Who is prone to neuroses, psychoses, why go crazy?
Neurosis (anxiety disorder) can happen to anyone regardless of intelligence, willpower, external data, socio-financial status, experience and wisdom. It is true that some people get neurotic disorders with the same internal and external influences more easily than others.
Personality traits that, under unfavorable conditions, facilitate the onset of neurosis:
- tendency to control everything
- a tendency to control emotions within oneself
- tendency to get stuck in situations
- high intelligence
- dependence on the opinion of others
- desire to be good/good
- do everything perfectly
- better than others
- fixation on success
- Tendency to consider everything through a prism “all or nothing” or “black or white”.
In addition to the above-mentioned personality traits, external unfavorable factors can also contribute to neurosis. This can include everything that contributes to the accumulation of a state of stress:
- Prolonged periods of uncertainty and novelty (e.g.: will/won’t a deal go through, will they approve/not approve, will they promote/not promote, will they fire/not fire, how will an inspection end, what is the baby sick, why is it not working to get pregnant, and so on). What is characteristic (and very often) is that the neurosis begins when the troubles are over.
- Long-term unsatisfaction of some needs (for example, chronic lack of sleep, routine, inability to realize one’s interests, potential or ambitions, dissatisfaction with personal life, non-recognition of achievements, inability to control everything… It is worth noting that people differ in the expression of different needs, so what for one will cause stress, for another – will not. For example, a person with a high degree of need for communication, recognition, dynamics around what is happening will not be comfortable to work as a programmer or an accountant. But introverts and pedants, it’s just the same.
- Some external factor provoked a strong experience, anxiety. For example, someone died, went crazy, suddenly and very sharply increased blood pressure, the person was mocked/mocked, the person was in a serious accident.
- Anyone can get neurosis (anxiety disorder).
- Having a neurosis is not a weakness. Rather, it is an unfortunate confluence of circumstances, or rather unfavorable circumstances that are layered on the personality traits. (It is not uncommon to hear from patients something like: “I never thought this could happen to me”, “if I heard about neuroses, depressions, I always thought it was not about me”, “I thought it was some kind of weakness, nonsense, from nothing to do, a person makes things up and just does not want to work”).
- To reduce the causes of neurosis to childhood complexes, a lack of love in childhood, intrapersonal conflicts and ulterior motives in the unconscious is literally last century.
- The main type of treatment for neurosis is psychotherapy, and medication is only an aid.
- It is very important for complete relief from neurosis to deal with the characteristics and personalities that contribute to the anxiety disorder. It is believed that character cannot be remade. This is largely true, especially with regard to temperament. But such a task is not set, it is only necessary to help the psyche to learn additional patterns of perception and behavior to make the person more stress-resistant and adaptive. It is also important to optimize lifestyle.
- It is possible to get rid of neurosis and stop allowing it to affect one’s life.
While anyone can fall ill with neurosis, not everyone, or rather a very small group of people, can be “lucky” to go insane. For example, about 1% of the world’s population suffers from schizophrenia. They do not simply fall into psychosis (i.e. a state with hallucinations, delusions, expressed emotional shifts, etc.) due to external circumstances or strong experiences. By the way, neurosis never turns into psychosis, i.e. one does not go crazy from it. For psychosis to happen, there must be changes in the brain at the cellular and biochemical level. Anticipating the question “what if I have something like that”, I would like to say that a person in psychosis (in the acute phase of insanity) will never think that he has suddenly gone mad. One of the most important criteria of psychosis is the absence of criticism of the condition or illness. Therefore, if you are puzzled, it means that you are sane, despite symptoms that may seem abnormal to you. Of the factors that can increase the chances of going insane are a burdened heredity, such as someone in your family ending up in a psychiatric hospital. Of course, it is possible to describe the illnesses that cause or manifest themselves in psychosis. However, it’s better for non-specialists not to dive into this topic, so as not to start fantasizing and winding yourself up. If something confuses you, it is better to find a good specialist in the subject you are interested in and consult.
All of the above is rather addressed to people suffering from various forms of neurosis, because they have many fears that their neurotic state can develop into something more serious, ending up in something bad, and they will end up in a psychiatric hospital.
A private detective talks about how and who drives people crazy
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse, which takes the form of driving another person to insanity. In this article we will talk about the types of gaslighting and tell about the ways to drive a person crazy on “live” examples.
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The most important gaslighting
First of all, I would like to point out: the most important gaslight for a man is himself. Who, if not we, knows our pain points better than anyone else, and who, if not we, can plunge our own psyche into a state of paradox in two moves? One realization of this simple truth in itself will strengthen your psyche and increase your resistance to outside intervention attempts.
Types of Gaslighting
We divide gaslighting into two types: 1. Deliberate. This category includes situations where the abuser is deliberately trying to destabilize your psyche in order to bring you to a mental disorder in his personal interests. For example, coworkers may gaslight a person in order to “drive him out” of the team. 2. Unconscious. It is also not uncommon when a loved one acts as a gaslighter without realizing it. For example, the child’s mother, going through a painful divorce, may set the offspring against his father, putting him in the head of the false memories of the atrocities he allegedly did daddy. The child’s psyche is very fragile and easily thrown into paradox. To “remind” a child of non-existent events is a direct path to the destruction of his mental health. Although the mother is hardly aware of this.
Besides, gaslighting is professional and unprofessional. Let us dwell in detail on each of them, beginning with the second.
Let’s list the main types of amateur gazlaiting. 1. Samogazlaiting. As we have already said, a person can easily “gazlait” his psyche on his own without resorting to the help of strangers to do this.
2. Family. The role of the aggressor can be played by the spouse (many women are perfectly capable of playing the role of the gaslighter). An example of male gaslighting is the 1944 film “Gas Lighting”. An example of gaslighting by a woman: Knowing her husband’s addiction to alcohol, the next morning after her husband’s drinking she can assure him of the atrocities he has allegedly committed or attribute to him promises he did not make. The man’s psyche at the same plunges into a paradox – because he remembers that he did not do or say anything of this nature. But his spouse assures him otherwise, which means that his problems with alcohol are much more serious than he thought. Parents can be gazlighters for young children (let us turn to the example of the mother, who sets the child against the father by putting imaginary events into his head). On the other hand, adult children can also drive their elderly parents insane – for example, in order to send them to an institution and get the “inheritance” that is due to them. The psyche of the elderly can be destabilized more easily than that of children. It is enough to quietly take some of the money from the “secret” stash of an elderly parent, and then deny his involvement in the disappearance – and the old man himself admits that he has a lapse in memory and that he often “freaks out”.
3. Worker. Within the team, several employees can easily choose an undesirable colleague and playfully drive him to a mental disorder. We had a case in our practice where a sales manager was convinced that a profitable deal was in his pocket within five minutes. The employee had high hopes for the conclusion of the contract and even told his boss about it in advance. But then the deal “snapped” (of course, in reality, the real client did not exist – all negotiations have set up a colleague of the victim), and the sales manager got a full-scale nervous breakdown and, of course, was forced to leave his place of work. Another subtle example: colleagues conspired together and led one employee to believe that he constantly stank (in fact, there was no unpleasant odor at all). The unfortunate victim went so far as to change clothes several times a day, to be afraid to come within a few meters of people, and to go through every doctor imaginable and unimaginable. The climax of the gazlating was a speech by the head of the unit, in which he urged the employee to take better care of his personal hygiene. Of course, after this excess, the man immediately resigned. One can only wonder how many complexes he has acquired as a result of this gaslighting and whether he will be able to get rid of them later, without resorting to the help of specialists.
4. Neighborly The role of aggressors is most often played by fringe people who have a predilection for drinking and noisy night parties. Doomed to such a neighborhood, a person quickly begins to suffer from lack of sleep, which, in turn, easily destabilizes his psyche. In most cases, neighborhood gaslighting begins as unconscious. It is only when the victim tries to fight the abusers that they begin to purposefully make their neighbor’s life unbearable.
5. Other types of gaslighting Ideal environments for destabilizing the human psyche are closed institutions with their own isolated microclimate. Gaslighting flourishes in prisons, armies, radical sects and even in children’s schools.
The tools of non-professional gaslighting include the following set of tools: – wiretaps and hacking of social networks; – surveillance; – psychotropic drugs slipped into food; – speculation on the weaknesses and addictions of a person (in particular, alcohol). As a result of the complex of measures used, the victim gradually plunges into paranoia, loses touch with reality and ceases to distinguish lies from the truth. In this case, the mental disorder is only a few steps away.
1. In the previous article we told you about the special services’ research into destabilizing the human psyche. The classical “twofold” gaslighting of special services were the following tools: destroying global values of a human being; plunging the psyche into a state of paradox. To date, security services of the Russian Federation do not resort to gaslighting methods, choosing other ways to neutralize unwanted citizens. However, from time to time it is possible to observe situations when the security services are the initiators of unconscious gaslighting. Thus, a person who is under surveillance may notice it and fall into a state of clinical paranoia. A perfect example of this is Hemingway, who suffered from persecution mania for many years. It was only after his death that the public became aware that the security services were indeed spying on the famous writer.
2. In our practice we had a case when a Customer came to us, at first glance, suffering from classic paranoia. He claimed that he was denied entry to half of the countries in the world, and in those where he could enter, he was under constant surveillance. His correspondence was allegedly being opened and his phone calls tapped. Admittedly, at first we treated the customer’s complaints with a degree of skepticism. However, a gaslighting check showed that he was indeed under total surveillance by special services of various countries of the world. We turned to the customer with a question: what did he do such a thing? Then the following story came to light. Our client was a rock musician. While on tour in Hong Kong he met the daughter of a local influential businessman. The girl fell in love with the musician, they began a relationship and later concluded a marriage. However, after some time, under the influence of the environment, the girl became addicted to drugs, and subsequently, in a state of drug intoxication, she died. The father-in-law of our client decided to avenge his daughter’s death, and the total surveillance of the special services was precisely his revenge. How did one man (albeit an influential one) manage to pull it off? The answer struck even us. It turns out that a “left” clone of our client had a bank account in his name. This account was followed by a series of wire transfers to the accounts of prominent extremist organizations. The transfers were accompanied by relevant extremist comments approving the activities of the above organizations. As a final step, the father of the deceased girl sent details of these transfers to the Hong Kong intelligence services. Subsequent developments took place without the vigilante’s involvement. The intelligence services of various countries exchanged information about our client with each other and included him in the list of suspicious persons sympathetic to international terrorist organizations. This was enough for the rock musician to be under surveillance in half of the countries, and in the other half they stopped letting him in at all. The worst thing about this revenge is that such a “wolf ticket” is a one-way ticket. Alas, the man has no possibility of appealing to the department of any of the intelligence services and of filing a formal appeal. The decision is made without his participation and is not subject to review.
3. The State The State is also an excellent gaslighter. A prime example of this is the quarantine during the COVID-19 pandemic. People were locked up in their homes, many lost their jobs. At the same time, mass media broadcast reassuring messages: the government established a system of benefits and subsidies for the population and citizens are under the protection of the government. In fact, very few people received the above subsidies. The welfare of the citizens sharply deteriorated, while at the same time the payment of loans, utility bills and other expenses in fact did not go anywhere. In this situation the psyche of an enormous number of people was destabilized. Mass hysteria around 5G and unsubstantiated global conspiracy theories that many citizens in financial distress willingly took on board provided graphic proof of this.
In this article we talked about the types of gaslighting and gave many “real-life” examples of driving people to insanity. In the next article, we will discuss ways to resist gaslighting and give general advice on how not to let your psyche be destabilized.
Do you feel like you are a victim of gaslighting? Contact Legion for a gaslighting check – together we’ll be sure to establish the truth and find a solution to your problem.