How do you know if your man loves you for real?
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The expert – Margarita Lopukhova
Family psychologist. For eight years I save the “family unit” from collapse. I help couples regain love and understanding.
There is no instruction manual on “How to behave as a loving man. You can’t buy a pamphlet, read it, and immediately become a master at deciphering the feelings of a man in love. Despite the herd principle, every man shows himself differently in such moments. Although some generalizing features can still be noted. About them we will talk.
Influence factors
This question should be approached, perhaps, from the psychological point of view. Love itself is a very complicated thing. Many people do not even know how to explain this feeling, and what it is expressed in. Sometimes it happens that people do not even suspect that they are already in love. There is no way to understand and recognize how a man in love behaves.
But, on the whole, the behavior of a man is influenced by many factors. If we talk about the behavior of a man in love, then there and then the devil himself can’t understand. After all, it depends, first of all, on:
- the upbringing and character of the man;
- the environment;
- IQ level;
- social status and much more.
For example, if a man is an introvert, then he certainly can not expect a fiery odes in his honor, a million scarlet roses under the door or serenades under the window at 3 am. Or take a phlegmatic, this will not smash everything during a passion or a showdown on jealousy.
You can also compare a guy in love or a married neighbor. The first in love appears as a romantic who can shout his love to the whole world. The second, on the contrary, will either suffer in silence or hint modestly at his feelings for fear of publicity.
But again, there are still some general signs of a man in love, by which a psychologist or just an attentive person can understand about the true feelings that overwhelm the personality.
The ABCs of love
So, if we talk about the signs of the behavior of a man in love, then it should be immediately understood about what kind of man we are talking. Speaking about the 16-years-old boy, we can safely say that here, in principle, there is not a hint of love yet. Because it’s sure to be drooling, sniveling, and fidgeting about everything in the girl’s life. He is still undecided about himself, so jealousy, demands, whims will accompany the couple in everything.
If we are talking about an adult and adequate man, his behavior will consist of many details.
Care and attention
A loving man, if he is not a complete egoist, is sure to show care for his beloved. He is the one who worries about you when you are sick. He will not stop late to find the only 24-hour pharmacy in town and buy you medicine.
This is the one who will certainly fix the faucet, take out the trash, put a plaid on it, bring you tea or give you a foot massage. Such a guy will remember that your mom has mice in the house and will buy arsenic. However, you should be careful, because if your mother is not an angel in the flesh, then the arsenic may not be intended for mice. In general, no matter how you spin it, but all his efforts will be devoted to you, his beloved woman.
The same can be said for attention. When he is in love, he is interested in everything connected with you. Your childhood, youth and student years. Hobbies and hobbies, preferences in cooking, love of travel – all this he will be interested in all the time.
As one of the characters in the TV series “Treason” said: “When you love a man, you know his number by heart. That’s how it really is. When he loves you, he knows everything about you. The date of your dog’s birthday, the code word for the mailbox, the contents of the refrigerator, and the brand of toothpaste.
Only a real man in love will watch Titanic with you for the hundredth time and wipe your tears when Jack disappears into the ocean abyss and scold Rose for taking up the whole door. Only a man in love will remember that your cat is neutered today and needs to be pampered with goodies, and you, too, by the way. Although who knows, maybe he’s not in love, but just sympathizing with the cat in a manly way.
All these signs of attention and care can be shown by a man who deeply and faithfully loves you. Look closely, analyze and you will understand everything. Perhaps now you come to the value of your chosen man.
Self-sacrifice and optimism
A man in love often sacrifices something for the sake of his object of admiration. He may cancel a meeting with friends in the pub to go to the village to his lover’s grandmother to weed radishes. He may not go to a business meeting if his girlfriend urgently needs to go shopping.
Particularly accurate to say that a man in love, if suddenly in a strained relationship with his parents, he takes your side, supporting you and protect their relationship.
A man in love won’t split expenses in half, ordering himself a lobster from Norway in a restaurant and you a Caesar salad. Or saying that he does not have money to buy you a new purse, although yesterday he bought new tires for his Mustang.
An important signal of love in the heart of men is his optimistic mood in all things related to you. In his state of love he sees only good features in you. A woman’s selfishness he will take as a zest, and bitchiness, as a nice pest. If she throws an iron at his head, he will only laugh, calling her his crazy sweetheart.
In addition, a man who loves will never miss a moment to please his soulmate with pleasant little things. Such will not forget to put in his purse a couple of thousand for small expenses. Will leave a cute little note or chocolate on the pillow. Flowers will be given without reason, just because.
However, do not think that if he no longer does these things, it means that love has passed. No, it is just that over time, any confetti-bouquet period ends, and it is replaced by everyday life. But even in everyday life his love will definitely manifest itself, if it has a place in his heart. Only it will be manifested not in gifts from brand stores, but in helping at home, in the upbringing of children, in relation to parents, etc.
Loyalty and honor
It is very important to note how a loving man behaves toward other women. Undoubtedly, such guys are faithful to their mates. If he really loves, he will never think of being infatuated with someone else. As long as there is love, the object of desire, dreams and fantasies will be only you. With all the other girls, no matter how good they are, he will behave just like a friend or acquaintance.
So if you know that he loves you, do not torment him with jealousy. He definitely does not see anyone else but you. But don’t give him any reason to be. Despite his pure love for you, no one abolished the sense of ownership, and if he wake up primitive instincts, you can get a hammer on the head.
By the way, you can find out about his love, if you notice such a thing. In quarrels and scandals, he behaves more than adequately, and then always comes to make up first. Only a man in love can swallow his pride and go to the reconciliation first. That you can manipulate you, he will not even think. Just try not to abuse his trust and honesty. All patience comes to an end.
And how to understand whether a man loves or uses, read more at the link in our next article.
Circle of trust
A man in love trusts his woman completely. He entrusts her with his deepest secrets, confident that she will never betray him. If he is a thief, he may even take her with him on a case, on the condition that she will be safe.
He also listens very carefully to his woman. Even if he’s not at all interested and doesn’t need to know what kind of husband the neighbor has, he will still be your most perfect listener.
His desire to make his girlfriend happy will justify any of her faults.
- Killed a man – probably tired, or he sassed her.
- Didn’t clean the house– probably got a headache.
- Burned down the office, she must have lit a cigarette.
- Dropped a nuclear bomb on the U.S. – didn’t get a green card, etc.
A loving man will find an approach to the hearts of his precious mother-in-law and five Caucasian brothers. To please them, he will do any errands and requests. In turn, to his acquaintances and relatives, he will certainly present her as the one, the only one, in his life.
Pages on social networks will be filled with your joint photos, which necessarily will be signed with cute nicknames borrowed from our smaller brothers.
And of course dreams for the future. They will have you everywhere, in his new home, the mother of his children and old age together.
But these are all signs of the behavior of a man in love. And here is how to behave in love man on a subconscious level, will help you to know the non-verbal signs.
The ABC of gestures.
A woman is lucky if she is a professional psychologist or therapist, for example. Then it will not be difficult for her to notice some signals that are unconsciously issued by a man who is in love with her.
Eye to eye
Look closely at his eyes. If he’s not a drug addict, coffee addict, or psycho, his enlarged pupils can be a clear indicator of his love and lust for you. Or he looks directly into your eyes, and you notice that the look becomes warm, this is love.
A smile makes everyone feel better.
Pay attention to the way he smiles at you or in response to your words. With a sincere smile, you will be able to see all the wrinkles on his face and in the corners of his eyes. His laughter will be able to convince you of his sincere feelings if it is not strained or ostentatious.
Hands, feet, head
A man clearly has deep feelings if next to you all the time he tries to touch you, to hug you, to kiss you, to stroke your head, to press against you, etc.
Pay attention how he speaks to others. If the tone of his voice when addressing you softens, becomes gentle and affectionate, he feels something big and real for you.
And probably the main indicator of a man’s body is his penis. They want it all quite prosaic. If it’s worth it, he wants it, if he wants it, there is sympathy and feelings, if he doesn’t want it, goodbye!
Love by Status
All of the above applied to men free of any obligation. But what if you suspect your boss or a married neighbor that they have feelings for you. Then here are a couple of behavioral signs to help you expose them and, if necessary, put them in their place.
The boss in love.
As a rule, the bosses of large firms are either already married, or if they show interest in female employees, only for the purpose of intimacy. However, it is not difficult to notice. In such cases the boss constantly hints at the evening check of the documents in his office, promises to send him to the Maldives on a paid vacation and in general all sorts of golden mountains.
If he is really in love, then the actions will be different, such as:
- help you get any benefits, give you permission to take a vacation, a day off, or leave work early;
- Will give you a job that will help you move up the career ladder faster;
- You will receive sincere praise and well-deserved encouragement for good work.
He will not compromise you in front of all colleagues, giving you flowers during working hours or closing the blinds when you will be in his office. Therefore, if you notice that the behavior of the boss has changed in relation to you, be sure to start analyzing his actions, so that later, if anything, have time to sue him for sexual harassment.
Married man in love
Sometimes it happens that, all of a sudden, a married neighbor or friend starts behaving strangely. So, in order not to look silly, learn to recognize how a man in love behaves if he is married.
- First: he begins to frequently mention the quarrels with his wife, complaining about the problems in the family and showing aggression toward his wife.
- Second: despite the fact that he has to go out, he constantly finds excuses to stay with you longer and not go home. Or he tries to spend all his free time not with his family, but with you.
- And thirdly: he begins to be interested in everything that is related to you. Hobbies and hobbies, for example. He tries to help you around the house or other duties. And of course, he always has time for you. True, his feelings, of course, he does not make public.
But still keep in mind that all of these signs can not apply to every person. There will always be unicums who completely refute any theory or statistic.
And not to be confused with narcissism and to recognize a narcissistic male egoist, you can read in our article further on the link.
How do you find out how he feels without asking directly?
How do you know if a guy loves you? Millions of girls ask themselves this question every day even at the beginning of a relationship. Today I will tell you how to find out how a guy feels without asking directly.
Signs of whether a guy loves you
Why is it important for every woman to know about a man’s feelings? It’s simple: it is done in order to understand whether a relationship with him is worth the effort on her part. After all, if a young man is not interested in you at all, it is easier to find another.
How does a man behave if he really loves? Here’s a checklist of signs you can tell if a woman is interested in a guy:
- He’s interested in your life outside of work, university, or school.
- He offers to help if he sees that you can’t do it on your own.
- He tries to spend as much of his free time as possible with you.
- He is not stingy with compliments on your appearance and skills.
- He seeks physical contact: he hugs you, touches your hand or other body part, kisses you.
- He gives gifts and is generous with courtship.
- He is proud of you and often talks about you in enthusiastic epithets.
- He wants to introduce you to his family and friends.
Do you want to be 100% sure that this man cares about you? Then I suggest taking one of the tests on “How to find out if a guy loves you” in addition. The survey “Who are you for a man” will allow you to identify strengths and weaknesses in dealing with the opposite sex, to work on the shortcomings.
How do you know if a guy really loves you if only a few signs above coincide? I advise to look closely at his further behavior and developments. Maybe you’re still at the beginning of a relationship when it’s too early to meet each other’s parents or hint at intimacy.
Increase your chances of sympathy from men can be if you follow the advice from my article “What kind of girls men want. In it I talk about the qualities of women who fall in love with all the guys.
What to do if he loves you?
You have understood and figured out if a guy loves you. How to act next? Let him know that the feeling is mutual, if you too are in love. This does not mean that you have to immediately drag a man to the registry office or jump into bed with him.
What to do to make the feelings more vivid? Show easy interest! Yes, men do not like easily available, but the snow queens eventually get tired of winning. Keep him interested in his person. Be different, surprise your admirer and build your own life so that it had a place for everything. Believe me, winning your attention will be a fascinating quest.
He’s in love, and you’ve cooled down.
Some girls after a couple of meetings with an admirer, they realize that he is not suitable for them. And a man by that time had already fallen in love! How to tactfully tell him that it will not work? Use my authoring technique PDA: Compliment – program – compliment.
Say for example: “You are such a persistent and passionate man. And I am a girl who is ready to develop a relationship with a man with whom I am truly in love. I’m sure you will definitely meet the woman of your dreams today.” A man after such a rejection will not feel rejected and will not hold a grudge against you.
If he is indifferent and you are in love
You wanted to know if he loved me, but it turned out he did not? In the column “Perfect Relationship for Love” I advise: do not run after this man, even if he’s so damn charming and you like it. Once you find out that a woman “pines for him,” the guy will start taking advantage of you. And when he gets what he needs, he will disappear from your life.
In the course “Secrets of Women’s Happiness” I help girls find their value. You’re the one men will chase, not the other way around. And if you’ve already convinced yourself that a guy is in love and want to strengthen your feelings, then come to Basic Women’s Course #1.
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