How to get a girl to like you – if you’re fat
People everywhere are faced with the pernicious influence of beauty standards on everyday life and inner sense of self. In society, it generates discrimination and sexualization, becomes the cause of complexes and low self-esteem.
Fat people are often subjected to this, because they become objects of ridicule and the stereotype that only inactive and unhealthy people have a large weight. Body positivity is just beginning to gain momentum, and we need to enjoy life now.
Not only many modern girls are worried about their appearance and weight, but also men. This part of the population is not less affected, especially within small groups.
It is worth remembering first and foremost that a man is unique both externally and internally. Being overweight, having scars, having imperfect facial features or a body is normal for both girls and guys.
Being able to accept your body is an important skill to learn from childhood, regardless of clothing size. If the question arises as to how a girl will like you if you are fat – you need to understand what prevents this and learn to love yourself. In most cases it is the lack of confidence that prevents you from getting acquainted with the girl, and not extra pounds.
The following tips will help insecure guys to please any beautiful lady.
The concept of “beauty” is subjective.
Guys initially evaluate the appearance of the girl and only then recognize her as a whole person. Women are built differently, because they evaluate not only the appearance of the interlocutor. Important traits are confidence, the ability to maintain a dialogue, a sense of humor, and others. Everything is individual: the most handsome guy does not always cause admiration, as, for example, a good-natured and open full man, however, the rule is the opposite. There are different ways to be sexy.
Traits that are attractive much more than looks
Everyone has their own idea of beauty and highlights different traits that an ideal partner should have. Many look for a strong and confident man, while others appreciate softness. Someone crazy about the athletic body, but there are women who prefer fat guys.
Basically highlights such characteristics of the “ideal” chosen one:
- confidence;
- sociability;
- openness;
- determination;
- initiative;
- loyalty;
- responsiveness;
- rationality;
- self-sufficiency;
- security;
- optimistic attitude;
- purposefulness.
To answer the question of how a fat guy to like a girl, you need to find these traits and show as simple as possible: through dialogue, their own actions and attitudes towards other people. But do not forget that this is a small part of the holistic perception, because much depends on the individual person.
Basic rules that will allow you to make a good impression
A few tips to help show yourself when you first communicate:
- Forget about being overweight! Do not think about what you do not like about yourself, as well as dwell on the shortcomings, because there are many more advantages. Take full advantage of the moment and enjoy the company in a pleasant company. Women like guys who can charm their personality, have charisma and interest in what’s going on.
- Develop confidence and try to accept what cannot be changed. To succeed with the opposite sex, you need to accept what you don’t have and then focus on what makes you stand out from the rest. Try to find a hobby that makes you happier. Women love men who are passionate about something interesting.
- Love yourself. Once you learn to accept yourself and start dedicating time to hobbies, you can love yourself. This is the easiest and most accessible step.
Obesity is not the true reason that can prevent a man from meeting a beautiful lady. Remember that your complexion is perfect for someone, which means it’s worth trying to meet an interesting young lady.
Things that women do not like more than the extra weight.
There are other worst enemies than overweight, which prevent people from liking you:
- Unkempt appearance. Nobody cancelled the basic rules of hygiene: do not forget about taking a shower, clean and fresh clothes, polished shoes, regular visits to the barber, a daily shave.
- Overly intrusive advances or, on the contrary, a lack of demonstration of feelings. No need to go to extremes.
- Banal ways of dating. A fat man can not always win his chosen one with external data, you need to show creativity and ingenuity. Remember that there is only one chance to make a first impression. Well try not to miss it.
How to make a girl like you if you are fat? Show yourself and get interested, so that the interlocutor himself wanted to continue acquaintance, was interested in developing a relationship.
The world stars who proved that being overweight is not an obstacle to reach your goal
Many of today’s stars do not have perfect looks, facial proportions or an athletic body, but that has not stopped them from becoming favorites around the world.
Seven fat men who are not mired in complexes and have achieved success in the business they love:
- Singer Cee-Lo Green (Cee-Lo Green) with strong vocals;
- Actor Kevin Smith, who played in the blockbuster movie Scream 3;
- The famous Russian actor Alexander Semchev;
- Anthony Anderson with a gap between his teeth;
- comic actor Kevin James;
- popular actor Jonah Hill, who achieved success on the Olympus of fame by being “in the body.”
- Yevgeny Leonov, who won the hearts of millions.
If we look at the question from another angle: can a fat girl like a guy? It is worth remembering, for example, the American star Kim Kardashian, whose shape does not prevent her from being a photo model, desired by many men from around the world. Singer Adele is far from modern standards of beauty, but that did not prevent her from building a career and gaining international fame. TV and radio host Anfisa Chekhova does not hide her fullness, because it makes her stand out against other Russian stars. These are examples of bright women, not constrained by stereotypes and strict modern modeling frameworks. Their main secret is their love for themselves and their non-ideal shapes.
Russian plus-size model Dilyara Larina, who is not distinguished by her model appearance, says that everyone chooses who to be – a spectacular beauty, insecure and whining chubby or not chubby at all if you don’t want to be like that.
Conclusion
A woman chooses a partner who allows her to feel desired, beautiful, interesting and as a stone wall. That is why it is not so important to monitor your external beauty, but it is important to match the ideal in terms of behavior, actions and character. “Ideal” man must be neat and tidy, manly, confident and determined, with good manners and an excellent sense of humor.
Please note! Tips are individual, so only you decide how to present yourself and show personality. The main thing is to always be yourself because sincerity is always valued by the fair sex.
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I do not consider a girl of more than 55-57 kg to be the opposite sex. Eighty-seven is awful.
I don’t perceive men weighing 55-57 kg.
Your weight can be corrected very easily – every morning on an empty stomach one squeezed lemon in a glass of water, wait 40 minutes, then have breakfast if you feel like it, as lemon kills appetite, in the evening the same procedure and do not eat anything, and during the day tea with lemon, after two weeks you will see the result and be amazed. by the way it was advised by doctors nutritionists.
Some kind of underdevelopment. It’s a good figure until you’re 15.
I am 31 years old, I weigh 80 kg, I am getting married for the second time. Remarks about weight are made by women, men – never. Try to look and be feminine. That’s the whole secret.
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I am about the same as the author on the parameters and I found a site online games for a guy.He did not study anywhere, works as a merchandiser, and all his free time spent at the computer for games.That’s it.We never go anywhere almost, at the request to buy me something he refuses.At least I have a boyfriend, as opposed to my arrogant girlfriends.
I am about the same as the author on the parameters and I found a site online games for a guy.He did not study anywhere, works as a merchandiser, and all his free time spent at the computer for games.That’s it.We never go anywhere almost, at the request to buy me something he refuses.At least I have a boyfriend, as opposed to my arrogant girlfriends.
Ahaha, another loser! Anyone can find a sucker! Better to be alone than with just anyone!
Ahaha, another loser! Anyone can find a sucker! Better to be alone than with just anyone!
You can only sympathize if “having a boyfriend” is such an achievement for you. I’d rather be slim and single than a fat cow with a guy who doesn’t study anywhere and works as a trucker,
Wow, I’m 5’7″ and weigh 48 kilos. Very skinny, but 87? Author, you should not think about your boyfriend, but about your health.
Well, while you can only get a pet, maybe we will think of something for you of course, technology is not standing still.
What can you expect from a girl?
A short story about how I didn’t get married because of an invalid.
I have no personal life at all. I’m complete.
How did I start dating a girl?
How could a girl like that meet her love?
They’re all weird. I don’t even look at skinny girls. Because there’s nothing to look at. And when there is already some volume, then this is a woman in my understanding.
The author, you really don’t count on your peers, they have no brains, no taste. Your time will come.
So you decide what’s more important – a boyfriend or a doughnut?
I’m 18 and I’ve never been out with a guy. It’s just that I’m a little fat. Even though I have a pretty face and a well-proportioned figure, no one is courting me. In the male attention I am not deprived, guys with me interesting to communicate, but no more, although some friends-boys flirt with me, but it does not end with anything, that is, does not develop. I think it’s all about my weight, being overweight. Some girls I know are much stupider and uglier than me, but they have boyfriends because they are slim, they are happy unlike me. I’m tired of being alone. I do not go out so often, so I have a closed circle of communication, new acquaintances no. So I’ll be alone-alone! And already want to love, care. What to do? I would like to get advice from people who have been in a similar situation.
Hi there. I’m much older than you, so emotionally not in the subject a bit, but purely by reason that understood – you write that you little where communicating and nowhere do not go and that you fat – yes yes let’s look truth in face – you are fat and on weights stood up already well if you know your weight and growth. So let’s kill two birds with one stone – sign up for a fitness club. There are both guys and girls go there, you’ll find friends, and you’ll get a high from sports life.
I’m 18 and I’ve never been out with a guy. It’s just that I’m a little fat. Even though I have a pretty face and a well-proportioned figure, no one is courting me. In the male attention I am not deprived, guys with me interesting to communicate, but no more, although some friends-boys flirt with me, but it does not end with anything, that is, does not develop. I think it’s all about my weight, being overweight. Some girls I know are much stupider and uglier than me, but they have boyfriends because they are slim, they are happy unlike me. I’m tired of being alone. I do not go out so often, so I have a closed circle of communication, new acquaintances no. So I’ll be alone-alone! And already want to love, care. What to do? I would like to get advice from people who have been in a similar situation.
Yesterday I saw in a Spanish restaurant in Metropolis a couple of 23-25 years, she is under 100 kg, but dressed fashionably young in Zara bershku and etc., They ordered a bunch of things to eat and drink, the restaurant was not the cheapest, it seemed to me that she invited him over or at least paid him in half, it was obvious that she was flirting with him, making faces and eyes, trying to please him… So the author earn money and invite guys yourself, they are hungry for booze and food, and then you might see your soul, get used to it and stay).
Author, some guys may like fat people, but fat people are different! There are pretty chubby girls who are short, cute and shapely. And with your height you are not a charming chubby girl, but just a big girl with full, big feet, round face, a strong boy-baby. I’m describing it like that because I used to be like that! I’m 5’11” and I was 86-87 weight too. It’s been 8 months, I’m 69 now. All my neighbors and acquaintances tell me how I have changed for the better. I can see it myself. It’s a pity I was late in catching up. I used to eat kefir and fruit for dinner. I ate flour and sweets for breakfast only! After the holidays (of course they were) – do not get fat again, and again in the same spirit, eat less! By the way, I am married. But married at 75 kg, which is also a lot, of course. but now my husband baldet, he did not know that I can be smaller and more elegant. He thought I’d stay this big.
Everybody needs a body. It’s the age of the consumer and the animal.
You’re fat! And if you don’t lose weight, nobody needs you.
I like people like you. Let’s get acquainted. I’m young.
How do you meet a guy? Well, probably the same as everyone else.
Doesn’t *** what weight? It’s what’s in your head. If it’s “I have to weigh 40 kilos and stuff,” then it’s your head you need to deal with.
To take care of yourself, yes, it’s one-love yourself, to smear all sorts of creams useful and other things, to feed a good food and not shit, like fast food (one extreme) or water with lemon (the other extreme). Healthy eating does not mean sitting down and eating only lettuce, it only ruins your gastrointestinal tract.
Leading an active lifestyle. Which also does not mean hanging out at the gym all day, you can walk, go to the sea or the ocean, play volleyball or tennis, etc. Do everything for your own pleasure.
And in between all this you can find a boyfriend, not the first bastard you see, but the right one.)
How can you insult a man without knowing him or his situation?
“Ew fat means you eat too much! Axiom!” – that’s something only TPs say. No, honestly. I’m full. I haven’t lived alone my whole life – a lot of sisters, then with girls in the dorm. All my life I’ve eaten the least, I have something to compare it to. And everyone around me is skinny. I have health problems, I haven’t eaten flour, sweets or fat for more than ten years. Sugar is just a matter of life and death. I sit on vegetables, kefir and chicken. All this time I try to lose weight, I try different diets, I don’t eat after six. It’s not for someone, it’s for myself, because I don’t feel comfortable at my weight, it really limits me in life.
And you know what? I’ve been getting fatter all these ten years. And whoever says, “Go to the doctor!” – You think girls with this kind of metabolic disorder haven’t been to a doctor? I’ve been going to different doctors for ten years and no one can give me any advice. I have already put my other organs on their medications and I feel like a guinea pig and I keep gaining weight.
I lead an active lifestyle – exercises, bicycle, long walks twice a day (I have four dogs), in summer – river every day, the sea with friends – I swim very well and far))). Yes, for the last year and a half I’ve been dancing three times a week.
I’m happy for those who are lucky enough not to have metabolic problems, for whom being overweight can only be a consequence of beer and chips and cake and coke. I feel sorry for those who have my weight really only because of overeating – girls, stop and pull yourself together! But you can’t put everyone in the same mold. I’m fighting for my weight, maybe my soreness will stop at some point. But it really hurts me to hear “fat cow”, “a girl over 55 kg – not a girl”, “yes you’re a mountain of fat”, “go to the doctor”, etc. “You have no willpower!” For what? You allow yourself hundreds of times more delicious foods and lying on the couch in your life than I do. “Quit eating fast food!” I’ve been to McDonald’s once in my life, and I just went for 30 seconds to rush a friend. And all the other joys of life that stupid and narrow-minded people around us bestow upon us.
Author, if your overweight from buns and chips – go and fight it, will be healthier! But you do not have a boyfriend because of weight. I’m 22 years old, my weight is 115 kg. I’ve had boyfriends, I have a boyfriend now. Those who say that no one is interested in your inner world, they just do not have what to attract attention, except their 40 kg. Always run in life from guys who care what their friends think of you, how you’ll be evaluated, who are embarrassed to show you to them because of some flaw in your appearance. These are scary people, people who are empty-nesters. Also, run away from lovers of “fat girls” (there are such perverts), you are only a sex object for them, the hell you need it. Live, and when it will be necessary, when the time comes, you will definitely meet him – someone who will love you and you.
There is nothing good in excessive fat, fight against it. You have children to give birth to – it won’t make them healthier. Neither will it make you healthier. But never make it a goal in your life, don’t get hung up on it. It’s even worse if you fixate on weight, but do nothing about it.
