How to manipulate a man to fall in love up to his ears – instructions for use
In this article I will tell you how to manipulate a man to fall in love up to his ears. The tools for falling in love will be practical in nature. No general phrases or water, this material contains only working techniques.
Today you will learn: what falling in love really is, what practical steps to take to get a man hooked on you as a drug. And also I will tell you one interesting method that will make a man think about you all the time.
How to manipulate a man to fall in love up to his ears – I’ll tell you in simple words
To begin with, let’s define falling in love, to understand what goal to move towards.
Using CT scans, scientists have studied the brains of people in different emotional states. In a person in love, a concentration mechanism was activated in the cerebral cortex. A similar state was observed in avid gamblers or drug addicts who were focused on getting a big win or a new dose.
Falling in love is a person’s concentration on you. The brain of a man in love concentrates on the most important task: finding a way to get close to the person you love and be there for him. While a man is in love with a girl, he cannot fall in love with another in parallel. Because concentration is the brain’s fixation on one object.
Additionally! Another interesting point is that the crush of a stale man will be much stronger than the crush of a romantic. Because for a real stale person, the state of falling in love will be a life event that rarely happens. Therefore, the value of love for a stale person will be high.
The first way to fall in love is biochemical. When a person at the sight of you produces certain hormones, which create a feeling of falling in love in the head. But we will not focus on this variant, because it does not depend on us. We are interested in the methods of falling in love, which we can control by ourselves.
Important! Falling in love is not a static state where you fall in love once. It is a process. A process of concentration on an object. And since it is a process, it is possible to influence it and create such a state in a person.
Conclusion: The task of starting the mechanism in the man’s mind to concentrate on you. You need to create conditions in which his brain will go towards the goal to win your attention.
How to fall in love with any man – a practical guide
To begin with, I will tell you a popular way to fall in love that does not work. You need to know the working and not working(popular) fall in love schemes so you don’t make unnecessary mistakes.
The not working, but popular way to fall in love
Many people believe that the state of falling in love appears according to the following scheme:
- A reason to fall in love arises (pheromones, spark, etc.);
- The emotional state of falling in love arises;
- The person does things that people in love usually do (courts, cares, gives gifts, etc.);
Girls try to induce a man in a state of being in love, which will induce him to show signs of attention.
BUT – this method will not work!
Because you will never know what processes in a man’s head caused the state of falling in love. The man himself doesn’t know that either. He can only adjust the answer to his emotions, and he doesn’t know the real reason why the girl has fallen in love with him.
If men knew why they fell in love, they would always fall in love with their ideal. And this does not happen, very often a man understands on a logical level that he may suffer with this girl, and in spite of this still loves her.
Conclusion: a man is not aware of the process of forming feelings in his head. And accordingly, you don’t know what can affect his emotions.
How does the average girl try to make a man fall in love with her:
- Trying to be unusual;
- Wants to be liked;
- Trying to make a man fall in love with her;
And what happens to a girl who acts according to this scheme? She begins to concentrate on the man herself and think about how to get him. And concentration is falling in love. That is, she doesn’t fall in love with a man by her actions, but she falls in love with him.
What a man thinks when you’re trying to be invested in him: “It’s cool to be invested in me. And what does he do? – Nothing, he doesn’t do anything. So he’s not concentrating on you.
Conclusion: trying to please, impress or conform to a man’s ideal is not a workable scheme that we will not use.
The working way to fall in love
Now we’re going to talk about methods that are effective.
How do you make a man fall in love with you? You need to make the man start committing actions towards you. Actions that a man in love does.
Proven fact! Suppose there is a man in your environment who communicates with you, but does not have a feeling of love for you. If he starts doing things for you that are typical of a man in love, he will fall head over heels in love.
I tested this fact on myself. I had a girlfriend that I wasn’t in love with. I was only attracted to her sexually, I had no deep feelings for her. When we started dating, I started doing things that people in love do. Helped her with everything, gave her flowers/gifts, wrote her, thought about her, cared about her, etc. And over time, I fell in love with a girl who didn’t spark me to begin with.
Why does this happen?
First, when a man does the right thing (for you) towards you, his brain begins to concentrate. I mean, I started concentrating on that girl. And that’s what falling in love is.
Secondly, the brain is trying to fit the response to the actions we are taking.
From what we have written above, we conclude: Your task is to provoke in a man an impulse that will make him start to seek you out and take action to achieve this goal.
You need from a man that he:
- Doesn’t want to lose you;
- Thinks about you very often;
- Cared about you and helped you;
- Appreciated you;
- Called and wrote often;
- Confessed his feelings;
- The list could go on forever, the main point is clear.
But there is one “but” that can ruin all your plans!
When you set a goal to fall in love with a man, you focus on him. And, accordingly, you yourself begin to fall in love. You may begin to do things that are illogical and emotional. Your emotions can ruin the whole process.
What to do about it?
You shouldn’t get hung up on just one man. You should charm not only this man, but also others (and then choose the best among them). If you don’t fixate on one man, but distract your brain with work, girlfriends/friends or other men, your crush will not come before time.
Now let’s break down in detail how to provoke a man into doing the right thing.
Doesn’t want to lose you.
Actions a man: he is afraid that your communication may stop. And begins to take actions to prevent this from happening.
How to implement? Create in his head the image that many men are just dreaming to get you. Let him think they are all fighting for your attention.
– I’m so upset, two of my co-workers had a fight today. As it turns out they are both in love with me. I was so surprised. After all, my relationship with neither of them is impossible! (This is one of many options, you can pick any one that is congruent with your personality)
Another option (we use it when a man demonstrates inappropriate behavior toward you)
– Your behavior little by little kills the warm feelings I have for you!
With this phrase you are hinting to the man that he is in danger of losing your favor. And he will understand that this is due to his bad behavior in relation to you.
Persistent Thoughts of You.
The man’s actions: he thinks about you, wants to see you, calls, writes messages.
How to implement? There is a very interesting way to make a man think about you. I have already written about it in one of my articles, but now duplicate it.
Imagine that you are a guest of the man. Just pillow his pillow with your perfume (preferably it was good quality and the smell is preserved for a long time). And before you leave his house, say: “Every night when you will fall asleep, you will think about me.
From that moment on, the man, putting his head on the pillow, will inhale the smell of your perfume and remember you and your moments together.
It doesn’t have to be a pillow. You can perfume with your perfume any thing that the man uses often (preferably every day). It can be a diary, a notebook, a book. (The main thing is not to spray it on his clothes, the scent of women’s perfume on his clothes a man will not survive).
3. Taking care and helping.
Actions by the man: To take care of you and your safety, to help, to show signs of attention.
How to implement: provoke action man can be used with a legend.
Tell your man that another guy is giving you a hard time. Let him play the role of your boyfriend, so that the intrusive guy sees and gets away. Let the man walk you home, for example. Also, for the sake of appearances, give him a kiss. And so, step by step the man begins to invest, which is exactly what we need.
4. A declaration of love
This is probably one of the most important things a man should do.
The man’s action: a declaration of love (even if just for the sake of playing, fake).
How to implement: a quality legend that will make the man say that he loves you.
Information about the legend on the confession of feelings contained in the article: How to get a man to run after you (opens in a new tab)
5. Thinking about how to make you fall in love
A man’s actions: his brain is thinking about what ways to get you.
You already remember that falling in love is the concentration of a person’s thoughts on you. You have to make it so that in his head there are thoughts of how to get you. And then he will begin to fixate on you, in other words, to concentrate.
The way of realization
Simply ask the man a question:
“How do you think you could get me to fall in love with you? What would you have to do to make me fall in love?”
And then let him share his options with you. And add: – This will work! And this won’t!
With questions like these, we trigger thought viruses in a man’s head that paint the right pictures in his imagination. And his brain sets the goal: “I have to make her fall in love with me,” and begins to focus on solving it.
P.s. You can also come up with your own options that will make a man think about how to get you. Every practical tip I’ve written above you can rework to suit you. My goal was to convey the meaning and basic principles of techniques for falling in love.
Important! If you want to get a complete and systematic structure on falling in love with a man – you can buy my book “How to fall in love with a man? This book contains only working and practical recommendations that have been tested by real experience. You can buy the book here (opens in a new tab)
Now you know the answer to the question, “How to manipulate a man to fall in love up to his ears?” We also broke down the topic of falling in love and found out that falling in love is a man’s focus on you. Now all you have to do is use the practical advice in real life and see how effective it is.
In conclusion I want to say that the main mistake of most people in communicating with the opposite sex is to think within standard templates. Like if you like a man, then I have (should) do something for him, and then he will appreciate. But if you want to fall in love with a man, then you should not do something for him, but he for you. This is the basic law of seduction!
Make men invest in you (not only financially, but also in their thoughts, actions, deeds, etc.) and then they will love you.
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How to easily and simply fall in love with a guy: cope with anything
When you love much – you want reciprocity! For a man to dream that his eyes shone with happiness at the sight of you, to think about you, waking up in the morning and falling asleep in the evening.
reciprocal feelings – what could be better. How to get them in the short term? Of course, members of the stronger sex are all different and prefer different things, but there are some things more or less in common.
Read on to find out what those points are, but apply with caution: feelings and relationships are too individual to just pick up a manual. It’s a creative process that you’ll have to delve into.
Long eye contact.
A simple psychological trick: look at him carefully: in his eyes, on his face, so he can see the interest. Do not forget to blink (not on purpose, but in general), otherwise it looks strange.
Feeling sincere interest, the man often wants to make a greater impression and “falls” because he feels that he is a hero, a knight (as in a good old movie).
Open body language
“I’m deeply interested in you, please continue, you’re so smart and interesting, I feel good with you.” Open body language is when you show interest through gestures, facial expressions, body position in space.
It’s simple: do not keep your legs and arms crossed, turn to him with your body, knees, toes of shoes, slightly incline your head sideways, do not cross your arms on your chest, do not interlock your fingers in a lock, use rounded (not angular) gestures.
By the way, the technique doesn’t just work in relationships. By using open body language, you seem more attractive in friendly interactions, business interactions, and work interactions as well. 98% of people prefer to be interested in them.
Listen, and do it carefully. It will help. Nod, smile, ask questions on the subject, express emotional empathy – you probably already know this 98% of the time, just now you know it also helps him fall in love.
And make him laugh. It’s scientifically proven that people who we laugh a lot around begin to experience increased affection and sympathy. It works at the level of hormones.
Roughly speaking: when a person laughs, the brain produces hormones of joy and satisfaction. And if he laughs next to someone else, he remembers: aha, this is the person we feel good with, we need to be with him more often and closer.
Plus, by laughing at his jokes, you raise his self-esteem, which is + to the bottom line.
Give him a reason to admire you. If men do it all the time, why not do you? If you’re a great cook – treat him to a fancy meal. Great dancer – invite him to watch. You’re good at something – show it off.
An important point: it’s not a competition. It’s “You’re awesome – I’m awesome, too, and together we’re awesome, aren’t we awesome?” If he starts competing with you – stop it right away and let him know it wasn’t part of the plan.
It is the way of the society that “girls and boys” spend most of their time apart, especially in childhood and adolescence (the former play with the former, the latter with the latter), and only during puberty do they start to get in touch.
This contributes to gender stereotypes: “female logic”, “they are only interested in makeup and shopping” and other nonsense. And girls, striving to be perfect, sometimes support these stereotypes.
So here’s the thing: you do not need to do this. Show him all facets of his personality, interests, hobbies, worldview, opinions on various problems.
If he has been surrounded all his life only striving to be perfect and therefore support gender stereotypes, a bright personality is sure to impress.
Agree, it’s a win-win. You wouldn’t likely fall for a guy you caught lying to you either, would you? So why should he? No. So show that you can be trusted. Don’t lie, if he told you something in confidence, keep it.
At the same time, be honest with yourself. Don’t try to playfully change yourself to please someone, trying to please them. The truth will sooner or later reveal itself, and then there will be no one to blame.
Do not be afraid to show that you are smart and interesting person. Keep the conversation. If he is interested in something – try to listen with all possible attention, to understand, to penetrate, it will be pleasant for him to apply the role of a mentor.
If you are talking about something that is interesting to both of you, don’t be shy to express your opinion, to show your knowledge. “Men are afraid of smart women” is a long outdated stereotype; if his masculinity detracts from your intelligence – why would you want one?
Absolutely everyone, regardless of gender, adores admiration. The catfishermen are especially addicted to it. It’s not a special psychology of the conqueror, it’s just that it’s not customary for guys to compliment them.
And they experience the same torment of insecurity, low self-esteem, as the girls. The only compliment, said many years ago, is perceived for a very long time (mostly, but there are exceptions).
Take advantage of it! Let him be a hero next to you, a Superman, a beautiful knight. Do not hide the admiring gleam in his eyes, smile when you see him, openly say compliments.
It’s important to do it sincerely. Say:
- Thank you for… (describe actions), I really appreciate it.
- I love it so much when you…
- You are very… (several positive characteristics), I noticed it when you… (describe actions where he showed it).
- This shirt suits you so well, you are very… (masculine, elegant, charming – as the case may be).
- You always make me laugh.
- I’m safe around you.
And compliments about appearance work great as well!
Signify interest, and then let him take the next step on his own. Do not write too often, pick up the phone right away, as soon as he calls – all these manifestations of dependence.
And it’s frustrating, it makes you think that you’re hooked and there’s nowhere to go. Plus – it is bad in general: fruitless waiting exhausts, nerves. The “sea” is full of other “fish” (so, just in case).
The second stage.
Do not force it.
Common mistake of women: always strive for certainty, when usually on the other hand “we’re just having a good time, why do you complicate everything. Does that “song” sound familiar?
If you care about certainty, that’s fine, but not at the beginning. It can be discouraging. Let things go your way, and then we’ll see. Do not even really begin to meet him to talk about the future of children.
Agree, you will not lose your head from someone who is constantly whining, crying. Optimistic, cheerful people with a sense of humor, next to whom the mood improves, attracts attention.
This does not mean that you have to necessarily hide your worries, pretend that everything is fine, if it is not. You – a living person, you have the right to be upset, angry, not to be a shining fairy 24 hours a day. That’s fine.
Just being cheerful, optimistic, with a sense of humor, learning to get back to normal quickly after an upset – it will make you more attractive in the eyes of those around you and the one and only.
Two mistakes that girls occasionally make.
First: become a mommy, surround a man with the care that usually surround young sons. Make an appointment at the doctor, to collect the bag at work, to fix his tie, wash his socks.
The second: not to take the initiative at all, believing that he has to do everything, and she plays the role of a valuable prize. Constantly expect surprises and “surprise”, just taking everything on a platter.
In the first case, the man quickly goofed up, in the second – will think “but why do I need such a tsatsa.
Do not surround him with suffocating care, the division of duties has a place, you are a woman, not a robot for cleaning. He should be in the first place interesting, fun, happy.
Let gestures of care be infrequent, but sincere, gentle, memorable.
Pleasant little things
It’s romantic, it keeps him from forgetting about you, hints that you’re thinking about him and he’s important. Send a cute text message, stick a sticker on his monitor, tell him you missed him at the end of the day. The niceties…
Accentuate the similarities.
If you have hobbies in common – great, just tell him a couple of times: “I’m so glad it brings us together and we can spend time together. If you don’t have any hobbies in common, look into his, see if you like something.
You don’t have to force yourself to do something you don’t like. Just try it. Like it – great, do not like it – you can always find another unifying activity.
Shared hobbies unite: you kind of experience different adventures, spend a lot of time together, get closer. And if you tell him directly – he will appreciate it even more.
Trying to please, many “silly” turn into the perfect princess. But in a long-term relationship, a man learns that you can cry, get angry, you’re not always perfect, a living person with your own feelings and moments of weakness, after all.
And if the relationship is a deep one that lasts longer than a couple of months, he has to accept that and try to help in moments of weakness. Just like you help when he feels bad.
Don’t be afraid to show emotion. Cry on his shoulder, complain about life, let him feel like a knight protecting a beautiful lady, a stone wall behind which he is not afraid.
It feels good. It’s also a good test of his reaction to you in a broken, vulnerable state. Discoveries can be pleasant, and sometimes very unpleasant (in the second case, you should think about the necessity of the relationship).
By becoming attached, people often fall out of their social lives for six months or more and get caught up in each other. This is normal, a manifestation of the hormones: when you “parish”, it is difficult to notice anyone but him alone.
But it’s still worth it. Continue to spend time with friends, do not give him all your free minutes, allocate time to career, hobbies, self-development, from time to time to relax in pleasant solitude.
Why do we need to do this? For 3 reasons.
- Just in case. It’s worth paying attention to things that are guaranteed to stay with you even if he leaves – that is, yourself, self-development, nice little pleasures, relaxation, career.
- It will emphasize that you are an interesting person, whose life does not end in a relationship alone. It will show you as an interesting, deep person.
- It will show that you are independent. And this often stimulates feelings of jealousy, the desire to conquer, the fear that you might be lost if he doesn’t try hard enough.
You know, the unpleasant feeling when he says, “You should lose a few pounds…”, “Maybe you should dress more feminine? Like Seryozha’s wife”, “Stop doing nonsense” (referring to your hobbies)?
Discovery of the XXI century: men are uncomfortable too. So there is no need to try to change it. Anyway, it will not work, and attempts to change will be met with a harsh rebuff, rejection.
You may think that the change you want is logical. Or will make him better.
For example, he doesn’t care about his health, even though a nutritionist has prescribed a strict diet and exercise routine. But – this is an adult who has the right to make his own decisions.
It’s okay to discuss the issue calmly, but no more… No more – you have to, etc.
Initially, this is especially important at the start of a relationship: be the beautiful vision, the dream girl who always looks like the beauty and fashion gods just did her makeup and hair. Be a celebration for him, a beautiful vision, a seductive image.
If you are already living together, don’t take it to the point of absurdity, a smart man understands that you don’t wake up with perfect makeup and that you occasionally grow hair on your body, and that’s okay. Nice pajamas, nice breath and body odor, and always clean hair is enough.
Make nice surprises.
Why should only men have romantic dates! How about a candlelit dinner? Or an erotic massage with scented oil? Or have a treasure hunt quest? Try it!
You’re probably pleased when he does something like this – so do it back, it’s sure to be memorable. A nice bonus: it is very likely that the “answer” is not long in coming!
Be on his side.
This is important in any close relationship: friendships, romances, or even parent-child relationships. When you’re together, you’re on his side in external conflicts.
If the man quarrels with someone (the boss, relatives, friends) – take his side without even thinking. Feeling the backing of such support, he will instinctively penetrate the feelings, unequivocally positive.
Make him jealous.
The classic way to provoke feelings is to make him jealous. You should not resort to this technique often, after all, it is manipulation, but if your relationship is in one place – jealousy will help.
Don’t be jealous.
Girls usually perceive jealousy as a cute fear of loss, but men perceive it as an attempt to control. Therefore, jealousy will most likely be perceived negatively by him, and you will demonstrate your dependence.
Remember that jealousy essentially won’t do anything. If he wants to change – will change, will leave, will leave, regardless of whether you were jealous, and to show aggression to a rival is just not nice: she may not be aware that he is busy at all.
The 8 main criteria for charm in a girl:
- Always dressed appropriately for the occasion (before intimacy – provocatively, on a hike – in warm clothes and comfortable shoes, to the theater – in a dress);
- Open, natural, is not shy about their hobbies, opinions;
- Laughs a lot, smiling, optimistic;
- Independent, she has many friends and interests;
- Not afraid of unusual situations, with such you can go hiking, and to the theater, and drink port on the roof.
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