Words, actions and phrases that give away that those around you hate you
Passive-aggressive words and remarks are encountered by many people. Sometimes it is better to realize that those around you have a negative attitude and try to provoke negative emotions, covering up this intention with very harmless actions and words.
The rejection by others is usually expressed in a passive-aggressive form in which people demonstrate their displeasure with negative remarks and actions. A person who hates you will not declare it openly, his anger is expressed in a passive way, through certain words, actions and phrases, of which we are now going to tell you.
Words and phrases that indicate hatred
1. “Okay,” “whatever.” Avoiding a direct answer with these words is a classic of the genre. Thus the person, instead of saying what it is that displeases him, demonstrates his anger in indirect ways.
2. “I thought you knew.” With this phrase the person expresses his antipathy by withholding important information for you. Often such actions are practiced by petty manipulators who love to weave intrigues.
3. “For a person at your level, you are very successful. Such a phrase falls into the category of second-rate compliments. It’s like pointing out to a grown woman her age, saying, “Don’t worry, they can get married after 50. More often than not, such remarks involve internal problems. The person refers to age, gender, education, standard of living. This is a ploy used by those who deliberately want to offend, hurt, and humiliate you.
4. “I’d love to help, but. “. Meet the motto of passive-aggressive people. These personalities smile in their faces, but behind their backs they make intrigues. And the more actively you ask them for something, the more new reasons for refusal will appear.
5. “You want something unrealistic.” At the moment when the contrived reasons for refusal stop working, the person finds another option – to shift the blame on someone else, usually on the one who asked them for something. The employee exceeded their authority – blame it on their superiors, who demand something impossible for such a pittance.
6. “I was just kidding.” Sarcasm is probably the best way to secretly show your hatred. You can say something very hurtful and then immediately backpedal, “It’s just a joke, you’re too touchy.”
Acts of others that give away hatred
1. You are being denied help. If you have begun to notice that people around you constantly refuse to help you, it may indicate that they secretly hate you. People who are open-minded will offer their help before they ask for it. But if you notice that all your requests go unanswered, it is a sign that those around you do not want to communicate with you.
2. You are avoided. Avoidance can be different ways, but the result is always the same: people are trying at all costs to minimize communication with you. They may refer to the busyness, illness, difficulties, and anything else they want to avoid contact with you.
3. They don’t trust you. If people don’t want to keep the conversation going, they probably just don’t trust you. This can be seen both in person and in correspondence: a person who is hostile will often respond briefly and dryly. If you try to get him to talk, he tries to end it quickly. Also suggestive should be cases when people around you talk to each other, but stop talking when you appear.
4. You are being sabotaged. The most unambiguous way in which people show their hatred is indifference. They may prevaricate, ignore a greeting or message, reschedule meetings.
5. Gestures. People around you may hide their aggression, but their body language will give it away. People whom you annoy often avoid eye contact, cross their arms when talking, get nervous, and try to keep their distance from you.
Recognize the hidden hatred is very difficult. Because at first sight the aggressive person doesn’t do anything that can give it away: he doesn’t shout, doesn’t beat, doesn’t humiliate, behaves politely and friendly. But his words and actions contradict each other. If you began to notice something wrong, do not ignore your intuition and these veiled signs of hatred. It is possible that those around you really can not stand the spirit. On how to fix the situation and make people like you, read this article. Good luck,
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How to tell if someone hates you
Contributor(s): Cher Gopman. Cher Gopman is the founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a New York-based dating coaching company. NYC Wingwoman matches couples, helps them meet, provides one-on-one coaching services, and organizes weekend intensive classes. Cher is a certified personality coach and former psychiatric nurse. Her work has been featured in Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1 and The New York Post.
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In some cases, when a person has a persistent dislike for you, they make it clear, but often society forces them to hide their feelings. Hate is a complicated emotion, and very often people will not hate you specifically, but rather your actions. The following tips can help you determine if a person hates you and give you advice on how to act accordingly.
- Looking up and to the right is a sign of boredom.
- Pupils dilate (get bigger) when a person is interested, and usually shrink when they get bored.  X Source of Information
- If a person avoids looking you in the eye, they are probably hiding something from you, don’t trust you, or are afraid of you.  X Source of information
- Tension and stiffness, especially around the shoulders
- Boredom and disinterestedness;
- nervousness or excessive emotionality;
- The person responds too quickly or, conversely, is slow to respond.  X Reliable Source HelpGuide Go to Source
- Signs that indicate the person is lying or trying to mislead you. Look for any signs that he or she is trying to hide emotions, as people often get agitated when they lie and try to hide it.  X Reliable source American Psychological Association Go to source
- Notice how this person communicates with you compared to how he communicates with other people.
- Assess how he acts when you talk about something he needs to pay attention to (for example, work issues, if it is your colleague) and when you try to talk about distracted topics.
- Pay attention to how the person behaves when you have something he needs, and how he behaves the rest of the time. For example, if you are doing well in school, does he talk nicely to you if he needs your help, but the rest of the time he acts rude? In that case, he probably doesn’t like you.
- Look at how he acts in different situations. If someone hates you, chances are he will treat you the same most of the time, unless something comes up that makes him pretend to like you. If he behaves differently in every situation, however, there may be some other factor influencing him and his behavior has nothing to do with how he treats you.
- Is this person generally quiet and shy?
- Do you hold some position or own something that this person would like to have and that might make him or her jealous?
- Do you sometimes behave in an intrusive and demanding way? Could he or she be afraid of you or your reaction?
- Anything that relates to joint projects at work;
- Information that would clearly help you do your job or become happier;
- messages asking him to give you something.
Don’t take everything personally. Observe the person to see if they are being rude or indifferent to everyone they talk to. You may not be the problem, and it is his usual behavior.
Assess his behavior in general. If you’ve only seen him once or if he doesn’t usually act like he doesn’t like you, it’s probably a small thing. Everyone has bad days that make us rude and moody. To see if someone hates you, you have to pay attention to their behavior in the long run, not focus on one or two isolated instances.
Don’t confuse levity with hatred. This is especially true for people who don’t know you very well, and may not see that their actions and words hurt you very much. Some people have great difficulty recognizing social cues, and they may not understand your negative reaction to their behavior. Also, many people’s words sometimes outpace their thoughts, causing them to often say things they later regret. If you notice that a person says hurtful things to many people, it is likely that they have behavioral difficulties, and their actions are not related to hatred of you specifically.
Pay attention to the sources of the rumors. If you hear from the other person that someone hates you, consider how reliable the information is. Ask why he or she thinks you are hated, and determine how valid that reason is. If this person is known for gossiping and sowing discord, perhaps with their words they want to provoke your excitement or are trying to make it easier for someone else.