Article for parents “How to teach your child to respect elders” article
This article explores the topic of how children need to develop a respectful attitude toward their elders.
Municipal budgetary preschool educational institution
“Kindergarten compensatory orientation №16 “Golden Key”.
Article for parents of preschoolers:
“How to teach a child to respect elders”.
Teacher-psychologist Zubairova A.S.
As we grow up, each of us can remember that one of the adults ever said that elders should be respected. We grew up on these principles just as our moms and dads and grandparents did, just as we did the rest of the world. But not every adult respects elders, peers, and people in general.
And then how does a young child figure out who to respect and who not? For this, parents come to his or her aid. It is the parents who teach the child, showing him an example and further understanding of the circumstances of life.
Where does it all begin? The life of a young child revolves around himself and his family. It is in the family that the baby begins to realize its importance and develops an attitude toward relatives and loved ones.
Many moms and dads believe that the child should be raised so that he perceived his parents as friends. This is good and right, but do not forget that parents – it’s still parents, and if you do not establish boundaries of communication, then very soon you may get in trouble – the child will not perceive you as an authoritative adults, and listen to you will not. So try to make your relationship with the child very friendly and trusting, but so that your parental authority is still immutable.
Explain to your child what it means to respect someone. Give them an example from your life, tell them about the person you respect and why.
Ask your child to write down (or name) the adults in your family and say why he or she respects them.
For the child to learn what “respect” is, where it comes from and how to treasure it, you need to let him or her feel it for themselves. Therefore, first of all, you need to respect the child.
This can be all kinds of praise, appreciation of his or her efforts and skills, giving a good example of loved ones, relatives and surrounding people. For example:
1. Our daddy was very good – he made a table for you. Daddy tried for you; now you will have something to draw on.
2. Vikochka is a good girl – she shared her toys with you. She gave you a doll, you see what a greedy girl! Now you have a good friend.
3. Daughter, you draw a very beautiful picture! You can see that you tried hard. Clever girl!
By your tone, manner of communication with the child and facial expressions, the baby begins to understand how important it really is for someone to try and be attentive to their loved ones. And most importantly, it is very nice to be praised. It makes you realize that everything has to be just so and so right.
Watch how you treat your child and others in the presence of your baby. Never scold your child in front of strangers. Even if he has done something very wrong. Let your child know firmly that he will never be humiliated by someone close to him.
Remember that for a child of up to 7-8 years you are a role model. And as you behave with other people, so, in the opinion of the baby, he can behave with you. Follow also what kind of relationship you have with your husband (wife). If you are disrespectful to your partner, don’t expect the child to treat mom and dad differently.
Fostering a child’s respect for their elders
Step 1: First, teach your child to respect you. They need to know the rules you set and know their boundaries. There is no need to speak in a disrespectful tone.
Step 2: Teach your children that elders deserve respect for many reasons. Such reasons are getting a job, keeping our country together, and building the society in which we live. Take your kids to Veterans Day, it will help them understand why they should be respected. Also tell them about all grandparents’ day.
Step 3: Also, show respect yourself. When they feel they are respected, they will begin to show it in their own actions. While in church, teach children to respect themselves and others.
Step 4: Reward your children for holding doors for others, for saying “thank you” and “please” and for any other acts of respect for others. When they learn to respect others, they will be able to build strong lasting relationships.
How to teach a child to respect their elders?
It is not uncommon to hear nowadays that “today’s young people have absolutely no respect for the older generation.” And this, of course, can be given many examples – there are times when teenagers do not give way to older people in the bus, students are rude to teachers, a child who can already speak does not want to say hello to adults. Respect for elders is a norm of behavior that should be instilled from an early age. These are the values that should be one of the first priorities in the family. If children don’t recognize the authority of their elders, then what will they learn at school? And how will they relate to their aging parents?
Parents’ behavior should set an example.
Before you throw all your energy into the proper upbringing of your child, ask yourself – but how do you yourself treat people who are older than you? Parents – the authority for a child, the truth in the first instance. And if the mom and dad do not follow these standards of behavior, you can not even hope that the child will respect the adults!
Toddlers need to be constantly “reminded” that they should treat their elders with respect and help them. But trusting conversations alone will not be enough. Prove your words with visual examples! Are you going on public transport? Give way to the elderly. See an old lady with bags? Help her and her child to get home.
Lead by example, show your child how you treat your parents – their grandparents. Let the baby see your warm feelings towards the older generation from a young age. Children absorb everything they see and hear like sponges. When adult family members treat their elders with respect, they will behave in the same way.
Children’s respect for adults often manifests itself in a desire to help mom or dad. If your baby offered to do the dishes after the family dinner today, do not send him to the room – do not cut at the root of good intentions of the baby, let him help. Some chores can do even a preschooler.
It’s important to teach children the rules of etiquette
It would seem so easy to greet and say goodbye to a person. But even these simple communication skills need to teach children. But respect for their elders is composed of basic rules of etiquette.
It can be difficult for a small child to behave decently in the company of older people – there are no social skills. Even harder for him to be in society, if he does not know the basic rules of etiquette. It happens so that the baby can already read, but to say hello when entering a room where there are adults, and did not learn. And this, of course, is an oversight of the parents. “Hello”, “goodbye”, “please”, “thank you” – these are phrases that should appear in the baby’s vocabulary as soon as possible. Children will definitely follow the established rules of politeness, if it is clearly explained to them how and why to do it.
Preschool children should know:
- Adults should be addressed as “you”.
- You should not unceremoniously interrupt your elders when they are talking.
- You should always say “magic” words – hello, goodbye, thank you.
- It is not allowed to talk noisily at the table with adults.
- Do not burst into every room in a row without permission of adults.
The simplest rules of etiquette to teach a child is not difficult. But mom and dad will have to “remind” the baby of the correct behavior from time to time.
Teach your baby to share
Talk to your child that sharing with your family is good. And don’t forget to back it up with personal examples! Let your child get used to the fact that adults in the family have their own needs and desires too – so he will learn to respect grandparents, dad and mom.
Bake cookies at home? Let the baby divides the sweets for all the household. It should not be so, that the child eats as much as he wants, and the rest of the family “what’s left. The simplest action, but it teaches respect and appreciation for loved ones.
Teach your child to empathize and care
The ability to empathize and sympathize with loved ones – an important quality that will help your child grow up to be a decent person. It is important that your child understands as early as possible that the people closest to you need help. And when he understands this, he will definitely start to give way to an older person on the bus.
For example, if someone in the family is sick, explain to the child that it is necessary to take pity and help. Even a schoolboy will not be difficult to bring his grandmother a warm jacket or just ask how she feels today. The main thing is to have the desire to do it! Of course, not all young children will understand what care is, but any positive qualities can be instilled. Mom does not need to deny her child’s desire to take care of her. And let the whole kitchen after making tea will be covered with sugar, let the little mistress to “treat” you to tea after a long day. Waved off the child once, the second time he may not want to show affection for you.
Respect the child
Parents would do well to remember a very simple rule – treat your child the way you would like him to treat you. How the baby will respect you (and all adults in general), if you are constantly yelling at him, publicly scolding him, setting strict prohibitions literally for everything? Believe me, a little later the child will respond in the same disrespectful way – such a protest.
Let the baby understand that you appreciate and respect him – he will answer you in the same way. Do not interrupt your child when he tells you something, listen to his opinion.
Teach your child to be grateful
It’s clear that loving parents will do anything for their child, without expecting anything in return. But when it crosses all the lines of reasonableness, there will grow up a little “consumer” who doesn’t even know the word “thank you. Toys, fancy clothes, modern gadgets – all gifts are taken for granted. Maybe it’s time to explain to your child that mom and dad are not robots?
You won’t even get a “thank you” for the countless gifts while the child will know that he is the head of the family, that only around him revolve mom and dad. The family must clearly respect the hierarchy – first the adults, then the child. And it’s just against the background of this parental priority that gratitude will be born when you satisfy the child’s wishes.