How to charm any guy? Lifehacks of 13 ways.
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Oscar Wilde said that there are no bad and good people. They can either be charming or boring.
Mr. Wilde said many entertaining things, and there is definitely something in that saying.
We all know the kind of girl who, when she appears in new company, immediately charms everyone and captures everyone’s attention. The ability to charm people is a very useful skill. And it will help you to win the guy who occupies all your thoughts.
How to charm a guy? What to say, how to speak and how to behave?
How to charm a guy?
- Interest in others.
These charming personalities, who can instantly win over anyone, have a very interesting quality – they are interested in more than just themselves. Take an interest in this guy and be just as friendly with your mutual friends and acquaintances.
This is especially true for girls who like to chat so much that they sometimes forget to listen to the person they’re talking to. Okay, maybe you’re just worried and you’re actually really interested in this guy. But I don’t think he can read minds. If you can’t stop talking, turn the whole thing into a joke: “Sorry, I got a little carried away. In fact, sometimes I get quiet. It’s time I listened to you a little bit.”
- Act like you’re already friends.
Within reason, of course. This will work not only with this guy, but with others as well. Find what you like about the person and focus on that. You’ll relax, you’ll feel more comfortable being around that person. Your smile will be natural, and you’ll be able to charm anyone.
When talking to this guy, be friendly. Communicate with him calmly on any topic.
Of course, a little flirting won’t hurt. He’ll be the cherry on the cake.
- Call him by his first name.
Referring to a person by name does have some kind of magical psychological effect. It feels good, especially if you’ve just met. Think back to that feeling when a new acquaintance calls you by name – “Hmmm, did he really remember my name? Plus a hundred points to Gryffindor!”
The important thing is not to get it wrong. It’s better to clarify his name and show the guy that you’re interested in him than to call him someone else’s name half the night and put you both in a stupid position.
There’s a fine line between “mystery” and “does she even know how to talk?”
Answer questions, tell funny life stories. In short, let the guy get to know you better.
Your stories about yourself should be empowering, so don’t brag and show the guy how lucky he is to hang out with a royalty like you.
It’s up to you to decide how candid you want to be. But don’t be afraid to seem funny – the ability to make fun of yourself will always be valuable.
It’s hard to charm someone who’s afraid to approach you. Smile when talking to this guy. Try to relax and really enjoy your interactions. Then the smile won’t be strained, but genuine.
It’s not for nothing that many experts advise literally forcing yourself to smile in order to trick your brain: “Okay, guys, she’s smiling. Apparently, we’re doing fine. Relax. Smile and wave.”
If you already know the guy and you know he won’t bounce away in fright, try touching him casually. Touch his shoulder, pat his arm, etc.
Watch his reaction – how does his expression change, what is his body language saying? That way you’ll know if it’s worth continuing the experiment or not.
If you constantly avoid eye contact, he may think you’re not interested in him. Or he’ll chalk it up to your shyness, but that quality doesn’t always play into our hands.
You have a hard time looking into the eyes of even the people closest to you? It is worth fighting yourself and get rid of these fears. Believe me, it will be worth the effort. You will feel much more comfortable talking not only to this guy, but to people in general. People will start to listen to you.
In this age of love for gadgets, a man with whom you can talk heart-to-heart, forgetting about smartphones, is worth his weight in gold.
Charming people know how to give their conversation partner the impression that he is the most interesting person in the world. Body language plays a huge role here.
Don’t cross your arms. About this trick, perhaps, know even those who are far from psychology: “So, she crossed her arms on her chest, I think it means that she closes from me.
You can beautifully toss back your hair and do other feminine things, just let him know that you are interested in him. If you’re chatting with someone else at the same time, turn in his direction from time to time, engage him in conversation, laugh at his jokes, etc.
Confident people always draw attention to themselves. They want to look at them, with them want to communicate. Just to get at least a little bit of this superpower.
Pay attention to girls who literally radiate self-confidence. You don’t have to copy their way of moving and talking, just understand the principle.
Confident girls don’t get bored alone. And in company they don’t sit on the sidelines, but they also don’t try to pull the whole blanket over themselves. They speak softly, calmly and confidently – they want to listen.
- Learn how to create an atmosphere.
Charming people are very good at finding an individual approach to each person. That’s why some girls are so easy to charm guys with absolutely no effort at all. They just know how to create a special pleasant atmosphere around the person.
Tell a guy a couple of compliments, sincerely ask him how his day was. The main thing – sincerity and friendliness.
If the guy shared with you something personal, do not ridicule him, but do not turn into a mommy. Share your life story and let him know he’s not alone. Just don’t make stuff up, it won’t do any good.
A lot of girls have a real problem with that. They just don’t know how to take a compliment. As if they are afraid that by accepting a compliment, they immediately sign their own narcissism and arrogance. Bullshit!
If a guy pays you a compliment, don’t talk back. Smile and thank him. You feel good, he feels good, you become more comfortable with each other – everyone’s a plus!
People who know how to listen are always charming. When a guy tells you something, listen carefully and ask questions. React, don’t hold back your emotions.
Don’t stare into your phone. Good listeners don’t do that.
You won’t charm this guy if you start complaining to him about life, criticizing your (your) friends, etc. Besides, people like that are not trustworthy. And consequently, no one wants to communicate with them about anything other than the weather.
And why should you talk about others at all? Talk about each other. After all, it will take you a lot of time to do all the things on our list. When are you going to talk heart-to-heart, show each other your sense of humor and your ability to listen if you discuss people you know?
P.S. Were you charming enough to win over every guy in the neighborhood except him, it seems? Remember Oscar Wilde’s other equally wise expression, “Don’t love someone who treats you like you’re ordinary.”
Calling love on yourself! 10 ways to make any man yours
Anyone dreams of meeting her prince and living happily ever after with him. However, practice shows that just meeting is not enough. Learn how to make a man fall in love with you – and then decide how you can use this information!
No man will resist you if you will treat him right. Everything is important here – and behavior, and the right words. We collected the psychological techniques that will help to make a man fall in love with you. Now we’ll tell you exactly how, and you check it out.
Give a guy the opportunity to “command the parade”.
You do not know how to make a man fall in love with you? Remember your high school lessons! How did ancient people live their lives? Men went hunting and women created comfort and kept the home. Do you think things have changed? Not at all! It’s the 21st century, and men are still unconsciously striving to build relationships according to that very ancient model. You can relate to this in different ways, but this technique works!
It is important for them to be leaders. They still want to “get their food”, to be the head of the family, not its “tail”. Feeling their own importance in a relationship with a woman allows them to fulfill that need. So let him do it! Let him take care of himself. Let him always have the last word (at least let him think so).
Make him feel like a hero.
Every man secretly dreams of being superman. Ask his opinion, consult with him and ask for his point of view. These simple techniques will help to fall in love with any man. It is very important for the stronger sex to know that they are valued. From time to time, ask him to help you. Make him feel indispensable.
Say, for example, that you just need to hang a shelf, and you well do not cope with this well. Real men do not only refuse, but at the same time will hang you a picture, move the closet and fix the faucet in the bathroom. Remember, men are willing to work tirelessly, but only on one condition: it is important for them to see our words and deeds of respect.
Do not encroach on his freedom (and do not be in a hurry to sacrifice yours).
As you know, you can’t make nice by force. Keeping someone against his will by your side – a task, to put it bluntly, impossible. To fall in love with a man, forget about the frequent calls, texts and constant pastime together. Let a man feel free and do not choke him with your love – however, this tip applies to any relationship, not just romantic. Do not be jealous of his friends. Every man needs to be able to escape for a day, two days. Not to the left! But to go fishing, to the cottage with his friends, to the bathhouse, or just to his own world. Give him the opportunity to be alone with himself. And you live your own life – there is no need to merge into ecstasy with his chosen one without a weekend or lunch break.
Let him be proud of you
It’s important for him to see that you get the attention of others and to feel that his choices are approved. If you are friendly and welcoming to his family and friends, that’s a huge plus.
Be inwardly free.
You don’t have to tell him every step of the way and try to spend as much time together as possible. Meet with friends, go to visit your parents, talk to interesting people. When a girl is constantly at his side and reports every step of his life, the man just stops paying attention to her.
Make him feel comfortable.
Try to create a trusting relationship between the two of you. Any man needs to share his worries sometimes. He needs to know that you are always ready to listen to him and support in times of need. Do not roll your eyes when it comes to his hobbies. If they seem boring to you – perhaps there is no point in wasting time building a relationship with this man?
Don’t know what words to say to a man to make him fall in love? Talk about his hobbies! He’s crazy about fishing and joining the ranks of fans of hiking? Just keep him company! Get to know his hobbies closer, you will be much easier to win his heart. Yes, and he will be pleased to know your interest in his hobbies.
Do not be stingy with praise
Every man loves praise. Try to tell him nice things. The main thing – do not go overboard and do not turn an innocent compliment in a crude flattery. Do not tell at every step, how beautiful he is. Here we are talking about respect and the recognition of his undeniable merits. You do not want to have your relationship was built on a model of “the cuckoo praises the cock for what he praises the cuckoo”? By the way, praise – this is another, and correct, way to boost his self-esteem.
As you know, men like eyes. This does not mean that you need to put on tons of makeup on the face and night to disappear in spas, to fall in love with a man in himself. A girl should be well-groomed, not vulgar. Natural beauty combined with feminine secrets of attractiveness – that is your main weapon in the fight for his heart.
Cook a delicious dinner.
Here we remember the way to the heart through the stomach. Invite him to visit and make a delicious dinner. During the process, see if his table manners meet your idea of a prince.
Sounds provocative, of course. No, it does not mean that you have to look down when he talks, and dress in the style of the school teacher. First of all, do not “untwist” the man if you want him to fall in love with you. Do not be too intrusive, demanding and do not present him with claims. Caprices and threats – this is what only irritates and creates resentment. Do not every minute to engage in self-promotion and talk about how good you are, listing your strengths and praising yourself.
The time will come, and he himself will see. Prove it with deeds, not words. Always stay a mystery to him. Do not rush to devote his man all the twists and turns of his past life. Don’t tire him out by talking too much: this can ruin the impression of communication in an instant.
A few more tips:
- Remember that seducing and falling in love are two different things. A man is unlikely to respect you if you don’t respect yourself.
- Love a man not for his achievements, position in society or money. Love him for what he is without what you could lose tomorrow.
- Men will never understand our logic, so just tell it like it is and he will try to react appropriately.
- Have faith in him. Life brings many disappointments. Any man needs someone to believe in him, no matter what. When they make mistakes, stumble and lose, they need the one they love, the one who will whisper in their ear the words “I will never stop believing in you.
How does a man in love behave? Inexplicably, but the fact is that men like to hide their feelings. He may be head over heels in love with you, but behave with restraint. Or vice versa, give flowers, to carry in his arms and fervently declare his love, but only to get you into bed. To avoid becoming just another trophy of such a Casanova, you should know the signs that distinguish enamored from infatuation:
- A man in love watches his appearance and willingly adjusts to your tastes. The strong sex is generally lazy in this regard, they are conservative in their clothing and style. It is falling in love that makes them change.
- If a man is in love with you, he is unlikely to hold a straight look. On the contrary, he will be characterized by embarrassment and furtive peeking.
- A sure sign of a man in love is a demonstration of care. He will be interested in your affairs and help solve problems.
- A truly in love man will consider you the center of his life. Other things and hobbies, if they have nothing to do with you or your common activities, will care for him much less.
- Men in love don’t insist on sex. For them, a woman is an object of worship, to which they go, conquering and accomplishing feats. A man in love wants your feelings, ideally reciprocal love, not sex.
How do men in love behave according to the zodiac sign?
The zodiac sign determines not only a man’s character, but also his behavior in different situations. If you know your man’s date of birth, you can tell if he is in love with you by comparing his behavior to the descriptions below.
Aries . They won’t woo for a long time and will quickly reveal their feelings. If you refuse him, he will start looking for a new object of desire. If you show reciprocity, a man under the sign of Aries will surround you with real care and attention. Taurus . Calm in normal life, dramatically changed in love. Begin to show their unusual initiative before, become nervous, more gestures. They start to watch their appearance. Gemini . In love, begin to throw you gifts, not sparing money and effort to acquire them. They will start to show unprecedented care and insist on frequent meetings. Cancer . A man in love under the sign of Cancer becomes very persistent, even intrusive. He begins to write many messages, call often, meet and see you off at every opportunity. Lions . When a man Leo is in love, he will strive to please you in everything, but he will admit his feelings very soon, you will have to be patient. Virgo . Men under this sign of the zodiac, falling in love can show not quite typical behavior and even show rudeness. But it’s all because of excessive shyness. If you play along a little bit, he will quickly open up and admit his true feelings. Libra . These fall in love will spend maximum time with you. However, they will not force the development of the relationship. It is important for them to make sure of reciprocity, so long friendships are the norm for them. Scorpions . Usually stingy scorpio man will not regret anything if he really falls in love with you. Will start constantly calling and looking for any excuse to meet. Sagittarians . Spiritual closeness and common interests are important for them. If they fall in love they will give you many gifts and try to take an important place in your life. Capricorns . Very unsure of themselves, so on dates will behave stiffly. But over time, they will dare, and their feelings will gradually become stronger and then they will show their full strength. Aquarius . Man Aquarius in love will be very jealous. Perhaps he will even go out of his mind, seeing that you were just talking to another man. Pisces . Will start giving hundreds of flowers, singing songs, writing poems, making original surprises. In general, you will hear compliments and receive nice gifts every day.