How do you know if you’re being lied to?

How to know if you are being lied to

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Being able to read a person’s facial expression and determine if they are telling the truth can come in handy and keep you out of trouble. Such a skill can help you know whether to trust a charming stranger you recently met on the street and whether to go on a date with him. Juries often use these lie-recognition techniques in trials, and they are also known to police and judges, which makes their job easier. In order to master the art of lie detection, you need to know something about body language and the meaning of facial expressions – usually people don’t pay attention to such little things. All you need to do is read our article and practice using your newfound knowledge.

  • Usually, if a person is lying, his face will express anxiety – raised up the inner ends of the eyebrows, forming wrinkles on the forehead.

Another well-known sign of a liar is touching the tip of the nose or covering the mouth with the hand. People who lie very often touch their hand to their nose when doing so. This is most likely due to an increase in adrenaline levels in the blood – particularly in the capillaries located at the tip of the nose. This is why there is an itching sensation on the nose. [1] X Source of Information [2] X Source of Information A person who lies is likely to hold their hands as close to their mouth as possible – as if trying to cover their mouth and stop telling an untruth. If a person’s lips are visibly tense or pressed together, it means they are tense and anxious. [3] X Source of Information

  • Watch the eye lids. When a person is lying, or if he disagrees with what he is saying, he closes his eyes for a longer period of time . But for this you need to know how this person blinks in a normal situation, for comparison. If a person’s hands or fingers try to rub or close their eyes, this is another sign of lying, an attempt to “block out” the truth.
  • One should not judge the truthfulness of what a person says merely by the movement of his eyes. Recent studies have shown that eye movements may also be due to other factors. Therefore, such signs are ambiguous. [4] X Source of information [5] X Source of information Many scientists claim that the eyes cannot unambiguously determine whether a person is telling the truth or not.

  • Studies show that some liars make eye contact too often, almost without breaking eye contact. Therefore, investigators usually take prolonged eye contact with a suspect as a sign that he is trying to hide something. When a person avoids eye contact with you, it means they are anxious or puzzled.

Watch your interlocutor’s voice. If he suddenly begins to speak faster or slower than usual, or if the timbre of his voice suddenly rises, it could mean that he is not telling the truth. Stuttering, mumbling, and stuttering are also hallmarks of a liar. [6] X Source of Information

Watch the amount of detail in the conversation. If a person tells you too much and mentions a large amount of detail, such as: “My mother lives in France. It’s very beautiful there, isn’t it? Do you like the Eiffel Tower? It’s very clean and wonderful there!” – this could mean that he is desperately trying to get you to believe the truth of what he is saying.

  • If the person answers right after you ask the question, he may be lying. He may have thought out his answer beforehand and was just waiting for you to ask the question.
  • Another sign of a liar is omitting important facts and events. For example: “I left for work at 7 a.m., and when I came back at 5 p.m., he was already dead.” In this case, the person does not talk about what he did between 7 a.m. and 5 p.m. This could mean that he is lying or trying to hide something.

  • The person who tells the truth will respond to the accusations with explanations and lots of detail. The liar will only repeat what he has already said and insist on his own.
  • Watch for a delay in answering your questions. An honest answer usually follows immediately after the question-if the person remembers well what happened. The more the person lies – the harder it is for him to keep track of what he says, so he ponders each answer for fear of giving himself away and saying something that contradicts his previous answers. When people look away and look away, it may mean trying to remember events that have happened.

  • Repetition of the same words when answering a question.
  • Avoiding or trying to delay an answer – for example, asking people to repeat a question. Other methods of evading a quick answer – such as when a person says that it’s a great question, or that it’s not easy to answer, that it all depends on what exactly is meant, etc.
  • Liars often avoid abbreviations and emphasize negative particles. For example: “I did NOT do that.” This is an attempt to convince the person that he/she is right or wrong.
  • Incoherent speech, sentences that make no sense, and incomplete phrases are signs of a liar.
  • Using humor or sarcasm to avoid giving a straight answer.
  • The use of “honestly,” “if straightforward,” “not to lie,” “to be accurate,” etc. can be a sign of deception.
  • Responding too quickly or answering a question with exact repetition of sentence structure. For example, the question, “Didn’t you wash the dishes very thoroughly?”, the answer is, “No, I didn’t wash the dishes very thoroughly.”

Repetition of sentences already said earlier. If the person keeps answering with the same words and repeating sentences that have already been said, he or she is probably lying. When a person comes up with a lie, he usually remembers it as a specific expression or a well-crafted sentence or statement. If you ask him about the same thing several times, he will keep repeating the same thing.

  • Liars know that people like compliments. If your “suspect” in an “interrogation” suddenly starts complimenting you, it can’t help but arouse suspicion. A person rarely compliments you just out of the goodness of his heart.

The next sign is perspiration. When people lie, they sweat much more than usual. [7] X Source of information During a lie detector test, for example, sweating is measured. [8] X Source of Information Although sweating by itself does not mean that the person is lying. Some people just sweat more than others. Sweating can also be a sign that a person is nervous or shy. Sweating is usually considered an indicator of whether a person is telling the truth when it is seen in combination with other factors – shivering, blushing, and frequent swallowing.

  • For example, when a person says that he has washed all the dishes diligently and constantly nods his head as if agreeing with his own words, it may mean that he has not washed the dishes very conscientiously. Usually this sign is found in all liars-except those specially trained to lie.
  • Doubt or hesitation before an answer is also a characteristic of liars. A person who tells the truth usually nods before or while giving an answer. When a person is trying to lie, they will hesitate to answer and nod with a delay, as if after a short reflection.

When people are fidgeting, twitching, or twirling various objects in their hands, it means they are nervous or afraid. Liars often twirl objects in their hands or fidget with their handkerchief, and fidget all the time.

  • Reversing the body backward. When a person is telling the truth and has nothing to hide, he leans forward to the person he is talking to. If the person is lying and hiding something, they lean backward, away from the person they are talking to. Leaning back can also mean a lack of interest or dislike for the person you are talking to.
  • When people tell each other the truth, they usually subconsciously mimic some of the actions of the person they are talking to- tilting their head at the same angle or assuming a similar posture. A person who lies is unlikely to behave in the same way. He will not imitate the movements of his interlocutor, even the opposite – he will do the opposite, tilt his head in a different direction and move differently.

Watch your interlocutor’s throat. If he is constantly swallowing or coughing, he is probably lying. When a person lies, his body produces more adrenaline than usual. So at first, when the person is trying to lie, the glands start to produce more saliva, causing him to swallow often, and then, when all is said and done, the saliva production suddenly decreases dramatically, causing him to cough. His mouth becomes dry (he can burst into a cough). The liar puts his body under great stress, his heart rate increases, and his lungs need more air.

Check the person’s breathing. The liar tends to breathe faster, taking a series of short breaths and exhales, followed by one deep breath. The mouth may appear dry . Again, this is because they are under stress, which makes the heart beat faster and the lungs need more air.

  • Liars often do not make any hand gestures. They don’t point their finger, try not to open their palms, etc.
  • Liars often hold on to something with their hands-the edge of a chair, a table, or some object. Often they squeeze their hands so hard that their knuckles turn white.
  • Liars often rub their hair, fix their clothes, or rub the hem of their dress. [9] X Source of Information
  • Remember the following:
    • Liars often hunch over on purpose to look casual and relaxed. They may yawn or look around the room as if to express their boredom. If a person acts at ease, it is no guarantee that he is telling the truth.
    • It is important to remember that all of these signs may be indicators of nervousness and agitation, rather than deception.

    Be careful. Falsehood and deception are not difficult to detect, but it is also easy to make the mistake of seeing deception where there is none. A huge number of different factors can influence a person’s behavior and the manifestation of all of the signs mentioned above. For example, most of these signs can be not only an indicator of deception, but also signs of shyness, nervousness, shame, insecurity. A person who is in a stressful situation may behave strangely and look like a liar and cheater, even if he or she is not. Therefore, in such situations, it is important to observe the person for a long time and monitor their behavior for numerous signs that they are lying, because having one or two such signs is not enough to identify a liar. [10] X Source of information Joe Navarro and John R Schafer, Detecting Deception , FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin, July 2001

    • Is a person under stress not caused by this particular situation?
    • Perhaps a person’s behavior is influenced by factors such as the traditions and culture of their people?
    • Are you personally prejudiced against this person? Perhaps you expect or want him to lie? Be careful with your feelings!
    • Does this person have experience? Could he be a skilled liar?
    • Does the person have a reason, a motive for telling untruths?
    • Are you good at looking for signs of deception? Do you only think the person is lying? Be objective about yourself and your abilities.

    Try not to thicken the clouds. Let him feel the normal, non-hostile attitude – then he will relax and behave naturally. Never show the person that you suspect him of lying. If he does not suspect anything, it will create a more favorable situation for you to look for signs of deception.

    Determine what is normal behavior for this person. Observe how he behaves when he is not lying. This will help you spot signs of unnatural behavior if the person suddenly begins to lie. Ask him a few general questions and watch his reaction. Ask questions that you already know the answers to.

    Often people who are trying to deceive you will tell true stories, deviating from the topic of conversation in order to avoid answering the question you posed directly. For example, if a person answers the question, “Have you ever hit your wife?” with “I love my wife, why would I hit her?” – it means that he is trying to avoid answering the question directly. He may be telling the truth without answering the question posed. It means he is trying to hide something.

    • Ask the person to tell what happened backwards – starting with the most recent event and in reverse chronological order. This is very difficult to do, even for a professional, experienced liar.

    Look at the liar with disbelief. If he is lying, he will be uncomfortable. If he’s telling the truth, he’ll get angry or upset (pressed lips, lowered eyebrows, lowered stare).

    • Liars try to determine whether you believe them or not. If you remain impartial and don’t give away your thoughts, they will start to worry.
    • If you know how to listen, you won’t interrupt your interlocutor by letting him finish his story completely. This will help identify inconsistencies in what he is telling you.

    Check everything the interviewee tells you. If you can, check all the facts and details he mentions. Talk to possible witnesses, if any.

    Effective methods of how to spot a lie.

    Often when you are talking to another person you cannot tell if he is telling the truth or lying. And you do not want to be deceived by your interlocutor. So is it possible to determine whether a person is telling the truth or outright lying to you? Are there any methods?

    Of course, there are methods how to distinguish lies from the truth. And you don’t have to be a professional psychologist to quickly enough see a liar and almost unmistakably determine falsity of his messages and arguments.

    We just need to carefully observe the behavior of the person, analyze what he says, fix the obvious dissonance between his words and gestures. You need to trust your eyes more than your ears.

    How can you tell from the outward signs of a person that he is lying?

    Identifying lying is easy and simple, by observing facial expressions, listening to the voice and the spoken words, and paying special attention to the gestures and postures used by the person lying to you. Here are some examples.

    One person is trying to appear to you as extremely honest, the opponent of all lies. Therefore constantly repeats: “an honest word”, “believe me”, “I swear to you”, “this is the absolute truth”. He does not believe himself and tries to convince himself.

    The other, in order not to lie, will try by all means to evade the topic under discussion, the direct questions asked. To this end, he will convince you that he is not aware of what is being discussed. Or he simply has no desire to talk about it.

    Sometimes the liar switches to outright rudeness, can begin to be rude, rude not to talk about what you have to lie about. In such cases it can come to shouting, scandal and even physical abuse.

    Remember that an honest man on the contrary will try to tell you everything in detail, to defend his position, to explain the circumstances of the case in detail. In some cases he may just deliberately mislead, but not lie.

    Often you have to lie in the name of your own salvation or to protect a loved one. This is the so-called “lie for good. It probably happened to each of us at home in the family and at work with colleagues.

    Professional psychologists recommend to carefully observe the eye movements of your interlocutor, his facial expressions, gestures and body movements in order to recognize the lie. Moreover, in each person, all this is strictly individual.

    Some people try to close their bodies, others start scratching their noses, others look around. As you know, very much about a person can say his eyes. A liar will try not to look you directly in the eyes, he will divert his eyes to the side, running with his eyes.

    If you ask him a specific question, he unexpectedly starts to get lost, to stammer, to blush, because the false legend, as a rule, is not thought through to the end and you have to think it up on the fly.

    A person who lies feels emotionally uncomfortable, his behavior is unnatural, he may be too active or too passive. If you know your interlocutor well, you can easily determine that he is lying.

    How can you tell a lie from your eyes?

    1) Psychologists have long noticed that a person who lies usually looks away to the left and then down. This is his way of trying to find the right words or imagery to tell a lie.

    If you have noticed such behavior in your interlocutor, there is reason to believe that he or she is not being sincere with you. But it is not yet an established fact that he is outright lying to you. You need to continue to monitor his behavior.

    2) If the person looks up during a conversation, this means that he is trying to extract and describe images from his visual or visual memory. If he turns his head to the right or left side, it means he is working with auditory or auditory memory.

    If your interlocutor puts his head down, it means he wants to concentrate and carefully control everything he says. Watch him carefully, it is at this point that he may begin to make up and voice a lie.

    3) It is important to record the first reaction of the interlocutor to the question he is asked. If he begins to roll his eyes up and to the right or drops them down and to the left, it means that he is panickingly trying to come up with some sort of acceptable lie.

    Remember that a professional liar, i.e. a person who lies constantly, is skilled in this business and also has good acting skills, is very difficult to catch in a lie through the eyes.

    4) If you have repeatedly encountered the fact that a particular person lies to you, try to remember how he behaves. This will help you to catch him in a lie in the future.

    You should remember his whole behavior strategy: how his eyes “run”, what phrases he says, in what direction he looks, how he behaves in general. This information in the future will help you not to become a victim of a liar.

    How to detect lying in a conversation?

    Everyone knows how to deceive. It starts with a child’s tendency to fantasize, and adults over the course of life just get used to lying to each other, even about little things. Some do it without thinking twice.

    However, the deceived party suffers from unreliable information, receives psychological trauma: parents deceive their children, and children of parents, spouses lie to each other, and friends mercilessly misinform their best friends.

    The story you make up as you go along is just as easily forgotten. If you ask a liar a second time about the same subject, he will come up with a completely or partially different version. And you will realize that you have been blatantly deceived.

    Sometimes a constant lie turns into a real pathology. In psychology there is a concept of pathological liar. This disease destroys the consciousness of the patient, he himself ceases to understand where is the truth and where is a lie.

    Let’s understand what a lie is, and when it can become a problem not only for those around you, but also for the liar himself, and turn into a pathology that is difficult to cure? A lie is untruthful information that is expressed by one person to another.

    Modern psychology distinguishes three types of people who are prone to lie.

    1) A person who wants to look in society always smarter than everyone else. He likes to take an active part in a variety of discussions, proving to his interlocutors that he has a good classical education and great life experience.

    To identify his lies, it is enough to ask a couple of simple clarifying questions on the topic under discussion. The lying person will immediately try to answer the specifying questions in general phrases, and it will become clear that he is deceiving.

    2) A person who lies for ulterior motives is prone to make a host of different, sometimes simply inappropriate, compliments. In this way he wants to lull his interlocutor’s guard and get his own self-serving benefits from him.

    This is how crooks of all stripes work, deceiving gullible and suggestible citizens. This is a swindler in the style of Sergei Mavrodi. Only your own life experience and intelligence can help here.

    3) There are people who have the ability to deceive from birth. They lie “for the soul,” perceiving the lie as art. They usually have good acting skills and can fool anyone.

    Often there is no defense against them. Such a liar will put on a show in front of you, he will take your money, and you will like it. In the act, for a minute he believes what he is saying. They are liars, in the style of Ostap Bender.

    4) Pathological liars deceive both people and themselves. They make up their own lives (a test pilot, a confidant of the President, the son of the Prosecutor General) and believe in their own fiction. In reality such liars, as a rule, have low social status.

    If you demand from a pathological liar proof of his words, he immediately tells a beautiful story about how he was forgotten or mixed up in the maternity hospital, deliberately deprived of status or simply burned documents on the orders of the Kremlin.

    How do you recognize a lie?

    Psychologists have developed a number of methods that should be used to understand whether a person is telling you the truth or simply lying. These methods do not provide a hundred percent guarantee, but they certainly provide serious help.

    First method: Detecting lies by their response

    If the person after the question sounded completely or partially repeats it or keeps silent for a few minutes, it means that he is thinking about the correct answer in order not to harm himself or other people.

    Such behavior indicates that he is insincere with you and most often ends up answering falsely. A truthful person will not hesitate to give you all the information they have on your question.

    The second method: Identify lies by the absence of an answer

    If in response to a question your interlocutor tells a joke or otherwise diverts the conversation, this means that he does not want to share with you, he has something to hide. According to the rules of etiquette you should appreciate his wit and laugh.

    If you continue to insist on getting an answer, you could be called a bore. This is such a well-known tactic not to lie, but also not to tell the truth, often used by liars in society.

    The third method: detect lying by behavior

    Instead of an answer, you get a nervous reaction from your interlocutor. He starts coughing, scratching, can dramatically change the pace of his speech, etc. This indicates that he is psychologically preparing to lie to you.

    You should be careful with such a person, because you can really become a victim of deception. Although such behavior is not typical for a professional liar, because he has long been accustomed to lie and has from this his own benefit.

    The fourth method: to detect lying through gestures.

    Sometimes the interlocutor during the conversation starts to automatically make specific gestures (scratching the back of his head, touching his face, etc.). This indicates that he is subconsciously trying to distance himself from you.

    Sometimes he is backing away from the interlocutor, shifting from foot to foot, trying to distance himself from you. This means that at a subconscious level he understands that now he will have to tell an untruth. And it is unpleasant for him.

    Carefully study the behavior of your family and friends at the time when you think they are lying. This will help you not to spoil your relationship with them, but simply know when they have told an untruth and protect yourself against it in a timely manner.

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