How do you act when you are ignored?

How to behave with a man who ignores you?

Girls, I am ignored by a close friend. There was no quarrel, we talked about it. But she continues, no response to messages, calls, can be rude. I am very hurt, because I love her very much. Please advise me how to behave? I don’t want to humiliate and run, and I can’t ignore her in response. How to properly live this situation? How to behave with her? Thank you very much for the advice

How can you also ignore her if she ignores you?

We need to find out why she ignores you. Maybe something happened to her. If not, I would also ignore her and add her to blacklist. Let her keep quiet, I don’t need her like that.

I went up to one she ignores me, I gave up on her and went to the other to make advances and so went until they reciprocated. It has been two months since I met her and I got tired of her, I think I’m going to dump her and glue a new one together.

She needs her privacy. You, the author, too much. Do not write or call her. When she comes to her senses she will write to you. Communicate as usual. But if she gets quiet, don’t pester her with your attention.

I’m just like your friend and I understand her. You can endlessly communicate well, be a good person, but sometimes this attention from you becomes too much. You, the author, don’t realize it, and that’s okay. Don’t look for fault in yourself. And don’t look for fault in your friend. This is just her way of releasing her energy field. Some people need it. Time will pass, she will communicate again as before. Don’t try to figure out the reasons for this behavior and change her, you won’t change anything. I once ignored my friend like that for 2 months)). The reason? It became too much of this person in my personal space. I was mentally tired of her. And with the help of ignoring, I was resting. Moreover, we went to university together, saw each other every day, but I did not look at her, pretended that she did not exist. My friend took my cockroaches and calmly waited for me to write first. And I was grateful to her for understanding and for not blowing my brains out. We are so friends for 8 years)

Stranger’s soul – darkness. Only she knows why she does not want to communicate with you, do not engage in speculation. Only yourself wind up and you’ll be looking for all his guilt. There may be an argument that you would never think of. Relationships between close people in a quarrel are always stressful. That’s what you work with. Go to the gym. Or on courses in drawing, you can even just on youtube lessons for free. Or start jogging. Or for fun, register on a dating site. In some sites you can not even look for a guy, but just a friend to go to the movies. In general, distract yourself, get out of the house as much as possible. Find your own anti-stress. Your girlfriend if she comes to her senses, she will contact you. And if she doesn’t, well, that’s her problem. People in a healthy relationship talk about what’s upsetting or bothering them, not block and shut up. I give you permission to even be mad at her, you have every right to be, because until the cause is figured out, you are the victim in this situation and you are the one being slighted.

Start being friends with someone else.

What scares me is the fact that the person is ignoring you and you keep texting him.

What scares me is the fact that the person is ignoring you and you keep texting him.

Because she seems obsessive. I had a friend like that. She seemed nice, kind, but she was too much. It was enough for me to make one call a week, and for her, three times a day. Calling, calling, calling. I politely refuse, and she told me, “Why are you sitting at home? And she got to me. I disappeared. And it feels so good.

Because she seems obsessive. I had a friend like that. She seemed nice, kind, but she was too much. It was enough for me to make one call a week, and for her, three times a day. Calling, calling, calling. I politely refuse, and she told me, “Why are you sitting at home? And she got to me. I disappeared. And it feels so good.

You disappear from your friends’ lives so easily? Is it okay that they treat you from the heart, they love you, they want to communicate with you? Just think a little bit about your friend) I think it’s a little selfish. Wanted to communicate – to communicate, did not want to – disappear. Knowing that the person is waiting for you, always forgive and accept. I am in the role of the friend, which is ignored then not. Believe me, it is very frustrating and painful. And always the feeling that you did something wrong, that you are not worthy of friendship. It breaks you. Please don’t just think of yourself. If the person is to you with all his heart, does not do mischief and is always ready to come to your aid. He is happy for you as a child. Or does it make you happy in some way? That you can do what you want and you will not be anything, no one will be offended.

Interact with another friend, where there is a mutual interest in communication.

With this theme in the interest only you have, she has no.2 × 2 = 4 You will not make nice by force. What is your interest in such a cling?

You disappear from your friends’ lives so easily? Is it okay that they treat you from the heart, they love you, they want to communicate with you? Just think a little bit about your friend) I think it’s a little selfish. Wanted to communicate – to communicate, did not want to – disappear. Knowing that the person is waiting for you, always forgive and accept. I am in the role of the friend, which is ignored then not. Believe me, it is very frustrating and painful. And always the feeling that you did something wrong, that you are not worthy of friendship. It breaks you. Please don’t just think of yourself. If the person is to you with all his heart, does not do mischief and is always ready to come to your aid. He is happy for you as a child. Or does it make you happy in some way? That you can do what you want and you will not be anything, no one will be offended.

You’re so stubbornly intrusive. Remember, you can’t make nice by force.

And don’t complain about people and reproach them with your interest and your goodness. It’s time to grow up. Man does not have to cross his reluctance to communicate with you, it is clear that he has his reasons (key word) for that. Stop imposing. Or you are on a desert island where there is only this “friend” who has no desire to communicate with you?

Any communication, friendship, relationships are based only on reciprocity, on mutual interest, on mutual desire to communicate. No reciprocity, all deflated, no shame, no pressure on the conscience of how beautiful you are, sincere, etc. Communicate with those who have mutual interest in you and only. There will be friendship, and reciprocity.

How do you respond to being ignored?

In response to ignoring, we have a very difficult experience. Ignoring us feels like rejection, like “I’m not needed, not important,” like “the other doesn’t care. Of course, this is very painful. The human need for acceptance, for recognition, for belonging to family, collective, group, homeland, etc., comes after the basic needs of life for food, water, sleep and security. Each of us needs to feel valued, loved, respected and accepted. When we are ignored, it is as if we are deprived of all that. This is very hard for anyone.

HOW DO I REACT TO BEING IGNORED?

  • Before you react, you need to realize: What is happening to you in response? How do you feel? (Possible feelings: anger, fear, guilt, resentment, sadness, loneliness, etc.)
  • Live those feelings: Allow yourself to feel them. Where do they live in your body? (place, shape, color, size). Express them through your body: move as your body wants you to. That way you release excessive tension, the intensity of feeling will decrease, and you’ll be able to reason sensibly.

    Ask yourself: What action prompts you to do this feeling for your benefit?

And consider the following points:

– How you react depends on the person next to you and what kind of relationship you have.

– If the relationship is safe and supportive, ignoring it just won’t be there. You and your partner can talk directly if something is wrong, because you know you will want to be heard and understood.

– But if there is no sense of safety or trust in the relationship, then ignoring is possible.

– You have to figure out the response to what, i.e., what was going on before.

FIRST OPTION If you were criticizing, attacking, trying to get through in this way, and he/she shut up, turned away, walked away. You saw it as him not caring, that he didn’t care about you, that is, as ignoring you. And that makes it even harder for you.

But behind this ignoring, there may be a desire to keep the peace, a desire to protect you from the difficult emotions that have arisen in response to your criticism. Your loved one may have felt like a failure, not conforming to your expectations. And to cope with the experience, and not to hurt you more, they shut down and withdrew into themselves.

SECOND OPTION This could be a manifestation of emotional abuse. In this case, you are being punished with your indifference and guilt. And most likely, you can’t understand the reason why. After all, there was nothing wrong before. If you ask what happened, you get the answer, “I’m fine, what are you making up!” But the coldness and indifference on his part won’t go away.

In the first case, first take a pause, deal with your feelings (you read about it at the beginning). Then when you see that your partner has “come back from the isolation,” you can say sincerely what you are experiencing.

For example: “Your silence and leaving makes me very upset. It seems to me that you don’t care. Please tell me what happened, I’m worried and I want to understand you.” Your partner may be reassured by these words. He may feel that he is important to you and will tell you what the problem is. That’s the best case scenario.

Or he’ll get defensive: “You’re always picking on me, what else can I do but close up and not listen to you! This means that it really hurts him to hear your nagging. You know that your criticism is the only way you’re trying to get through to him. And he perceives it as his own failure. And there is still a chance to understand each other on your own or with the help of an EFT therapist. (EFT is Emotionally Focused Therapy).

Here, I think the best way to do it is to “ignore ignoring.” That is, as if you don’t notice his (or her) coldness. Communicate as if nothing had happened, without noticing the frown on his or her face. Ask what you need, if there is no answer, move on, go about your business. He/she will start communicating on his/her own as if nothing had happened. And since the manipulation is not successful, it will happen faster than if you were trying to get through to him (her). His or her normal state will return…but not for long. Then he/she will be cold and unavailable again. It is an exhausting and consuming relationship, without warmth or love. Do you want to continue it.

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