Jealousy – 24 Books
I have included books and articles that describe the characteristics of jealousy and ways to cope with it. Some are devoted to the topic in their entirety while others talk about jealousy in passing. I have included here what I have read or plan to read.
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According to Paul Bourget, jealousy – this is the hardest of feelings, which poisons even the memories of past happiness, as it makes it doubt, even the hope for the future, as it shows and in them the possibility of deception. This affliction has haunted people at all times and will continue to torment always. The reason is the inherent selfishness of people. It is difficult for them to give up what they possess or even once possessed. Bourget identifies three types of jealousy: sensual jealousy, jealousy of the heart, and jealousy of the head. But these are all a mixture of hatred for the object one loves and jealousy. Unfortunately, the author does not give a prescription for this affliction for the simple reason that there is none. But this does not deprive his psychological sketch of depth. We offer you to be convinced of it!
According to Paul Bourget, jealousy is the heaviest of feelings, which poisons even the memories of past happiness, as it makes it doubt, even the hopes for the future,…
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Fleury sees passion not as a character trait but as a “bad brain habit,” a “disease” that is treatable. It is a hope for all people! And the most effective cure for this disease, which many consider “incurable,” is work (and work according to a precise schedule) and a certain idea, which the doctor must make the patient put into practice.
Fleury sees passion not as a character trait, but as a “bad habit of brain activity,” a “disease” that is treatable. It is a hope for all people! И…
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Jealousy is one of the strongest, most destructive and painful emotions. Jealousy is an unpleasant painful feeling connected with the fear of losing an object. Jealousy can be felt towards any opponent – whether man, woman, child or animal. Jealousy is largely a childlike feeling and is always associated with rivalry. Jealousy can take on a painful hue if it is not caused by real reasons, but by imaginary ones. Jealousy is rarely tenacious, it can not be eradicated and is very difficult to curb. But to try to tame it – it is within the power of each of us. Published by M. Friedman. The Psychology of Jealousy. Translation from the German by Dr. Maria Kobylinskaya. Moscow. 1908. M. Friedman’s research is still relevant today. The book provides many examples of jealousy and an analysis of these situations. It is intended for scholars, students, psychologists and all those who are interested in issues related to the manifestation of jealousy.
Jealousy is one of the most powerful, destructive and painful emotions. Jealousy is an unpleasant painful feeling associated with the fear of losing an object. Jealousy can be…
6 books to help you cope with psychological problems
If you do not have time to go to psychologists, but you have problems, this selection is for you: we have compiled a list of six books that will tell you how to stop being afraid of public opinion, cope with jealousy, excessive wastefulness and other difficulties.
“Rescue or Rescue? How to get rid of the urge to constantly patronize others and start thinking about yourself.”
A valuable book for those who are in a co-dependent relationship but don’t realize it, or don’t have the strength to break up with “toxic” friends and partners. Melody Beatty knows exactly what she’s talking about: the author herself went through a similar experience – she lived with an alcoholic husband for a long time, which drove her to neurosis and depression. Not only by her own example, but also by the examples of acquaintances and friends, she tells how to understand that your relationship is unhealthy and how to get out of it with the least damage to yourself. Beatty skillfully persuades readers that the first thing to save is yourself, not the person who won’t solve their own problems. The book is good, but not without flaws: analyzing the causes of co-dependent relationships (and ways to deal with them) in the second half of the text, Beatty too often appeals to religion, which does not paint the psychology edition.
“Jealousy. How to live with it and save your relationship.”
Anyone who experiences jealousy (or who is in a relationship with a jealous person) knows how difficult it is. Robert Leahy, a professional psychotherapist, has written a book that will be a good guide for such people. The text is laid out in accessible language and divided into small chapters, which makes it easy to read. Leahy talks not only about where jealousy comes from, why we need it, and how it evolves through the different stages of a relationship, but also about how to deal with it. Or at least keep the feeling in check. Among the many different tips there are some very original ones that are definitely worth trying out. For example, to get rid of obsessive jealous thoughts, he suggests setting aside a specific time for jealousy: Agree with yourself that the relationship you think about 19:00 sharp, spending half an hour on this. And every thought that doesn’t come at the right time, you put off until then.
“A Year Without Shopping.”
Even before Marie Kondo and her teachings on getting your home (and mind) in order became popular, Kate Flanders was world famous for her self-initiated one-year shopping spree – she only went shopping for the essentials. She writes about her experience of struggling with shopaholism and manic love of consumption in detail in the book, along the way giving practical advice and making witty jokes. “A Year Without Shopping” is a competent guide for those who have decided to deal with their own wastefulness as well as the habit of drowning out trouble with a shopping trip. The book is all the more relevant because the anti-consumption trend is evident today.
Do you also fight fatigue at work with coffee and a bar of chocolate? If so, it should come as no surprise that with today’s pace of life, you experience constant fatigue. Soher Rockend, a spokesperson for the UK’s National Health Service, has written a book on how to cope with apathy and perpetual lack of energy. Dryly and without too much water, she explains what can contribute to fatigue–not only your job and stress, but also improper nutrition–and how to deal with it. For people who have been immersed in the topic of healthy living for a long time, many of her tips will seem familiar, but for neophytes the book will be a real revelation. There are no empty recommendations to “live more meaningfully” and unnecessary musings about “inner energy of the spirit,” but there are useful tips for normalizing one’s health.
Most people feel like they are special. Which is generally normal. However, this has some not-so-pleasant consequences. For example, if you’re so different, you have unique problems, and you have to deal with them alone. And that’s not easy at all. Meg Jay, an experienced psychotherapist, cites in her book the stories of many people with whom she has worked. They suffered from various childhood traumas, professional burnout, neurosis and many other disorders. In this way she wanted to let readers know that in fact their problems are not as “unique” as they seem, which means that difficulties can be dealt with — other people’s experiences in this case would be a good help.
“Courage to dislike.”
Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
What happens if you mix the teachings of Freud and Adler and spice them up a little with Jung? You get the book “The Courage to Dislike” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. The authors chose a rather unexpected format for their text: they structured it in the form of a dialogue between a teacher and a student, borrowing this technique from ancient Greek philosophers. The result is an entertaining book that helps you look at the world with a more optimistic view and get rid of several neuroses in parallel. True, it won’t suit everyone: some people may simply find The Courage to Dislike infuriating with controversial theses along the lines of “unhappiness is your own choice.” For example, one of the chapters is simply called “Trauma doesn’t exist.” In general, people with a strong character will benefit the most from the book.