haven’t decided to get a divorce yet! I can’t possibly live like this for 4 years.

Hello, please advise me what to do? With my husband we do not live for three years, he’s in another city, he has another family and I, too, but the stamp in my passport prevents me from living, my husband said that he filed for divorce because he had a daughter and it was necessary to register her. but I have that seal is and I have the marriage certificate in hand, maybe he deceives me that we divorced? How can I do so he does not phonel in my passport? Thank you in advance for your understanding.

If you do not communicate with her husband, you can file for divorce alone! He will summon themselves, in case of non-appearance call again, if he ignores and does not show up, the divorce will take place without his participation.

I have a situation, tell me how you can divorce your husband. The spouse is registered in Tambov, I’m in another city, signed in the village.My husband where he is now do not know. How can I be?

the decision of the court can send by mail, why go

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A reader of Tinkoff Journal told why he took this step after all, what was the reason he could not save his marriage and why he sought help from a priest and psychologists.

This is a story from the Community. The editors asked leading questions, carefully edited and formatted it according to magazine standards.

Dating

We met our future wife in October 2018 and were already married in January 2019. And we divorced in June 2020 – adding to the quarantine divorce statistics. Although the pandemic had nothing to do with it – we just realized we were different.

I met my future wife at work: her department moved into our building. I saw her once before at a meeting, but did not show any initiative. Went for a couple of months around the bush, and then asked her out.

After that, everything spun and spun so fast and strong that there was no desire to drag it out.

She, as I realized immediately, was a great wife. Exactly the kind of wife that many people are looking for: “A student, Komsomol member, athlete” from a good family. I was “sex, drugs, rock and roll.” Where am I, where is she?

At first, when the rose-colored glasses were on us, everything was great. But then every month the difference became more and more apparent.

During the wedding, we were happy and genuinely smiling. There was no special celebration – we just signed at the registry office, went to work and confessed our affair to our colleagues. In the evening the two of us went out to a nice restaurant. A couple of days later there was a wedding and a restaurant with my parents and a week later with my colleagues.

There was no desire to arrange a big wedding: it was her second marriage, and I never liked parties. But there was a dress, even two of them. After the wedding we flew to the Emirates for two weeks.

Of course, the wedding was not a required part of the program. But it was very congruent with the concept of “once and for all” and was very important to her. I am not a believer, unlike her, but the initiative to get married was mine, because “the husband is not made for the wife, but the wife for the husband. Therefore the wife must have a sign of authority over her head.

Budget and Spending in Marriage

My wife and I to the finances we treat differently: she with a salary of 30 000 R managed to save and save, and I with an income of over 100 000 R spent it all completely. This was not the cause of the scandals, but I could see that she was uncomfortable.

Shortly after we got married we were both laid off, and it took me a long time to find a new job. During that period we ate up all our savings and severance pay, including the fact that we moved from a million-dollar city to my mortgage housing near Moscow. A lot of money was spent on small items for the apartment: we bought built-in cabinets, a mini oven, a refrigerator, pillows, plaids, and a bunch of other stuff. The rest was spent on mortgage payments and comfortable living: going out to restaurants, gifts for relatives, trips, her hobbies.

90% of our budget at the time consisted of my redundancy allowance. But in terms of the family code, it was already our joint income.

Due to the fact that we had a purely patriarchal family, I was in charge of the budget. For the most part, I paid everywhere and always myself, and most of the money was in my accounts. But we also had a separate account at Tinkoff Bank with two cards for current expenses; I used to replenish it for our common expenses and deposit the necessary sums there as she requested. My wife was very interested in how much we had left and how long it would last. I didn’t hide this information and told her what the money was used for.

For the first two or three months of our marriage we spent a lot of time shopping. We alternated these trips with evenings on the couch watching a movie or a TV series and ordering food. We walked through parks and downtown Moscow, went to the movies, went to various monasteries, went to her parents for family gatherings, hosted friends and my parents.

Then I found a part-time job in a cab service, as the employment process was dragging on. I worked there six days a week from seven in the morning until one in the morning. The leisure time together came to naught until I went to the office and the schedule stabilized.

My wife became a housewife after the move: taking care of household chores and looking for herself. Let’s face it, I was probably the one who drove her to it. I did not want to do anything at home, and the moral right to such behavior appears only when the husband – the breadwinner, and his wife – a housewife. And on the whole, the circumstances were to my advantage: we lived in the region, there was not much work nearby. Going to Moscow at first she was scared, and then did not want to, as well as me. But I had no choice, unlike her.

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I knew perfectly well that you can not do only the house and nothing else, so you can go off the rails. Since the beginning of my marriage, I constantly broadcast the idea that my wife to find something to do, and perhaps in the future to monetize this passion. Supported his wife, tossed her ideas on what to do: make jewelry, sell knitted toys, blog.

The decision to divorce

We got married too quickly – three months after we met. Therefore, the fitting, when two people start living together and discover the habits of the other, previously unknown, occurred in our status as husband and wife. With each month it became more and more obvious how different we are in most of life’s situations.

For example, while driving: I am not the most calm and correct on the road, there is no denying that. But, in my practical experience, many people feel calm in the passenger seat next to me. Not her. There were constant cues on her part from the series: there’s a pedestrian, there’s a speed bump, there’s a red light. How many times I tried to explain that I see it all and do not need my hand to say that, like any driver, I do not like it and annoying, it helped for a week or two, and then it all started again. It seemed as if she did not trust me. It was frustrating.

This is just one example, but typical. In general, there were many similar situations in which I was uncomfortable and asked not to do so. And this despite the fact that we have discussed many aspects of marriage in detail at the stage of acquaintance: where we want to live, whether we want to go abroad, what is better – an apartment or a house, we discussed animals, sex, money. Then we agreed that we were looking in the same direction. Rose-colored glasses of infatuation, no otherwise.

The divorce was my initiative. It wasn’t an easy decision. I first thought about it in December, eleven months after the wedding. Even then I realized that I was often capable of rash actions because I was “fed up with everything,” so I tried to slow myself down. Although marriage was a quick decision, I went into it with full awareness of what I was doing. And if then I was satisfied with everything, and now I’m not – then perhaps it’s about me and need to sort it out.

In the end this reflection lasted until February, but the enlightenment did not come. On the contrary, I managed to find a lot of negative traits in myself, which are characteristic of an abuser, and thought that she did not have to suffer with me all her life.

The first talk about divorce happened in February, but my wife had no desire to finalize the process. We tried to fix the marriage: we talked, read books about relationships – for example, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” and “The Five Love Languages”. We tried to explain to each other what was wrong. But this did not lead to a positive result.

I wanted to be heard and considered what would be comfortable for me, as in the example of driving. But for some reason the outcome of those conversations always came out to be that I was doing great and doing a lot for her, and in the opposite direction there was no such thing. I can not say that it corresponded to reality, rather, I am just a master of constructing dialogues in such a way. And my wife wasn’t able to turn me around.

I suggested going to couples therapy, but she didn’t have much of a desire. And I understand her. The subtext of my suggestion to go to a therapist was that there was something wrong with her. Naturally, no person in a situation like that would agree to that.

Counseling with a therapist.

From December 2019 to February 2020, I tried to sort myself out and figure out if this was a temporary snap or if it was really all wrong and everything was wrong. I wanted to work it out, including through therapy.

I looked for psychologists on the website b17.ru. I did it twice according to the same scheme: opened the list of specialists in the area where it would be convenient for me to go, I put filters on the age – 30 + and the price – up to 3000 R . Then looked at the profiles on this principle: whether I like the photo and description, whether there is a review.

If all three points are plus – add to bookmarks. I collected 10 bookmarks and chose from them, which of the psychologists I found more responsive to my face and description. I contacted the final three “winners” and chose those with whom I was able to meet more quickly.

I went to my first psychologist in January. We had three sessions at the price of 2,000 P per hour. I came with a question about what was wrong with me. The specialist did not answer it directly, but suggested a diagnosis in the direction of a narcissistic abuser. On the whole she did her job, but I had no desire to go to endless sessions and that was the end of it.

Afterwards I googled a lot of information about the narcissistic type and was struck by how much this was about me. For a month I digested it all and again came to the conclusion that I was a monster and my wife, who puts up with it, was a miserable person.

It got to the point where I was starting to shake with these thoughts. So I went to another psychologist to talk it out and figure out what to do in the end. The price tag was 3000 P for an hour and a half. But she spent a total of two hours with me on my own initiative: I liked talking to her.

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The result of our conversation was the conclusion that I am absolutely adequate, cool, reasoning beyond my years, and if it seems to me that the situation in life is so, then so it is. Which, however, does not cancel the primary diagnosis – although the psychologist did not say so.

Before going to the second psychologist I even went to church. After the service I caught the priest and asked him for an audience. We talked for over an hour, he listened to me attentively and, contrary to my expectations, began to give me practical advice, and not preach about my mortal sins. It was from him that I learned about the book “The Five Love Languages. But the general point of his words was simple: if you can’t do it at all, you shouldn’t drag it out.

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However, the point of no return for me was the first conversation about divorce. I think there are some phrases in life that cross out all and forget about them is no longer possible.

The second divorce conversation, after which we filed for divorce, happened at the end of May. We separated in early June, and received the certificate in early July.

Property division and legal issues

It is difficult to say unequivocally about the principles of division of property acquired during the marriage. Everything depends on a mass of circumstances that precede it. For example, where the property came from, how it was bought, who needs it more. In the end there has to be some justice, which, of course, everyone understands in his own way. But to stoop to small things and divide spoons and forks is also impossible, it looks quite ugly.

In a year and a half, we did not have jointly acquired property which was worth sharing: cars, apartments, yachts, steamships. And what we did have was divided according to a simple principle: my wife took what she needed, plus what she brought with her. If I really wanted to keep any of it, we discussed it and decided who needed it most.

An example is the little fridge-freezer we put on the balcony. I didn’t need it, and she wanted to take it with her. But I didn’t want to take the fridge out of the balcony, take it down, drive it to another region and bring it up to her apartment: it was cheaper to give her more money or cede her some other possessions.

The cornerstone for us were the curtains, which my wife ended up taking away, too. She stood firm and wasn’t willing to leave them to me for any reason, because she got them “for too high a price”. And this is not about the money, but about the moral turmoil I created in connection with this purchase.

It took us a total of a month to buy these curtains. At first we tried to find them in “Leroy”, but the colors my wife offered me categorically did not like – and it almost brought her to tears in the end. Then we looked for them in specialty stores, but there were also problems with the color and material. My wife wanted lighter curtains in light colors, but I liked the darker and denser ones. We ended up making them to order in three colors to keep everyone happy. The curtains were awesome.

During the second divorce conversation, I brought up the fact that I probably owed my spouse money for this failed project. She named an amount she thought was fair – R350,000 . That is what we settled on. In fact, this amount, although not mega in absolute terms, but it was approximately equal:

The wife’s investment in the family budget;
half the mortgage payments;
the annual income of the wife in the position from which she had converted to a housewife.

Whichever way you look at it, it seemed fair to me. First, my wife had personal savings before our marriage that we spent together. Second, we were laid off together and combined our severance payments. Before the divorce, there was no trace of that money, and that was my fault. Third, my spouse did not work during the marriage and had no way to save as she had done in the past.

I had no savings, so I had to take out a loan to pay her back for our marriage.

But there was also the risk that my wife could sue me for half of the mortgage payments during our marriage. In order to have some kind of human separation, I decided to pay her off like this. Fortunately, I was lucky with my wife, she did not ask for the maximum, but in good conscience.

And we also drew up a simple agreement, which would have had no force anywhere: we did not certify it with a notary. But I felt safer that way. My wife signed a clause stating that she had no claim to half of the mortgage payments.

I understood: the chances that she would go to court, tend to zero. But it was still worth it to make the idea irrational for her – just in case. Even though the agreement was not legally binding, it was a kind of obligation for his wife. And she always took her obligations seriously.

Divorce costs

Because of the coronavirus, there was only an electronic record at the registry office. On the right day, we arrived at the address, filed an application for divorce from the two of us. The fee – 650 R for each – I paid on the spot according to the requisites through Tinkoff Bank and sent the payments to the specialist by e-mail.

My wife additionally wrote a statement that she trusted me to pick up her copy of the divorce certificate. Later, I sent her the document by SDEK.

Some time after the divorce was official, I sent her a scan of the divorce petition with my signature. She took it to the local diocese and a year later sent a scan of the answer – we are divorced.

This was the situation with the move. I offered her two variants: to stay in Moscow or move back to a big city where we had worked and lived before our marriage – however she would feel comfortable. In Moscow I would help her rent an apartment and move her things, and if she went back, I would just support her in moving.

After talking about the divorce, she thought for another two weeks. We lived together, but didn’t communicate much anymore.

Eventually she decided to move back home. To do this I had to hire a Gazelle for 35,000 R . That included the round trip. The driver helped me with the loading at the departure point, and the movers at the arrival point cost about R3,000. Naturally, these costs were in excess of what we had agreed on in the agreement.