How to change your life for the better?

Secret routines: 36 ways to change lives Editorial articles

Writer, entrepreneur and traveler Chris Guilbeau talks about simple actions that get results.

Material from the publication Ideonomics.

Living better means living differently, so you have to make a change. To make life different tomorrow, you have to change today.

Some things are easier to change than others. By learning new ideas and practices on a regular basis, you can learn to think and live differently.

New ideas also tend to build on each other. Choose a few of them and think about how applying them might affect your life. (Pay particular attention to what triggers strong reactions, both positive and negative).

1. Learn to recognize the secret routines of life. This applies to all the unspoken but firm rules we must follow. Violation of these rules leads to social disapproval. (To have fun, start breaking them and see how people react. Face the “wrong” way in the elevator, tell people how you’re really doing when they ask “How are you?”, etc.)

2. Take notes. Find a system that works for you (there is no one-size-fits-all solution here) and use it daily. If you don’t write it down, you’ll forget most of what you’ve learned. Use regular repetition to refresh your knowledge.

3. Think about the group of people you most identify with and reflect on where you disagree with them. Do the same for any religious affiliation, nationality, organization, and so on. You will never learn to think independently if you accept a framework without examining it.

4. Your recollection of some thing is different from the thing itself. This is known as memory bias (in fact, there are many different brain biases), and we are all subject to it. One characteristic I think about a lot is the culmination-end rule: we remember the intense part of an experience the most and tend to disregard everything else, even if the other parts were much more typical.

5. Don’t try to “be in balance.” Balanced people don’t change the world and no one is particularly interested. Be yourself, accept the ups and downs and just live.

6. Understand the difference between what you can control and what you can’t (hint: most things you can’t control). If you can stop worrying about things out of your control, most anxiety will leave your life.

7. Identify the small purchases that bring you joy and don’t feel guilty about them . Ignore the financial experts who advise saving up by not buying coffee or giving up small pleasures. These purchases won’t change anything in the long run financially, but they will affect your joy right now.

8. When it comes to lifestyle improvements that cost money (houses, cars, etc.), be careful about dreaming . Some improvements are really useful, but you soon start to strive for them out of habit. In fact, this is a warning signal: you want something without clear evidence that it will make life better. Beware!

9. Understand the principle of loss aversion: We are much more afraid of losing something than we are of gaining it. Keep this in mind as you think about different options and risks. Sometimes the most dangerous thing in the world is not taking risks.

10. When agonizing over a decision, think about each option and pay attention to the bodily sensations. This is a practice I learned and couldn’t get a good feel for for many years. One of my first therapists was always asking me to describe events and asking, “How does this feeling resonate in the body?” and I always gave away sensations of the mind but not the body. The goal is to find the somatic feeling.

11. Trying to please someone with ever-changing expectations is a sure way to feel anxious all the time. Besides, what didn’t kill you is likely to try to kill you again.

12. Show selfish generosity: Being a good person makes you feel happier. Do something good for someone else every day.

13. Use tools that allow you to learn something new every day. For example, I used to think book summaries were silly, but then I decided to try them, especially in areas of science I didn’t know much about. Suddenly I found that I learned a lot in a short period of time! I now have several apps with which I can learn new things wherever I am.

14. Avoid activities that you do solely for status or prestige. It will be your undoing or at least make you feel depressed.

15. There is a whole set of unspoken rules and patterns in relationships. Pay attention to them. What does your partner need? Who else would like your attention right now?

16. Some people are inherently uplifting and joyful. Spend more time with them and less with those who are negative and moody.

17. Exercise isn’t always fun, but being able to feel strong and healthy is. When you’re trying to decide if you should exercise, think about how you’ll feel after you exercise. I lay out my clothes for my morning run in the evening.

18. Comparison is the cornerstone of suffering. To keep yourself from getting discouraged and to be happier, avoid comparing yourself to others.

19. be careful when watching any show for longer than one season. If you really like it, keep going! If it doesn’t pull at least a 9 out of 10, stop. As they say, there are always plenty of streaming services out at sea…or at least on the Internet.

20. Make a list of what you believe to be true. Update it as your beliefs change.

21. Stick to a schedule, but sometimes give it up completely. Both of these rules are extremely important to success. Some of the most ambitious people live the most boring lives-they know what needs to be done, so they go toward their goal without looking around. But if you spend all your time this way, you run the risk of wallowing in boredom and getting stuck along the way. (Yes, this is exactly the case when you need balance).

22. Lucky is luck + action. To get lucky more often, take more action. Walk as much as possible. Climb stairs. When you get ideas, turn them into practical steps and start taking action.

23. There is usually more than one way to accomplish something. Alternative ways are most often easier, faster, cheaper, or simply better.

24. A way out of a bad situation is always possible . If you really don’t like something, don’t be afraid to change your mind. Never mind how much you’ve already invested! Real winners often quit what they start.

25. Some people like to set and impose limits for no good reason other than to protect their own power. Do what you can to break those restrictions, both for yourself and for others.

26. Try to build your relationships with people by sharing their values, not their beliefs. Are you in a bubble made up only of people with the same political and social beliefs? Quick test: if you can’t think of many people close to you who disagree on serious issues, you are in a bubble.

27. Never use social media as a news source.

28. Successful people use systems, but the systems they use may be different. You don’t have to get up early, meditate for ten minutes a day, don’t check email in the morning, etc., which is a productivity trend. You need to figure out how you work best and then make whatever changes you can to support those conditions.

29. Try to remember that everyone has experienced trauma or heartache, or if they have been lucky enough to avoid it so far, sooner or later it will catch up with them. Remember this when dealing with people who annoy you.

30. Learn to develop your emotional intelligence. Awareness and empathy are not natural talents!

31. If you find yourself in a situation of stale conflict, ask yourself: “Do you want to be right or free?” Choose one or the other. Also, the first rule of negotiation: the one who loses the most worries. If you are willing to walk away at any time, you are in a stronger position.

32. Without taking it too seriously, take a few personality tests to get some useful information about yourself quickly. There’s a chance you’ll learn something, even if it’s not the most scientific process. A few classic tests: the four types of temperament, the archetypes test, the Myers-Briggs typology.

33. Become aware of the role the ego plays in your life. Don’t try to defeat it, try to identify when it leads you to bad decisions. The ego is your enemy!

34. You will be happier if you don’t try to change for other people or expect other people to change for you. Most people do one or the other and therefore are often disappointed.

35. Reflecting on survival scenarios will help you become stronger. These can be a variety of situations: getting lost in the wilderness or losing your job and your savings in one day. What will you do if…?

36. Kindness is very much underestimated. Anyone can be kind-it doesn’t require special skills or training, but it has an immediate positive impact. That’s probably the best lifehack ever.

This is what we come to:

  • There is always something we can learn.
  • There is always something we can do.
  • There is always a way to show kindness.

Learning develops you, making active choices helps you live differently, and kindness can brighten someone’s day and make you feel better at the same time. When you don’t know what to do, think about these three possibilities and decide what to do next.

The material was prepared by the team of “Ideonomika”, a publication about business, life and self-development. Related articles:

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Welcome to the column – useless tips.

Great tips, many may seem obvious to some, but not only to me they will refresh your memory and help develop. Thank you very much for the article!

37. Never take negative comments under an interesting post seriously. There will always be a commenter who will declare what is written to be stupid, without arguing his opinion in any way. Remember, an opinion is like a hole in the ass – everyone has one. Your life is yours to live. It’s up to you to decide what to do with your advice

Sorry, Yasha, but there is no criticism at all in my reply)

Be good. Don’t be bad.

Great advice, primarily because it just doesn’t urge you to start a completely new life.

Came to a similar lifestyle (25-27 out of 36 actively practicing for the last 15 years), though it took a long road – through crises and not the best experiences. I have become a better version of myself, which has had a positive effect on my health, career and the pleasure I get from life.

Be kinder to those around you, question truths more often, both your own and those you have accepted. Don’t be afraid of bad experiences in life, as everyone has them. Don’t try to be perfect, but try to live in a way that makes you look back a year every birthday and affirmatively say that you’ve gotten better and smarter in a year.

All of the above from personal (well, maybe 1 point can not try on myself) really helps to get so much pleasure from life, that people around you begin to either shine with joy from talking to you, or bile (well, it depends on the person).

How to change your life for the better: 15 ways

The desire to change your life for the better is a natural desire of each of us. And if now this desire has arisen and you – it’s time to act. Routine, daily performance of the same monotonous actions makes people think about why they live. Often we feel inner emptiness, constant apathy, and a decrease in the tone of life does not allow us to move forward. It’s not laziness, it’s just the body telling you that it’s time to change something.

If you do not want to get up in the morning, and in the evening you go to bed not in the best mood – it’s time to decisively change your life for the better. Do not be afraid of this state, remember that you are at a new stage of development. This is always scary, but then life will play with new colors! To begin with, let’s look at the causes.

Where does this desire come from?

As a rule, the desire to change life for the better does not arise out of nothing-it is preceded by certain circumstances. Analyzing the causes is the first step in resolving any issue. Let’s consider what the most common reasons are for a desire to change something in your life:

1. At work you do not feel in demand . It is one thing if the work brings a good income, but the person understands that he/she is not in the right place. It is another thing when the salary leaves much to be desired, and the work does not bring moral satisfaction. The person is in a state of permanent stress, afraid to go out of his comfort zone, so as not to get into more stress. Most people at such times think: “It is better to leave everything as it is. But you are not the majority, you are ready to change for the better and work on yourself.

2. the marriage relationship has outlived its usefulness. We live with our partner not because we want to, but because we have become accustomed to it. Many people live like that, but do not want to, or cannot change the situation.

3. Constant lack of finances. Most people have this problem, and only a few can say with certainty that they live in abundance. But everything is not so bad; the financial situation can and should be improved, there are many ways of doing this, if only one had a desire.

4. Personal life suffers, or not at all. Society imposes on us the opinion that by a certain age it is time to have a family, that everything would be “like people. The person suffers from such unsettlement and uncertainty, and his age is already pressing on.

5. Health problems and excess weight. The modern pace of life to a large extent provokes people to pay less attention to their health, and instead to pay more attention to their career and daily activities. Of course, the body copes for a while, but at one point it can fail. Our task is not to wait for this moment, but to prevent it, on which today we will also work closely.

One or more of the problems on this list affects each of us to a certain extent. And our main task today is to work comprehensively in each of the spheres of life, which will help to substantially change life for the better. Today we are going to figure out how to do this. Moving on.

Step by step: 15 ways to change life for the better

So, let’s move on to the most important step – specific actions that will help dramatically change your life, raise your energy level, become healthier and more confident. However, just reading these tips will not be enough, as you understand. You have to put as much effort as possible into putting all these recommendations into practice. Now I will ask you to take a piece of paper and a pen in your hands, and write down, make a plan to start working today to change your life for the better. I have arranged the recommendations in such an order that they slowly but surely touch every aspect of life and bring something new to it, develop it, and help you become a better person. So, are you ready? Then let’s begin.

Prioritize your life.

The first thing to do is to make a list of your main life values, your global goals for the years ahead. What do you want? What are your dreams? If what came to your mind remains a pipe dream for a long time, it’s time to start working on it today.

Determine your goals, make a plan to achieve them, and take small steps toward your goals every day. Document your results, work in writing, and most importantly, daily. Remember – if you write just one page a day, you’ll write a book in a year. And this rule applies to all life goals, so take advantage of it.

Getting rid of addictions

Do you smoke? Let’s try to work on that, too. Unhealthy habits don’t help you change your life for the better. Smoking destroys brain cells, negatively affects the work of internal organs and blood vessels, and can lead to stroke. There is no need to reduce the number of cigarettes consumed gradually, it’s a road to nowhere, not to change lives. Give up cigarettes overnight and you will notice how your well-being has changed.

Give up alcohol. Even if you think you hardly drink, remember that there is “ritual alcoholism,” when people drink alcohol on holidays: on New Year’s Day, March 8, birthday. This, too, is an addiction. One serving of alcohol a month brings you closer to cardiovascular disease much faster than a non-drinker. Consumption of alcoholic beverages leads us to degradation and there can be no talk about any development and change of life for the better! Take sobriety as a healthy habit and you will see how much better your life has become, and your body has become full of strength and energy!

Mastering sports activities

We are not talking about professional sports, but about general physical activity. Start small, no one is talking about setting sports records. Don’t have money for the gym? Start doing morning exercises, stretching, doing squats and push-ups off the floor. Working out with your own weight is just as good as working out with “iron.

In winter you can run outside, which is very useful, because in winter the air is especially good for the body. But in the summer heat it is not worth jogging – it has nothing to do with improving your life and feeling great.

Normalize your diet

Forget about foods that have no energy value. It is not necessary to go on a diet, to begin with at least remove from your diet sugary carbonated beverages, sausages, sauces, mayonnaise, chips and other useless products.

First, you’ll save a lot of money and you’ll have extra money to start saving; secondly, you’ll feel great, you’ll lose excess weight. The body will become more fit, you will have more energy. If possible, give up sugar and go for honey, it is much healthier.

Change Your Mindset

Yes, it’s not easy, but nothing is impossible to change your life for the better. Learn to think positively, don’t look for excuses. A simple example: you’re going to do something, but the inner voice is whispering to you that it will not work, the situation may not turn out the way you expect. Chase away negative thoughts and tune in to the positive. Remember that thoughts are material, and what we have inside is projected outward.

Stop looking for someone to blame

Don’t justify your failures with circumstances or people. We are so used to shifting the responsibility for our lives to external factors that we ourselves have come to believe that nothing depends on us. Successful people cannot be called those who constantly complain about the government, life in the wrong country, parents who did not give us what others have. And stop comparing yourself! When you get rid of these bad psychological habits, you will feel as life changes for the better. Remember, you alone are the director of your life and responsible for it. Only you, and no one else.

Let’s move from words to deeds

Got a clever thought? Write it down on paper. Not on your phone, not in your notes, but with a pen on paper. Do you have an idea? Within twenty-four hours implement it, or at least do something to get closer to the result. Do not put off until tomorrow, otherwise the idea will remain an idea, and then will be forgotten or you will switch to something else, but with this attitude to change life for the better just will not work.

Leaving your comfort zone

Much has already been said about this, but we will still touch upon it. Most people are used to covering themselves with the guise of harmony: in tranquility we feel good, often we do not want to leave the tranquil state. Remember that in comfort we degrade. Do you want to change your life for the better? Step out of your comfort zone. Let’s take small steps, with apprehension, but leave it, and you’ll see how life will play with new colors!

Start looking for your calling.

People go for years, decades in jobs they do not like and suffer from it. It’s time to find an occupation that will begin to bring you moral pleasure. And if you turn it into a job that brings income, you can dramatically change your life for the better. People who love their jobs always make more money. They experience less stress because they go to work with pleasure. Maybe your work is your vocation, or maybe you dream about something else, like becoming a photographer. Start working in that direction.

Changing the environment

You can’t change your life for the better as long as there are people around you who bring you negativity. “Work on your environment. Dealing with naysayers and pessimists is not good for personal growth. Even if you are not a suggestible person, the environment tends to imprint on our lives. Reject or minimize contact with pessimists and perpetually dissatisfied people. Just take your time – observe, assess. Ask yourself: “What kind of people make me morally uncomfortable?” And when you’ve identified those people, find a way to reduce your communication with them to a minimum.

Start living for today.

Many people are used to putting life on hold, forgetting that “then” may not come. We are always waiting for a special occasion: now it’s bad, but then I will heal and everything will be fine. Learn to enjoy the here and now, to enjoy life’s moments. The same goes for working on your own goals – try to work on them today, right now, as much as possible.

Expanding Your Horizons

Learn something new to change your life for the better. Attend trainings, classes, seminars. No money? There are plenty of opportunities to attend such events for free and meet new people. A great way to broaden your horizons is to read books.

Travel. no money again? You don’t have to go abroad, start with your own city, which has a lot of interesting places you don’t know about yet. Start traveling to neighboring cities, around the country, take excursions. You will broaden your horizons, you will be filled with new emotions and energy.

Start doing good deeds

Doing good deeds gives people the incomparable feeling of making someone happy. There are many options for doing good deeds. Doing good works is the first thing that comes to mind. And it doesn’t have to be financial, as you might think at first glance. Start small. Becoming a blood donor, thus saving someone’s life, is one easy way to add to your piggy bank of good deeds. Volunteering also pays its moral dividends. It remains to choose what is right for you.

Looking for and developing your hobby

We spend too much time chasing money, forgetting that we once had hobbies that were fun. Think back to what you used to be into or try to find something new to enjoy and fill your life with color. If you monetize the hobby, it’s a double hit! An income generating hobby, isn’t that what you’ve been dreaming about? Think about what you wanted to be when you were a kid, it will help you get closer to your dreams and make a difference in your life.

Strive to be the best at what you do.

Find what you’re best at. Or strive to be the best at what you do now. Millionaires are the people who love their work and gradually become passive income earners. If your eyes are burning, everything works out, you’re doing a great job – don’t be afraid to take risks, changes will not be long in coming. Listen to your inner voice, and you will find your calling!

Conclusion

If you follow these simple guidelines, you’ll notice how quickly your life changes for the better. Remember that success comes to those who are not afraid to take risks, to step out of their usual comfort zone, who do not sit still and develop.

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