19 ways to know if a man is hiding his feelings
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Expert – Margarita Lopukhova
Family psychologist. For eight years I have been saving “family units” from disintegration. I help couples regain love and understanding.
Sometimes it can be quite difficult to assess how a partner feels in a relationship. But if you’re seriously wondering if you’re really falling in love with a man, you’re probably wondering if it’s mutual.
Luckily, there are a number of signs that will tell you for sure if he’s head over heels in love. Even if your beau is as quiet as a fish. Just watch him carefully.
7 reasons why a guy is hiding his feelings for you
Men are from Mars, women from Venus. And very often they do not understand each other. But among all the secrets, there is one main question that every girl dreams of getting an answer. Why does he hide his feelings?
- He himself does not understand what he really feels.
One of the reasons men hide their feelings is that they just don’t understand how they feel. It sounds unrealistic, but that’s how it really is. He knows that he has an unfamiliar emotion. But ask him what it is, he probably can’t explain it.
Unfortunately, when this happens, many women think they need to make every effort to get a man to open up. But the only thing men really need is encouragement and more time to accept their emotions and finally understand how they really feel.
- Emotional Intelligence.
This behavior is actually the most obvious sign of low emotional intelligence (or even lack thereof). Someone may be the smartest person in the world when it comes to finance, art, politics, and a bunch of other things.
His IQ may be incredibly high, but it has nothing to do with emotional intelligence. This is exactly what happens to men who don’t understand their own emotions.
- He is afraid of his own feelings.
Okay, let’s assume that the man understands exactly how he feels, but chooses to hide his feelings. Why? Probably because he is embarrassed or afraid of how he feels. He is afraid of his feelings because they completely overwhelm him.
- He needs time.
It doesn’t take that long for women to realize how they really feel or what they really want, because they’ve been encouraged from an early age to show their feelings, and that’s why they don’t have any difficulty with it.
- He’s afraid of being vulnerable.
A man doesn’t want to lose power and appear too vulnerable to the one who stole his heart because he was taught from childhood to display only masculine traits. Let’s be honest: in our cruel world, indifference equals power.
He is convinced that if he shows a woman how he really feels, he will appear overly sensitive, which (in his mind) is not an attractive character trait because he is a man. Which means he has to be rough and tough.
- Attracts attention.
Everyone has heard about women playing hard to get. But believe me, men do it too. Why? Well, for the same reason girls do – they think it’s the only way to attract and keep another man around.
Some men hide their emotions because they’ve had their heart broken in the past. And after that, they decide to suppress their feelings forever. Or at least never show them, no matter what.
19 signs of his sympathy.
This is exactly how a guy who is fascinated with you will act.
He tries his best to maintain eye contact and looks you straight in the eye whenever you meet. When a man likes a girl, he can’t help but stare at her.
One sure sign that he thinks you’re irresistible is that you can count on this man no matter what. He’s always there for you – if you call him in the middle of the night to ask for advice or help fix your car.
Another of the main signs that a man is partial to you is that he man smiles broadly when you’re with him. He’s genuinely happy when you’re around him.
Tries to make you laugh.
Guys know that laughter is one of the shortest routes to a woman’s heart. And your man uses his sense of humor very well.
He calls you all the time, sends you funny memes or responds to your stories on social media. It doesn’t matter to him how you keep in touch – all that matters is that he gets a chance to talk to you.
To him, you’re not just a potential partner, but also a close friend. He’s trying to make an emotional connection with you, and it’s more than just physical attraction.
He will never do anything to humiliate you or say anything to insult you. It’s quite obvious that he knows exactly that there is no love without respect.
Knows everything about you.
He knows your tastes in food, knows everything about your favorite band and knows all your coworkers and friends.
Of course, he’s not possessive and would never make a scene. But he can’t help but hide his anger and hurt whenever you mention an old male buddy.
Keeps an eye on his appearance.
When he likes you, he uses his best cologne and tries to dress in style.
Little signs of attention.
Obviously, he’s not going to present you with a diamond ring or anything like that yet, but he’ll definitely buy your favorite chocolate or make a playlist with all the music you love listening to so much.
Introduces you to his family and friends.
This guy wants you to be a part of his life. And that’s why he’ll introduce you to all of his friends and maybe even his family members.
He does everything he can to be as close to you as possible, and takes every opportunity to touch you, take a strand of hair out of your face, or put his hand on your waist.
Wants to get to know you better
He’s not just interested in your looks. He wants to find out who you really are. Asks you deep questions, trying to get to the heart of who you are.
He’s not afraid to show you his weaknesses and expose himself emotionally to you.
Trying to impress you.
Whenever you meet, he opens the door for you, letting you in front of him. He takes you to the most expensive restaurants. Whenever you need help around the house or some advice, he’s always there for you.
He is lenient to your shortcomings.
He never tries to change you. Instead, he takes all your imperfections and quirks for granted.
Makes plans together.
For him, there’s no way you’re not there for him. He says “we” instead of “I,” and that’s probably the cutest thing ever.
Your intuition tells you
You just feel that he treats you differently than he treats all the other girls. Also, you see the way he looks at you and you just know that this man is in love with you.
9 nonverbal signs of his liking
A man’s body language can reveal his true intentions to you, even if he himself deliberately tries to hide them.
- His voice trembles.
His voice starts trembling every time he talks to you. He has a hard time finding the right words, so he just looks at you because he can’t believe he got a chance to talk to you.
One sign that indicates he likes you is his sweaty palms. He’s so attracted to you that he turns into a ball of nerves the moment he sees you.
When a guy likes you, he naturally feels physically attracted to you, too. That means he’ll do anything to be near you and touch you in any way, even if it’s by accident.
- Touching your hair or your clothes.
Trust me, he wants to keep his hands busy. He literally doesn’t know what to do with himself because just staring at you with his mouth open would be too embarrassing.
A small child blushes when he is ashamed of something or is trying to hide something. This peculiarity of the human body always remains somewhere inside of us, but over time we learn to control it in almost all situations. Except when we’re head over heels in love.
- His pupils are dilated.
It has been scientifically proven that people who talk to someone they really like have dilated pupils.
- Raises an eyebrow.
Whenever this guy sees you, he raises his eyebrows because he’s trying to visually make his eyes more open.
- Unknowingly, he bites his lips.
The lips have always been one of the most erotic parts of the human body, so it’s only natural if they are used to attract the opposite sex.
The excitement he feels makes the blood flow faster, and consequently he feels like he is losing oxygen. This is why a guy who is interested in you will feel like he has trouble breathing when you’re around.
Signs of falling in love by Zodiac sign
According to astrologers, the sign of the Zodiac can tell a lot not only about a man’s character, but also how he behaves when he is in love.
An Aries in love will make you feel like you’re the star of some cool movie. Always on the move, he’ll do crazy things for you and proclaim it loudly. And it’s sexy.
There’s something very hot about the fact that you’re passionately wanted, which is exactly what an Aries man in love does. However, after a while you may notice that sometimes he becomes overly demanding and impulsive.
For a Taurus man in love, it is extremely important to make his partner happy, or rather, satisfied. He acts as if this is his mission in life. Taurus will treat you to the most delicious food and drink and make sure you come back for more. Keep in mind, once he falls in love with you, there’s no turning back. Yes, that can be alarming at times.
A man born under this sign of the zodiac is very smart, resourceful, able to change the course of a conversation, well hides his feelings and always leave some reticence. But there is one thing that can be a reliable indicator.
He will keep trying to get in touch with you in any way he can. If he’s calling, texting you, hoping to spend time with you, then he definitely likes you. There’s no way Gemini would insist on talking to someone they think is boring.
This is the sign that will be the first to admit that he is in love, even if he is shy. With the Cancer man, there is no hesitation. He shows love by doing things that are considered traditionally romantic.
For example, by cooking you dinner (a real family dinner). Cancer won’t forget to buy you a bouquet of your favorite flowers and will always remember important dates. He will make sure you know he loves you. This is really important to him.
If your chosen one is Leo, get ready to be the center of attention. He will adore you. Love will flow to you as if from a horn of plenty. Leo men do everything in a big way, amorous affairs – no exception.
In love Leo just might do something creative for you, for example, to paint your portrait or dedicate an entire poem to you. The main thing is often to show him that you appreciate his creativity and generosity.
Virgo likes to show small signs of affection based on your preferences. Virgo’s motto is that even small little things matter. Once in love, the Virgo man easily notices things that others don’t.
And that’s what will make you feel like the happiest girl in the world. On the other hand, he can become somewhat annoying. His ability to deeply understand others sometimes makes him forget that there is personal space.
The Libra man in love is a hopeless romantic. Plus, he likes to feel special. The more you praise him, the more you can count on his loyalty.
He will listen to everything you have to say. In fact, once in love, Libra becomes the epitome of the saying “love is blind.” Harmony is what he craves, and sometimes the price is too high, so be careful.
A Scorpio in love will always make sure that his chosen one’s needs are fully met and that she feels most loved. Just don’t dare to deceive his hopes.
Scorpios will do anything for the one they have real feelings for. But remember, the same goes for when they feel betrayed. If you don’t plan on betraying your Scorpio, the most wonderful and profound relationship awaits you.
A Sagittarius man in love is a feast! If you’re ready to experience the best time of your life, then yes, he’s the one for you. Everything a Sagittarius man in love does is filled with passion and enthusiasm.
It’s likely that he’ll want to take you somewhere you’ve never been before. For Sagittarius, love is an adventure, just like everything else in his life. He rarely expresses love with words, though, preferring to prove it with actions.
If a Capricorn likes you, you’ll know it for sure. They value their time and don’t like to fool around. A Capricorn man isn’t one to say words of love too often, but instead, he’ll definitely buy you something you’ve wanted for so long.
Planning the future with his partner is his favorite pastime. Capricorn lovers are devoted, their love is practical and long-lasting. If you dream of a comfortable life, look out for a Capricorn.
Aquarians are very proud, even in love. If a man born under this sign likes you, he will try to let you know about it, in the most unusual way, for example, with gifts or jokes understood only by you two.
In a way, they like the feeling of “exclusivity,” and that’s how he will treat you. If he suddenly seems disinterested, don’t fall for this provocation. That’s just his style.
No one can idealize a person as much as a Pisces. If Pisces were a book, they’d probably be a storybook. Deep feeling is the trait that makes them great lovers.
You’ll have a great time with him, basking in his attention and love. There’s a good chance that a Pisces man will call you his soulmate right after you meet him, so try not to be surprised.
How to get him to make the first move
You spend all your time with him, nervous and worried every time you should see him, but nothing ever happens. You feel he likes you and all signs point to it, but he takes his time admitting it.
By following our tips, you’ll encourage him to make the first move.
Have fun together.
You’re at the beginning of your journey, so make things easy, carefree, and fun. Show him how much fun you’re having with him so he’ll want to keep talking. Relax and make the most of this exciting time.
There’s nothing like the beginning of a relationship and the excitement you both feel when you’re not sure how you feel about each other.
Listen carefully and don’t judge.
If you want him to confess his feelings sooner, you have to make him feel comfortable enough to open up and be sincere around you.
Listen carefully when he decides to tell you something about his life and experiences, and try to be understanding and kind to him.
Show that you’re interested.
Any guy will like a girl who cares about his hobbies and is interested in what he likes. Of course, you don’t have to pretend to like something that you categorically don’t accept.
Just show him that you’re interested in what he likes and offer to do it together.
Guys want to feel appreciated. To make him feel comfortable enough to share his feelings with you, show your appreciation and gratitude for what he does for you.
Make him jealous.
When things get too drawn out, you can try a little trick. “Speed” him up by innocently flirting with his friend. Your chosen one will get scared that he might lose you if he keeps this up, and finally make the big move.
Don’t be the first to admit it.
That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be the “snow queen,” but don’t be too open about your feelings, at least not yet. Intrigue him and surprise him so he has no choice but to confess his feelings sooner to find out about yours.
Ask him in a joking way.
If you’re usually very straightforward or you’re just tired of waiting, you can decide to be adventurous and confess your feelings. Just make sure that you do not do it with a serious face, standing on one knee…
Wait for the right fun moment when you’re together and say:
- “You kind of like me, don’t you?”;
- “I really like everything we do together, I hope you do, too.”
- “And I noticed you a long time ago, but I think you beat me to it.
Make sure you don’t look desperate for his attention and never do anything that doesn’t fit your personality just to get his attention. You want him to like you for who you really are, after all.
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A man’s latent sympathy: verbal and nonverbal signs
Women by nature are romantic and emotional. Being in search of the other half, they tend to exaggerate the meaning of the looks turned to them and in their own way explain the meaning of the phrases they hear. “He’s definitely in love with me,” they enthusiastically tell their girlfriends, and then are surprised if they do not hear the cherished confession.
All because women misinterpret the gestures and facial expressions of the stronger sex. They are not as simple as they think. Hidden sympathy men should remain secret, until he realizes that he met the one, the only. But we lift the veil of secrecy and point to the most common signs of falling in love.
7 reasons why a man hides his sympathy for a woman
To deliver beautiful ladies from painful thoughts about what feelings for her her chosen one, let’s analyze why many representatives of the stronger sex do not tend to talk about what’s in their heart, and specify the signs of hidden sympathy in men. After all, it is likely that he was not indifferent to you, but for some reason hides it.
The reasons for this secrecy may be many. But, paying attention to the behavior of his chosen one, you can always tell if he has feelings for you or not.
Let’s look at the main reasons why men do not dare to show their feelings:
Men tend to think that a demonstration of feelings from their side will reduce the chance to get a response from a woman. Explain to your chosen one that this opinion is wrong. And the sooner the better.
Young men believe that the indifference and coldness on their part awakens the woman’s natural instincts, which will make her blaze with love. And the lady will fight to conquer this impregnable fortress. But this opinion is wrong. It is extremely important for a woman to know that there are reciprocal feelings.
If a man is married or has been in a relationship for a long time, he will not burn with the desire for someone to find out about his feelings. Fear of ruining his life and starting all over again leads him to isolate himself.
For a long time, a representative of the strong sex in love, afraid to make a mistake, will check his flaring feelings for strength. Hidden sympathy of the married man is directly related to his safety.
Some members of the male sex, having experienced bad experiences in previous relationships, do not dare to talk about their true feelings, fearing to be in an awkward position.
Various psychological traumas can interfere with the start of a full life and open up to new people. Fear of being wrong again makes them procrastinate. And only thoroughly examining the woman, they may decide to take the first step. Acknowledge their feelings to them extremely difficult and fearful.
The young man is afraid to show his feelings to the lady because of the fact that he has been alone for a long time, he is not confident in himself and his own strength.
He is afraid of changes in his life, so he is willing to put off the relationship issue for a long time.
In a man’s view, all feelings are temporary, which means this will end. Only after some time will he decide if it is worth trying to build a relationship or not.
If a young man is sincerely in love, he is bound to give himself away. But sometimes at the moment when feelings are born, it’s hard to understand how exactly you feel. Give him some time to figure out his own emotions.
A man may be in love with the lady, but he sees and notices her negative sides, which stop his determination. It’s important for him to figure out if he can come to terms with these flaws, and only then make a decision about starting a relationship.
Often there are cases where an adult male representative is simply crazy about a young girl. Hidden sympathy of the man will be expressed in something very insignificant. Realizing the fact of a big difference in age, he will hide his feelings as carefully as possible. Even from himself.
The fear of being rejected by the young chosen one and convicted by the public forces a man to abandon the idea to start a relationship. And this happens quite often, even if the man is free and not married.
The uncertainty faced by a young man, thinking about the recognition of his sympathy, can scare away many. Because of his insecurity, he is afraid that he will face a cold stare when he confesses his feelings to his chosen one.
For example, the hidden male sympathy for a woman colleague is justified by the fact that, despite the warm relationships within the team, there is a possibility that his confession will not be reciprocated. In this case, he will not only fail to build a relationship outside of work, but also spoil the existing ones.
Men’s natural instincts drive them to pursue the desired lady. Their hunt must always bring results, otherwise it may hit the ego.
Therefore, representatives of the male sex prefer to wait and carefully hide their own feelings. But waiting for the right time, he will do everything to his chosen one could not refuse.
Manifestations of sympathy on the part of men
Psychologists say that for an ordinary man to look at the interlocutor enough for 5 seconds to understand how he relates to him. But a man in love behaves differently.
In the first case, the young man will try to show his best side. Become more relaxed and open. He will start to take care of himself. He will be relaxed and affable. At the sight of a lover will look at her, not looking away, because she is the one. In the second case, however, the man’s latent sympathy will be manifested as something unsure. He will be withdrawn and confused. A meeting with a lady of the heart will instill fear in him.
To understand what his behavior means, you can use two methods to read his reactions:
- Verbal – by analyzing external signs (voice, intonation).
- Non-verbal – by “reading” images, facial expressions, gestures.
Verbal signs of latent sympathy
In order to find out whether you are sympathetic to your chosen one, even a normal conversation will be enough. Pay attention to how and what he says:
- Despite the fact that when talking to a girl you like, a man tries to look masculine and confident, you can still see nervousness in his speech. Listen to your own intuition, feelings. In addition, your partner, like a reflection in a mirror, could adopt the uncertainty and nervousness from you. But to realize this moment is quite difficult.
- During a conversation with an attractive girl, men begin to talk more masculine, their voice becomes lower. On an instinctive level, male representatives show their courage this way, letting the lady know that they are strong and can protect her.
- The guy in love, wanting to please the lady, will talk about his merits and achievements. Wanting to show his best side, he will certainly exaggerate his victories. His innate hunting instinct will not stop at any tricks to get what he wants. The man’s latent sympathy will be expressed by attracting her attention without any decisive action.
- Trying to discreetly find out the important aspects of the life of his chosen one, a man with fond feelings will look a little clumsy . In order not to ask serious questions of interest directly, he will try as if in jest to elicit information. He may also inquire about important matters as casually, behaving in a detached and disinterested manner. Such a manifestation of feelings is easy to notice.
- All men to the end of life are bullied boys. Remember the boys who used to pull pretty girls by the plaits at school? Well, the years have passed, and they have not grown up. So quite often you can hear from a member of the male sex ridicule or sarcasm. This only means that he has not yet learned how to conquer the ladies by other methods and operates according to the “old” scheme.
The soul of any individual is like water. Any excitement is easy to notice. After all, even the smallest dust particle that fell on the surface of the water will create ripples. So it is easy to understand how strong the latent sympathy of men is, just take a good look, somewhere he will give himself away.
Non-verbal signs of hidden sympathy
This group of gestures symbolizing interest is universal in relation to both sexes. Men and women show their affection with the same motions. They try to look good all the time, carefully choose the image, smell and constantly look into the eyes of their chosen one.
To be sure that you like a representative of the stronger sex, enough to follow how he looks at you. Sympathy comes in both open and hidden.
If the young man sympathizes with you openly, he will not hide his gaze. On the contrary, he will look at you with his eyes wide open. This is easy enough to “read.
Hidden sympathy for men also has its own characteristics, which are easy to see. The very fact that he did not notice, in love with a representative of the stronger sex will always be close to you. And meeting with his eyes – sharply turn them aside.
Being infatuated with the fair sex, the man will try to look the most successful. Will begin to follow more closely his appearance, constantly adjust the tie, shine his shoes, etc. Also, many guys unconsciously show their sympathy by sticking their thumbs under the belt of their pants.
Wanting to be constantly near his lady of the heart, the man will try to join her team. At every opportunity will try to be closer, to touch her. For example, to help remove her coat, button up her dress or embrace.
A man who has feelings for the lady, for a while becomes a reflection of her, adopts her facial expressions and gestures. Psychologists explain such behavior by the desire to protect his girlfriend. But let’s analyze the less noticeable signs of attraction:
- Smiling. If he begins to blur in a sincere smile when meeting you – this is a true sympathy.
- Voice. The voice may start trembling, and the timbre becomes lower. This happens because of an increase in the amount of testosterone in the blood.
- Speech. A man, being intrigued by a lady, will definitely become interested in her life and interests. Otherwise, communication will be boring and dry.
- Sense of humor. The individual is built in such a way that reveals his best sides only when he is in a comfortable environment. Experiencing the sympathy to the lady, a representative of the stronger sex will behave openly, joke and witty.
To reveal a man’s latent sympathy, pay attention to his behavior. Representatives of the stronger sex in love and seek to touch their lady or his body.
If you accidentally catch his hand with yours, he will not remove it. On the contrary, he will be pleased with any of your touch.
Flirting in love, a man in every way tries to touch you. And it does not matter which part of the body. But first, watch how he interacts with other girls: if he behaves similarly with other females, you can conclude that this is his default behavior. And the desire to touch you is not a sign of feelings.
Hidden sympathy of a man is manifested as a desire to touch his girlfriend and his own body. Such gestures occur subconsciously, the main thing is to read them correctly.
For example, by touching his own face a representative of the stronger sex shows a desire to do the same with the girl, but for some reason he can not. Perhaps it is constrained by modesty or bad experiences in the past. In any case, such a gesture helps a man to release tension. Also one of the key signs is the stroking of rounded objects. This is a signal that your chosen one wants to embrace and caress you.
A man’s behavior that does not indicate sympathy
Often at the first meeting with a man, you may notice nonverbal signs that indicate his sympathy, but during subsequent communication he begins to behave coldly and disinterestedly.
There are several signs that can help you understand that a man is not interested in you:
- Crossed arms . Putting them on his chest, a man shows his unwillingness to open up, he is uncomfortable. It is quite possible that he wants to end this conversation.
- Crossed legs . Throwing one leg over the other, it is unlikely that the man wants to show his masculinity, rather, he demonstrates disinterest in the topic of conversation. He is bored.
- His hands are in his pockets . This gesture indicates that the representative of the male sex is not interested in communication and talks to you only out of politeness.
- Looking for a replacement . Involving other participants in the conversation, your suitor is trying to find a replacement as a conversationalist and hide unnoticed.
A representative of the male sex, not wishing to communicate with you, it is not so difficult to reveal. His awkwardness will certainly manifest itself in behavior. Distracted by other things, not finding his place, and wandering his eyes, he shows his disinterest.
To get a complete picture, it is worth observing your chosen one not only in person, but also to pay attention to his behavior with other representatives of the fair sex. Evaluate what is happening as a spectator. If you are convinced that the signs of a man’s hidden sympathy are manifested only in relation to you, you can safely begin to make steps towards a new relationship.