How to Say No.

How to Say No: 9 ways to say no firmly but politely

The habit of saying “yes”: why it’s bad to be unrequited at work

Alice Muir psychologist, certified by the British Psychological Society, teacher, trainer, author and personal growth coach

One of the most common difficulties is having to say no to people. And while there are often situations at work in which, due to your professional duties, you simply cannot say “no”, every day there will be other circumstances that give you some freedom of choice. How do you exercise your right to say “no” and properly formulate a refusal?

Why it’s important to know how to say no

Think of it this way: not saying “no” at the right time, you put the needs of the other person above their own. Is this what you really want? There are many situations in the workplace where your needs are just as important, and in some circumstances even more important, than the needs of your colleagues. Remember how often colleagues have turned you down. And you calmly and without irritation accepted this answer. So why worry that someone will be upset if you behave in a similar way?

The real problem is that the constant “yes” easily becomes a habit, and to change the entrenched pattern of behavior is really difficult. Think back to your colleagues. Can you guess what to expect from each of them? Probably yes. Similarly, your coworkers, once they become accustomed to your unpromptedness, are likely to make so many requests of you that you simply can’t keep up with them. Thus, the habit of constantly agreeing to work requests will lead you to become overwhelmed, because you’re taking on more than you can do or really should do. This leads to stress, frustration, resentment, conflicts and mistakes, and over time the situation only gets worse.

So, being able to say no when you think you need to is an important skill to master. You will surely have situations where you want to help someone, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Remember: assertiveness means respecting your needs and rights as much as those of others, and agreeing to compromise when necessary.

Act gradually and don’t try to do everything at once. Try one new skill and hone it until you get results. Be prepared for the fact that not everything will work out all at once. You want to learn new skills, and there are always ups and downs in learning something new.

Many people don’t like to say “no,” believing that there is only one way to do it: outright rejection. Such a “no” can come across as rude and aggressive. And that’s usually not the impression you want to make at work. You strive to establish good relations with colleagues, but you will inevitably have to refuse someone for the sake of yourself – your own health and well-being. So you have to be able to say no, but in a way that shows respect for the other person’s needs. There are different ways of saying no, depending on the situation. Here are three basic options.

Direct denial is the most uncompromising method, and it is rarely appropriate for use at work. It is most often used when someone’s rights are violated. In such cases, you can say loudly and firmly, “Don’t you hear me, I said no.

Asking for more information or promising “some other time” is an opportunity for discussion, while rejection remains an option.

A thoughtful “no” is the most delicate way, as you show that you have listened to the person you are talking to.

Below I will explain in detail what each of these options are, but the choice will depend on the situation, your attitude toward it, and the person making the request, because it could be your mentor, your supervisor, a colleague, or a team member you really want to help.

Don’t try to change your behavior drastically and overnight. This is especially true of rejections, as you may shock colleagues who don’t expect a leopard to suddenly change its coloration. It is much better to start small, practice hard and change gradually.

How to refuse beautifully: 100 ways to say “No”.

Picks up

Many people are uncomfortable refusing a request so as not to seem rude, not to hurt someone’s feelings or keep their job.

Because of this, we sometimes agree to things we don’t really want and then regret our decision.

Fortunately, there are several ways to say “No” politely and still save face.

We’ve made a compilation of the best ways to say no tactfully to requests of any kind.

How to refuse a person’s request

3. no thanks, I can’t.

4. Not this time.

5. No, thank you, I have other plans.

6. Unfortunately, it’s not a good time.

7. Alas, I have something else.

8. Unfortunately, no.

9. I have other things to do.

11. I’m sorry, but I can’t.

12. Maybe next time.

13. That sounds great, but I’m not promising.

14. I’m busy with other things.

15. I can’t make it at this time.

16. Thank you, that’s all right.

17. I can’t this week/this month/year.

18. I have too much to do right now.

19. I’m not discussing anything right now.

20. I wish I could make it work.

22. I wish we could.

23. If only I could.

24. I wish I could-but I can’t.

26. Maybe next month, when the situation becomes clearer.

27. I’m already on the verge, some other time.

28. If only it would work.

29. I have to say no.

30. I need some time.

31. Thank you for thinking of me, but I can’t.

33. Absolutely not.

34. Hell, I can’t do it.

35. Man, I wish I could.

36. I’m not the right person for this.

37. I am now learning to limit my responsibilities.

38. I’m not taking on any new cases right now.

39. Another time might work out.

40. It doesn’t seem like it would work for me.

41. I’m completely devoted to resting now, so there’s no time for anything else.

42. I’m not sure I’m the best candidate for this.

43. No thanks, but it sounds tempting.

44. Sounds like you need something I can’t give at the moment.

45. I think I don’t qualify, I’m sorry.

46. This is not a good idea for me.

48. I try to save money.

49. I won’t be able to help.

50. If only I had a double.

51. I can’t make the time I need.

52. I won’t be able to devote the time.

53. I’m all about the project now, so I won’t be able to.

54. I wish there were two of me.

55. I’m flattered, but I can’t.

56. I can’t give you an answer right now, will you contact me?

57. I can’t take it on right now.

58. I really appreciate what you asked me to do, but I can’t do it.

59. I understand that you really need my help, but I just can’t agree to it. I’m sorry.

60. I’m going to say no now. I’ll let you know if anything changes.

61. I’m honored that you asked me, but my answer is no.

62. No, I can’t do that, but here’s what I can do.

63. I don’t have what you need at the moment.

64. Under other circumstances I’d like to, but I can’t right now.

65. I want to, but I can’t.

66. I can’t give more than I should.

67. I’d like to, but I know I’ll regret it.

68. I can’t take on any more responsibilities.

69. I can’t do what you’re asking me to do.

70. I can help you next weekend instead.

71. Let me think about it.

72. Here’s what will work for me.

73. Can I come back to you later?

74. Seventy-four. That doesn’t suit me.

75. I’m sorry, I’m busy.

76. Thank you for thinking of me. I really wish I could.

77. Let me check my calendar.

78. Unfortunately, it’s not something I can do at the moment.

80. I already have reservations.

81. Sorry, I can’t help this time.

82. Sounds cool, but I know.

83. How about “No”?

84. Not in this life.

85. Look, I have to go, but thanks for asking.

87. My mind says yes, but my heart says no.

88. Look at this! Squirrel!

89. I have other plans tonight.

90. I’d love to, but I’m already too busy.

91. No way.

92.I don’t have time for that now.

93. To be honest, I’m not a big fan of .

94. I have a headache. Let’s talk when I feel better.

95. Perhaps when you need …?

96. I’m not sure. I don’t feel well today.

97. Sorry, I’m not good enough at … to help you.

98.I don’t have the right skills.

99. Thanks for the invitation, but my son has a soccer game that day, which I can’t miss.

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