How to be cool in high school
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Studying in high school brings lots of interesting opportunities and ideas. Spice up your high school years with our tips!
Find friends. Look for people close to you who will love you for being you! Approach your classmates and strike up a conversation. Don’t bring up philosophical issues. Keep it simple and straightforward. Maybe you should make a little joke.
Be cool to other people. Never try to please everyone. If people see you trying to be popular, they are likely to think you are a loser. Behave well with the people around you. Gossiping is not good. You can be cool without gossip!
Try to try new things. Try to take up a new sport that you like and that you can achieve results in. If sports aren’t your calling, go to a club or social place! Getting to know people will help you become popular.
Wear cool clothes (of your own taste). Stop looking at the gray masses and seeing what most people are wearing. Don’t try to win over other people’s boyfriends or get everyone to like you.
Don’t copy others. Copying other people’s style is not considered a cool thing to do. Try to be creative and create your own style.
Don’t forget your old friends, but at the same time meet new people. Don’t be afraid to approach someone, whether they’re an athlete, a style geek, a panicker or a punk. There are really cool people everywhere. Don’t be afraid to make friends with similar guys and girls!
Don’t worry about “popular” company. This is a group of guys/girls who act like they are the coolest in the world, but, in fact, they are a group of gossipers (best to call them “Unavailable”). They won’t hit on you if you refuse to talk to them. But if you hear that someone in popular company has offended your friend, stand up for them immediately. Chances are the offenders weren’t expecting you to do such a thing, but such actions will help you earn respect for your person.
Clothing. This is a rather controversial matter. It is best to be faithful to your style and not to copy others. Try to stand out a little. Go to the store, buy some magazines and get some ideas about it. Don’t change with the “fashion trends” of the season. Pay attention to what you wear, but don’t go crazy about it.
Makeup. Yes, some people like their eyes done up with black mascara, and a thick layer at that. But I think it’s silly, and so do most of my friends.
Most students who go to high school take care of their bodies. I never had that problem. For three years I played sports. All I thought about was how fast I could run the distance; how many times I could hit the ring at one time, and whether I could pass like Beckham. I have witnessed my best friends ruin their physical health. All I can say is, watch yourself. Exercise: run, take dance lessons, or play on a team. Don’t show off! Everyone is going through a transition period in middle school. It can happen that you gain a little weight first and then lose it again.
Always put your studies first. You may likely be mistaken for a nerd, but trust me, your friends will respect you more if you skip an episode of the show to study for a test than if you fail a test and get grounded for two weeks.
Most people have boyfriends/girlfriends. Join their ranks. Find the person who is right for you. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is a great way to become popular. Your soulmate can introduce you to their friends and you will become even more popular. Don’t flirt too often in public. It doesn’t give you originality. Behave as you normally would.
Gum. Always carry gum with you and be ready to get it at any moment. You will become popular in the eyes of many people.
Socialize. Take part in sports after school. Do volunteer work, clubs, or school productions. You’ll have more friends, and you’ll have a lot of fun. Also, the more often you participate, the more people will start to get to know you.
More importantly, stay true to yourself. After all, you want people to think you’re a cool dude. Have fun, dudes!
Instruction and the real story of how to be cool in school
How do you become cool in school and what qualities do you need to develop in yourself to become the “star” of the school? What’s the other side of being cool in school?
Do you get straight A’s, have a pretty good relationship with your parents, but still feel like something is missing?
Popularity is the missing element of a happy high school life. How do you become cool in school? Just heed the simple advice!
How to be cool at school or why is the opinion of peers so important for teenagers?
You lived a quiet life, when suddenly there was ON – the first pimple. And with it the periods, severe mood swings, and a very clear conviction: I’m ugly. Before we figure out if you’re beautiful or not (although I’m sure you are), let’s find out what changes have taken place?
According to scientists, our brains change throughout our lives. We don’t feel it, but it happens. During adolescence, specifically from age 11 to 19, this jump in brain development is visible even to those around us. Needless to say, you yourself feel as if you have the same monkey sitting in your head, frantically banging on plates!
This is when your “channel your energy or lose it for nothing” mode kicks in. And you do. Into arguments with your teachers and mom, into misery in the morning in front of the mirror, into squeezing out the next batch of pimples.
But every cloud has a silver lining. During this difficult time for you and your parents, you become smarter. Literally, your brain’s so-called “processing power” is activated. You solve complex equations, memorize poems quickly.
It would seem that everything is great. But there is an area of your life that often suffers during this period. It’s popularity. You want to be noticed by more than just the group of classmates with whom you get along well. You want to be known by every first-grader. This is when you discover the skill of looking at yourself through the eyes of others. And what you see, very often you do not like.
What is this catastrophic dependence on other people’s opinions related to? The same physiological changes in the brain. Yeah, that’s not a bad way for your “gray matter” to have fun. It’s vitally important for you to be liked by others, especially that guy at the third desk. You get upset when you find yourself not aware of the latest school news – how come they forgot to let you know?
You’re unlikely to get rid of your addiction to social assessment (well, at this point in time). But you could very well “soothe” that addiction. With what? With your coolness!
1) What does being popular in school give a teenager?
Being cool gives you a lot of perks
Becoming cool and taking possession of the proud status of “the most popular girl in school” gives you a lot of advantages. Hmm…although there are disadvantages, too.
| Advantages | Disadvantages |
|---|---|
| People come to you for advice. By becoming the coolest girl in school, you automatically become the most experienced in almost every area of life. Your opinion is valuable to those around you. | Increased demands. They send you to Olympiads all the time, because you are “so smart and responsible”. |
| Teachers are condescending to you. No matter how you look at it, you have to study hard to be cool. Teachers, seeing this desire for knowledge in you, will be much gentler and kinder to you. | School activities. Once you get the status of “the coolest girl,” you automatically get into the organizing committee. And then the concerts, rulers, matinees… |
| He knows about you. If the whole school knows about you, he knows about you. And that already greatly increases the chances of you getting to know each other and having a relationship. | You need to fit in. You have to prove that you’re cool all the time. And this can sometimes be quite difficult. |
2) What personality traits will make you cool at school?
To proudly consider yourself the coolest person in school, you need to have a number of personality traits. If none of these qualities have “settled” in you, you’ll have to work on developing them.
| Quality | Synopsis: |
|---|---|
| Confidence | You shouldn’t be afraid to go to the blackboard and speak your mind in front of the whole class. It may seem unreal to you now. But, believe me, confidence can be developed in yourself. The main thing is to believe in your own strength. And, of course, learn the lessons. |
| Creativity | You just need to be creative to keep your peers interested. They should be fun and funny with you. |
| Responsibility | Since you’re aiming to be the coolest in school, be kind and master a couple of leadership skills. One of them is responsibility. Be willing to take responsibility for your words and actions. |
3) What communication skills do you need to be cool?
| Quality | Synopsis: |
|---|---|
| Benevolence | Benevolence The other kids should feel good about you. You should radiate kindness and light, no matter how much it contradicts your teenage desires that begin with “If I had a machine gun…” |
| Listening Skills | Yes, you’re the coolest, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t listen to others. With “taratorka” unlikely anyone will want to communicate. |
| Sincerity | It’s very important, and not just in adolescence. Do you want people to reach out to you? Then become open and smile. Exactly become, not fake it. |
The 8 Basic Steps to Become Cool in School
You can become a cool girl by following some simple guidelines
To get admiring looks from others and approving nods from teachers, try to follow these recommendations.
Step #1. Get involved in class life.
Step #2. Become confident.
Step #4. Be rational.
Step #5. Relax.
Step #6. Be sociable.
Step #7. Be independent.
Step #8. Think about possible failure.
In the video you will find many secrets of popularity, which will help you to become a real “star” of the school. How to communicate with your peers? How to dress for school? What snacks to take with you?
The real story of how Marina became cool.
Marina has always been an excellent student. She loved learning, so it was no big deal for her to write an outline or master a new topic in physics. Relationships with her peers were not bad either. The girl had three best friends with whom she went dancing. But there was something that overshadowed Marina’s school life. Katya. She was a year older (by her behavior about ten years!). She behaved a little arrogantly and clearly claimed to be “the most popular girl in school.
Marina did not really communicate with Katya. And why pry into a person who himself has defined his own environment, where mere mortals can not get? But one day Katya approached her… “Would you like to enter a beauty contest?” she asked with mild irony. The beauty contest was the most normal concert, which except that it included a catwalk of girls in evening gowns. Marina smiled, “Don’t you need a girl as a backup dancer? Katya was a little confused, but answered in the affirmative.
“Why not?” thought Marina and agreed to the proposal. The girl danced well, if not excellent (five years of classes in the dance club made a difference). The rehearsals went well until the school coordinator made a warning to Katya. “Your movements are a little out of sync, look at the girls, you really stand out,” she remarked rather delicately. Katerina was not prepared for this turn of events. First she said something about “out-of-date music” (which at first she had nothing against), and then she mentioned her mother, who could kick Tatiana Anatolievna (the organizer) out of the school. Everyone was stunned.
There had been conflicts on a school-wide scale before, but no one had ever thought of “blabbing” like that. Katya got mad and left the classroom, slamming the door loudly. At first everyone was silent for a long time. The silence was broken by Tatiana Anatolievna. “Yeah, the girl is having a hard time, apparently…,” she said in total confusion. She suggested continuing the rehearsal. But then the question arose as to who would be the main star of the number, Katerina is unlikely to return. The organizer looked at Marina with a smile. “Marin, you’ve been dancing for a long time, it’s easy for you,” she said. The girl was a little taken aback, but then she agreed. She really loved dancing.
After the beauty contest, many things changed. First, Marina became the winner. The members of the jury particularly praised her choreographic skills. Secondly, she joined the school’s organizing committee, so now not a single event goes without her. And finally, thirdly, Marina began dating Sergei. This guy was two years older and she liked him since elementary school. After the beauty contest he came up with a bouquet of flowers himself.
Katerina, of course, stuck to her opinion. She was firmly convinced that Marina had paid the organizer to “kick” Katya out of the contest. She attended school, of course, but did not even say hello to Marina.
Note: Marina did nothing special to become the most popular girl at school. She just did what she loved, was sincere and friendly. Perhaps this is the main key to popularity.
Becoming cool in school means having lots of friends and hobbies. But achieving this coolness is not as difficult as standing up to “competitors” who are ready to strike at any moment.
